Posted by jen (38.196.89.2) on August 26, 1999 at 12:32:50:
In Reply to: Back again!!!!! posted by Steve on August 26, 1999 at 05:50:46:
Hi guys,
David, just wanted you to know that I printed out your response to Steve's post to show Bryan; "mind games" are one of his principle ways of dealing with CH and I think what you said has some valuable tips for him. Also, Steve in addition to what David said, Bryan has been observing lately that he seems to be able to use ANGER for good against his CH--I mentioned in an earlier post that when we were on vacation he started to feel a headache coming on while we were biking. It turned into a bad one, but he was so pissed that it happened in the middle of our day. He tried to concentrate his anger AT the HA, instead of himself or me, etc. He did it again in line for a roller coaster, and just yesterday, when he was having trouble with his bank account. He was talking to the teller when he felt a HA coming on; he took his anger at the lady behind the counter and turned it on the HA...don't know but he commented to me that it felt like he more control over it than usual. I'm not advocating walking around being pissed off all the time (anger, especially repressed anger is known to lead to depression, ulcers, etc.) But if you get pissed at a HA, then you're not REpressing, you're EXpressing, and you're getting pissed at something that deserves it. With Bryan I think that anything that gives him even a little more sense of control helps. (He's chronic, BTW.) Sorry, this is longer than I meant it to be!
Prayers,
Jen