Posted by Margi (161.184.81.207) on March 27, 2001 at 16:56:31:
In Reply to: Happy 10th Anniversary - Are you sorry you married me? posted by susieQ on March 27, 2001 at 16:43:17:
It may seem strange for me to answer this post, but I live the other side of the coin, Susie.
My husband is an episodic sufferer and I knew this before I married him. I, too, was going to "save" him. I don't know if this will help you any, but from the supporter's side of things, we KNOW you are not asking for this pain. We KNOW it's not 'in your head'. We NEVER try to make you feel guilty for your pain. But we know you do anyways. And we feel guilty because you feel guilty. It's a vicious, never-ending circle, isn't it? We want to capture and destroy that pain for you. But we can't. We can only try to understand and comfort you. It does get hard sometimes, but who said life was ever going to be easy? Easy would be boring.
So, if your hubby is anything like the typical cluster supporter out here, I'm sure he's not sorry he married you. Please stop feeling so guilty, ok? You WILL get your life back. Stick around and absorb all you can here. Always try new things in your fight against the beast.
Please feel free to email me anytime if you need a shoulder.
Oh, and Happy Anniversary!
Hugs
Margi