Posted by Jackie M. on February 05, 1999 at 15:54:52:
In Reply to: Stoically Stupid posted by Jack Boyd on February 05, 1999 at 12:43:38:
Dear Jack,
I'm afraid you have offended the wrong poster. You have directed your post to Barbara when she did not deserve your wrath. (I do apologize to Barbara). May I ask that in deference to the others here, we please try not to use language like "stupid" and that we try to communicate with civility and respect? Am I wrong to believe that this is a place where those of us that suffer and do not receive understanding in the "non-cyber" world can come to share and offer support? And does this mean that we can not offer different suggestions and opinions without fear of verbal reprisal? I'm perplexed as to the impetus of your offense to my post. I simply offered another take on pain tolerance, as it seemed you had implied nationality with regard to the subject. Also in your original post, was the suggestion of pain tolerance being an accomplishment as though we have control over it. You wrote<> I was simply using a medical finding which explains one of the many physiological factors determining pain tolerance.
I feel that we must be very careful here not to make the cluster victim take blame for his or her pain. Therefore when I read someone take credit for enduring the pain without tears, hysteria or visits to the hospital, it's as though that person is somehow claming a control that others lack. I'm very happy for you, that you are able to endure. You are very fortunate. There are others here not so fortunate through no fault or control of their own. Please let's not heave guilt upon the pain so many here already endure. This is the only message I was trying to convey. And if you'd taken notice, I replied to your post beginning with the words, "with all due respect." I wish that you would afford me the same and try not to use words like "stupid."
I would have preferred to convey this to you privately, but there was no email link provided.
Jackie M.