Posted by annemarie (212.238.33.13) on August 02, 2000 at 05:59:57:
In Reply to: Loving a man in pain posted by tear on August 01, 2000 at 22:40:10:
I understand your feelings so very well, though I am the one with the cluster headaches. With my partner it is not pain, it is a physical handicap that takes away large chunks of socalled normal living. Of course he copes. Of course I cope. But there are times I get so mad when I can't help him.
And there are times when, like you, I think why is it always me, carrying all of the world on my shoulders, and when will there be time for me?
I know, but I think you know too, that those feelings will go away again.
The only important thing is to convey that you are there for him, that whatever happens to him you won't go away. That you won't let those stupid headaches break up your relationship.
If he visits this board regularly, he is able to partake of our growing knowledge of relief procedures. Stimulate him to seek out new ways.
But I think you already know that.
I know what you go through and you have no need at all to be ashamed or feel guilty. You'r ONLY human...
annemarie