Posted by Margi (207.148.138.172) on October 05, 1999 at 10:46:04:
In Reply to: at the end of my rope posted by Scott on October 05, 1999 at 03:56:32:
I'm truly sorry your wife has reached this point. You've gotten some excellent advice here, especially from Elaine and Carl D.
I've lived with a clusterhead now for 14 years. It's definitely not an easy life when "the Beast" is around. Yes, I get angry to. But I get angry at the Beast, not Mike. Your wife isn't doing this to YOU, Scott. The Beast is doing it to HER. I'm amazed that she CAN hide her pain from you. You must have a really big house. I'm further amazed that you have not recognized that something is wrong. I can tell within seconds when Mike walks in the door if he is about to have an attack. Sometimes even before he can.
I guess we are all different in our responses to seeing someone in pain. Personally, I try to help.
My suggestion to you is to plant yourself in front of this website - read everything you can, push every button on the left side bar here <---. Educate yourself as to what your wife is going through. She must feel that you are not interested or she would have shared her feelings with you.
It's time to GET interested, Scott. Do your homework - your wife needs you more than you can imagine.
Please feel free to email me directly ANYTIME if I can help you at all to understand. Seriously.
Margi Storey
Calgary, Alberta, Canada
moxie_miss@hotmail.com