Posted by Anne Thomas (208.250.108.190) on July 23, 1999 at 15:39:11:
In Reply to: Upset/Angry Supporter, Help! posted by LadyStahr on July 22, 1999 at 22:34:10:
As I sufferer I see your pain, because I have seen in in my husband. I tended to lash out at him and would always be so remorseful when I felt better. Try to talk about your frustrations with him when he is feeling better. I found this so helpful. I have said SORRY ahead of time to my husband, made him understand that my anger was not related to him. It is frustrating to all those who love and try to help us. I can'nt discuss drugs or treatment with my husband in the midst of a headache, it pisses me off and makes me want to choke him. We came up with plans on how he could help ie,,He takes the boys if he is home and I retreat, he brings me cold washcloths without me asking, I found that I feel mad and pathitic if I have to ask for something while I am in pain. Try to involve your daughter in some of this, he needs to be able to talk to her about his HAs when he is'nt having one, perhaps she could become involved in a doctor's appt where the MD could explain some things to her. My niece was your daughter's age a few yrs ago and if Jerilyn sensed I was in pain she would go and get me a cold cloth, it was a real sense of helping for her. When I suffer I often hate everthing about myself, feel pathitic, worthless, and a burden, I often question my abilities to be a good mom, it is amazing what these HA can do.