Posted by Elaine (24.98.172.55) on January 31, 2002 at 20:57:56:
In Reply to: Young mothers with CH and Children... posted by Rachel on January 31, 2002 at 17:03:39:
I had a woman who had clusters tell me she would yell and scream at her kids cause she couldn't take it.
You can't yell at scream at a small child and above all you can't shake or hit them.
A baby can sence that you hurt that something is wrong. Remember they came from your body.
I raised my children with Clusters. When they were babys I was lucky most of my attacks came at night. My first ex husband was not very understanding and he wasn't about to get up with me muchless the kids. If they were with me when I had a cluster I just dealt wih it. I never yelled at my kids I had a playroom with nothing but toys and stuff in there I would send them all in there to play except the younges. But she was a good baby she would just play in the play pen till I got over it.
I have my grand baby now and I have been hit with him. But I just run for my imitrex and for fifteen minutes I try to get him to watch TV or play with some of his toys or give him a cookie and a bottle. Most of the time it works.
When the kids were older I had a box I made a cluster box. We called it the headache box. In it I kept toys, and the only time they could play with those toys was when I had a headache. They would play with them and leave me alone. I only let them play with those when I had a headache so they would not get tired of them. I added toys to it.
When they became old enogh to want to make mom better I gave them things to do to help. Like getting ice, a cup of coffee, any little thing they could do to feel like they were making a difference.
You have to plan before you get hit when you have children. Have everything you need in one place and close at hand so you can fight the demon and get back to the kids faster.
Main thing plan ahead cause the one thing we do know is they will always return.
If you have a friend or husband get their help to.