Posted by Margi (161.184.81.207) on July 30, 2001 at 11:03:57:
In Reply to: Children posted by ShariRae on July 30, 2001 at 10:33:18:
Our friend, Elaine, had four kids to raise while she was getting hit so hard and she kept a box of toys/activities that, when she felt one coming on, she would bring the box out and the kids knew they needed to amuse themselves for a little while. That mom needed to go do battle alone. I think that was a great idea.
Also, tell her that it would help you a lot, if she could bring you a glass of water when you're getting a headache. And then to go do something else and leave you alone for a little while. Maybe have her go draw you a picture, or write you a letter that you can look at later? Just by giving her that little job - the bringing of the water - it will help her to feel useful (even if you don't drink it) and able to do something to help you with your headaches. We supporters need to feel like we are doing something -- anything --to help. Even if it's something as little as this. Trust me on this one.
Best of luck and if your daughter would ever like to write to me, to talk to someone else who has seen this pain, please tell her to feel free to, anytime.
Hugs
Margi