Posted by Claudette Ralls (207.193.103.42) on December 20, 2000 at 02:11:38:
In Reply to: Can't take anymore posted by August on December 19, 2000 at 18:41:58:
August,
I don't know you, but was just reading your post. ONe thing stuck out to me, you felt like shit doing this to her. You didn't do it to her. These headaches happen, and lots of time at the worse possible moment. But you didn't ask for it to happen then, you couldn't control it. Lighten up on yourself.
I just spent christmas with my sons, who are 28 and 30. Before dinner, I had one of the worse ones hit me, and they saw me moaning, and holding my head as I left the room. Not one soul came to ask how I was, if there was something they could do to help me. And that hurt, like to the core of my heart. I certainly didn't want to have a headache then, but we have no control over when they strike us. What I am trying to learn, is to be more understanding to myself when they hit. And if others can't understand, or care enough to try and see if they can help, then they are the ones with a problem.
You sound like a wonderful person, and very caring. And I am sorry you had to go through all this extra garbage on top of a horrible headache.
Be good to yourself, and just know, you aren't choosing to have these. Hopefully someday people that don't understand, and cannot give any empathy, will grow up, and give us the support we need.
I hope you have a happy holiday.