Posted by Karen (205.188.198.22) on June 26, 2000 at 20:36:40:
In Reply to: Karen posted by Aguust on June 26, 2000 at 19:54:42:
Just understand that I wasn't saying you were wrong either. I think it's a personal thing and depends on the relationship between the parent and child also kwim? Not all parents are close with their children, not by my definition anyway. Stephen and I are very much a like in that we are both very emotional and sensitive people. A great traite in many ways but it sure makes it hard to keep emotions in check. I can only keep things in check during a really stressful time for only so long then I HAVE to let it go no matter what.
There probably are kids who would become even more frightened by witnessing their parent getting scared. I don't doubt that for a second. Glad my kids aren't like that. It would be next to impossible for me to *stay strong* when I felt like breaking down.
Just a little story about my wonderful little man. I was 3 days away from giving birth to Danielle. I was SOOOO nasty and moody. I knew I was going to lose it one night so I threw up my hands and went outside and sat on the porch steps and cried, it was snowing. Stephen came out about 5 mins later with a blanket and wrapped it around my shoulders, then he sat down beside me and put his arm around me, he said nothing. We sat that way for about 20 mins, getting snowed on. I picked my head up out of my hands and looked at him and he said only 2 words to me "I understand". He was only 6.5 yrs old. This was only one in many touching moments I have had the pleasure of being on the receiving end of with Steve. I am blessed and proud to be his mother.
Sorry to ramble off like that.