Posted by pinksharkmark (196.3.74.235) on June 04, 2000 at 12:38:43:
In Reply to: girlfriend of CH sufferer posted by ladybug on June 04, 2000 at 11:54:42:
Ladybug, your boyfriend is lucky to have someone like you for a girlfriend, who goes to the trouble of finding, researching, and posting to this site. Any chance of him taking a look at the site too?
All I can tell you is how I handle it with my girlfriend, but I'll bet a lot of others handle it the same.
For me, it is better to be by myself, for several reasons, the most important of which is that my girlfriend loves me dearly, and I know that for her to see me in this kind of agony hurts her tremendously. It's bad enough that I must endure the torture. I don't want to drag her into it, too.
I know it frustrates the hell out of her that there is quite literally nothing she can do to help... she wants to comfort me with soft words, or physical contact, both of which make things worse, for me anyway.
I also do still have some tattered remnants of personal pride... I hate appearing weak and pitiful in front of her... moaning, cursing, rocking back and forth with tears and snot running down my face.
Also, there are certain mental routines that I try to go through while waiting for the pain to ease. Being conscious of her presence makes it more difficult for me to concentrate on these routines.
Your boyfriend may feel completely the opposite about things, though. I suggest you ask him the same question you asked us, and tell him that you need an HONEST answer from him. Assure him that you will not be offended no matter what he answers, that you want to make things as easy as possible for him.
As for Sansert... It seems to work for some, especially if used in conjunction with prednisone. My experiences with it haven't been conclusive. I've been on it for two weeks this time, with no luck so far, but it may kick in soon... I sure hope so.
I hope your boyfriend's cycle ends soon.
hugs
pinky