Posted by Joy on May 04, 1998 at 16:00:41:
In Reply to: Help!!! Husband is going crazy with clusters!!!!!!!! posted by Eva on May 03, 1998 at 21:40:19:
First of all, I'm sorry you're going through this. But don't give up. It would be advisable to put yourself in a safe place when your husband gets violent. Although it's understandable, it's not an excuse to be abusive. It wouldn't be a bad idea for him to get involved in some sort of pain and/or anger management group so he can better control his violence when he's hurting.
As far as the things he's doing -- my GOODNESS, it sounds like he's working from a cluster headache recipie book! Sugar and caffeine can make the headache worse, but nicotine is considered (for many) a trigger for these blasted things. Three to four packs a day? Just cutting out the nicotine may help him notice a HUGE difference. I know, easier said than done, but even if he starts by eliminating just the 3 to 4 tablespoons of sugar in his coffee, he's apt to notice a difference.
As for you, start developing a good support base so you don't feel so isolated. It can be very easy for the spouse of CH sufferers to feel alone, depressed, helpless and otherwise very low. It would be a good idea to find one that won't interpret your husband as a villain, but rather someone in so much pain it's hard to be rational. Those of us who suffer with these and are married know that they aren't just our problem, they afffect the whole family. It's important that you realize your emotional health in all this is important, too.
I'll keep you and yours in my prayers. I know this is a difficult time. Hopefully your husband will soon have a break in the pain where he's rational enough to listen to some things that may help, but by ALL means, get to a doctor so you can get started on your way to healing. Blessings to you and we look forward to hearing good news. :o)