Posted by Susan D (208.199.4.65) on August 18, 1999 at 09:22:41:
In Reply to: FINAL POST!!! posted by Carl D on August 18, 1999 at 02:12:06:
I know I'm fairly new here and I hope this post doesn't upset anyone. I have not been here so I don't know how long everything has been going on but from the recent activity, I'd like to share my opinion.
There is a lot of support on this board and in my opinion parts of the issue with you are just misunderstandings. I think a lot of people have taken your posts as whining because it seems that you feel that your pain is worse than everyone else's here. Well Carl, we've all felt that way. I know I've thought many times in the middle of a CH that no one else goes through this and it's just not possible. By coming to this board, I see it IS definitely possible.
I'm not minimizing your pain, I know how awful it can be. Yours may be the worst CH ever known to man but then again it may not. I think what happens is people need to look at it from your point of view but you also need to look at it from theirs. Nobody wants their pain minimized either and some of your posts do look like you believe yours is the worst and no one else has EVER experienced what you are going through. That is bound to ruffle some feathers.
I hope you don't take this as bashing you. That is certainly not my intention. I'm just trying to tell you my take on the subject. I could be completely off base and if I am, I'm sure someone will tell me and that is just fine. I believe we should all be able to express our opinions without belittling anyone else here. We all KNOW pain and I don't like seeing us inflict more pain upon each other.
In the end Carl, I think you should stay. This will all die down in time and I'm sure there are many people here who will continue to support you. If you feel suicidal, ask for help, if you have a good day, wish everyone else the same. Regardless of the pain we all go through, we need each other to stay strong.
If anyone disagrees with me, please feel free to e-mail me.
Just my humble opinion,
Susan