Posted by Tracy (195.147.228.137) on May 24, 2000 at 10:29:38:
In Reply to: Your post cut like a knife! posted by Elaine on May 24, 2000 at 09:24:14:
are hurt after everything you do for all of us.
I have to admit I stopped posting so often to Carl, because he never seemed to acknowledge what people were doing for him. That hurt me. I'm not saying that he should keep thanking people for what they do for him. But even if he offered a little support to others, it would be nice.
But every time he posts it always seems to end with a "I want" or "I need". Even on the few occasions he's posted to other people, it usually ends up with him telling them how much his life sucks and aren't they lucky not to be him.
He's right, his life DOES suck. But none of ours are a bed of roses either. All people's problems are relative to them.
My Mum's going in for a few tests and Lord knows what they'll find.....they suspect...well, you know about that; Jonny's Mum's just been diagnosed with it and SteveK lost his Mum suddenly two months ago. August has had a brain tumour and a major operation; Elaine has had a LOT of serious illness too (as you all know). Yet we, and you, all pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and start over. ALL of us.
ALL of us need the support of this site. Lord knows I've been one of the one's defending our right to say what we want. But it would be nice to see a post from Carl to someone saying "Im here to help"......and leave it at that.
So Carl, NO ONE'S attacking you - Elaine , and I, just think it's time you helped yourself stand up now. I am NOT critizing Carl. I'm just making a statement of fact. Look back over the past posts of Carl's and you'll see what I mean.
Some of us need sympathy, and some of us (like me the other week) need a swift kick in the butt to get out of the pity pot (thanks Margi!).
I think Carl needs to accept the diagnosis he was given, that he IS clinically depressed. I do think he has a lot to be depressed about. But things are looking up for him now. If he could get some anti-depressants, or herbal ones even, (I swear by St. Johns Wort, it's what I take) I think it would help him even more.
I am not being judgemental, this is just IMHO.
Please dont flame me, I am jut sticking up for Elaine. She is my friend.
Take care and God bless,
Tracy