What kind of question is that?

Loric wrote on Mar 18^th, 2010 at 10:41pm:

Lame posts will get your head handed to ya.

          Potter

(Kidding) 

Well, i'm not new the internet. I'm part of plenty of forums and great at handing people their (think "not head") when appropriate - but that's when discussing frivolous stuff.

People come here for help when they're in pain. Why kick someone when they're down?

Also consider this: There are over 7,300 registered members here. Think cross-section of society.

Last I checked, it's not just the flower people that are stricken with CH.

Part of a message I posted on another site about dealing with uncivil people & messages:

"5. I'd suggest that you work from a position of "intelligent selfishness", that is, don't read or respond to people who you find troublesome or offensive. I suspect that most of us can get the tone of a message from reading a few words. If it's going in the wrong direction, scroll past/delete it. "Selfishness" says, don't read the whole thing and think about a response for this will only arouse distress or some level of internal upset. Responding won't change the other person and your effort will add to your frustration. "Selfishness" says, engage with those who are civil, don't encourage the uncivil by responding to them.

"6. This is not an argument for avoiding differences of fact. An all male group (on the subject of prostate cancer--talk about a subject for passion) I belong to often has intense debates. For the most part, they are based on medical information, informed judgments, and wrestling with evaluations of medical information. Intense, but generally respectful.

"Problems arise when the issue moves from the issue to the person. Folks who personalize, either what others write or what they say in response, will tend to move into interpersonal conflict. The best single way to avoid uncivility is to use discipline is keeping your words/thoughts on the topic, not on the other person's motives, intentions, etc. (A disadvantage of electronic communications is that it allows for impulsive behavior. Self-discipline, or an attitude of civility, would be served by typing the message, then putting into the "drafts" box until you cool down. It's interesting how many of my messages don't make it past this point!)"

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The last step if you can't learn how to handle some people: look for the "ignore" button on the left side of a message. It will block anything that person posts.

WOW!!   

All the "oldtimers" here on the board have dedicated many hours and much more helping people who arrive here in pain and terrified.  They have btdt and I trust their bs meter.

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I'll ask you the same question because quite frankly your question is the pot calling the kettle black.  I'm here everyday and while I do not read every single post, I have not seen the "many" posts from "oldtimers" that are kicking anyone when they are down.  This thread is an insult.  Don't like what you read, skip or click on the big red X on the top right.

Play Nice...

You know the saying.. There is good and bad everywhere you go. I do know there is bad everywhere, just not so sure about the good part.

Coach Bill

I should have read a few of your post first to see if you deserved and unfriendly people then thought i know I didnt years ago when i first came to this site. Just ignore the so called unfriendly people here and embrace the ones that help you , not to mention all the information here that is so life saving . Afterall were all in this together jerks and all.

Loric wrote on Mar 20^th, 2010 at 5:21pm:

If I gotta fuck with you just to get oxygen I win.

                Potter

Potter's advice is spot on 99.5% of the time.

If you're looking to have sunshine blown up your skirt, go here:

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You people really are blind.

Assholes like him do nothing but discourage people from seeking help. There's not good advice being masked by a bad attitude - no one is going to listen to a word he says when approached that way.

I assure you that he's done nothing but reprehensible amounts more harm to people who have come here seeking input rather then guided them into the right direction.

If you can't see that and can't understand the basic psychology of that.. well, there's no helping you. I'd rather actually see people get help then just stand up for some curmudgeon friend so I've got the moral high ground.

Take your pot shots. Lob it at me. Explain away, rationalize, try to say why it's ok to be rotten to people you've never met but you know are having problem and who are trying to cope with terrible circumstances. Try to tell me what justifies actively trying to get people not to post on this forum when a lack a knowledge about CH is distinctly responsible for most of the problems we encounter with the pain. Try to tell me that's ok.

Jerk.