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About Korea (deltadarlin's daughter)
Oct 6th, 2009 at 12:08am
 
First off, thank you to so many of you for supporting me and being proud of me in this endeavor.  Unfortunately, it has been cut short.  I will most likely be heading back to the states in a couple of days. 

It's not culture shock.  I wish it were, because I could deal with that.  It's not though.

The problem is the school. I came here thinking my schedule would be from 2-9 with 10-15 breaks in between each class and an hour break somewhere in there (So six classes a day.) Instead, I've come to have a schedule of 11-12, and 2-6, 7? I'm not sure anymore. It keeps changing. I'm given work books to make lesson plans from, expecting to know how to do EVERYTHING.

Example: Today, I had my adult class. There is no curriculum or text book for this class. I had NO clue what to do. If I was teaching history, sure, I could do it. That lasted from 11-12. I am also not supposed to teach adults, or that's what I understood, since the name of the school is Child U.

I was told to come back at 2. NO ONE was at the school for over 30 minutes. When they did, I got thrust into teaching first, beginners, then advanced, then intermediates. Sounds great and easy, right? No. I got no breaks in between classes. I swear my throat is raw and bleeding right about now. Me and the director (also the other teacher) switch off for thirty minutes with each class, except for the intermediate, which I am "supposedly" supposed to teach for an hour.

Also, even though my contract specifically states I am there to teach the English language, I am expected to teach math, science, and social studies. Okay, I don't mind teaching social studies, but math and science? I can barely do basic math with a calculator. I can't teach that stuff.
The curriculum is horrible for the English. My students noticed three errors within the first FIVE pages of their books. I'm not really sure how I'm going to do this when I have to spend half as much time correcting the books so my students don't get confused.

My director? At first I thought she was great, until I started hearing things like,"She ate this much pizza!" or "She got lost late at night with Dave, I wonder what they were doing." Also, if I go anywhere other than the school, I get the whole,"Where are you going, why are you going there, who are you going with, and when will you be back?"

This weekend was Chuseok. I swear UP and DOWN that she first said I'd go with her in the afternoon, then at 4 AM in the morning, and then that she said I had the afternoon free. I KNOW she said I had the afternoon free. Apparently she didn't mean it because she came by my apartment at 5 and I wasn't here. What happened because of this? I got a new not a very nice person ripped in front of my students.

So, I am sorry for those that I am disappointing by leaving/giving up, but I can't deal with this and stay sane.
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Reply #1 - Oct 6th, 2009 at 12:24am
 
You will disappoint no one for leaving a post that is not what you were lead to believe it was.  I'm proud that you were willing to go outside of your comfort zone and try to reach out.  Don't give up hope.  There is someplace for you to make a difference.  If not there then somewhere else.  You have held up your end of the deal and need not hang your head in defeat. 

I'll be praying the right opportunity comes along for you and you will recognize it.

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Reply #2 - Oct 6th, 2009 at 5:45am
 
So Sorry Sarah Elizabeth your dream adventure turned into a bit of a nightmare, but hey, these things happen.

I think most importantly that you must not let this misadventure put you off from availing of other teaching opportunities in different Countries. It wasn't meant to be and your dream adventure is still out there waiting on you... Wink




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Reply #3 - Oct 6th, 2009 at 7:25am
 
Sarah, knock that $hit off - you are disappointing NO ONE.  You gave this one hell of a go.  You cannot be expected to do things you yourself are not trained to do. 

I mean c'mon, you can't be expected to walk into a foreign country and know everything you are supposed to know right from the get go - especially when you aren't even shown how to get through the basics.

You jumped at an opportunity, and it turned out to not be what you expected.  Ok, time for your next opportunity.  Keep lookin forward kid.

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Reply #4 - Oct 6th, 2009 at 7:45am
 
Sarah - The only one who'll be disappointed is the director - because you didn't fall for the old bait and switch. What you are doing is realizing that to stay and fulfill the terms of a faulty contract would be a waste of time and trip down insanity road.

Come home, regroup, shake it off, and start again. We're behind you.

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Reply #5 - Oct 6th, 2009 at 8:17am
 
Hello Sarah,

I am very sorry to hear of the chaos you're experiencing.  I echo what Brew has told you.  Regroup and move on.

Take care and I hope things go well from here on out!

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Reply #6 - Oct 6th, 2009 at 10:28am
 
Sarah  - there is no shame in getting the heck out of that place.  Much the same thing happened to my niece, but in Australia.

I know you had such high hopes but you've give this your best shot and now it's time to come home and re-group.

Hang in there kiddo.
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Reply #7 - Oct 6th, 2009 at 10:38am
 
Sarah:

Come on home.

Brew said it best.

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Reply #8 - Oct 6th, 2009 at 1:29pm
 
Fuck em.  It's their loss.

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Reply #9 - Oct 7th, 2009 at 6:14am
 
Thank you so much, everyone, because of a part of me is screaming that I'm a failure.

I actually talked to another recruiter and it was great until I said,"I'm not paying the flight back to this school because I haven't gotten paid and I'm not giving 60 days notice."  They violated the bloody contract, so am I.

To add to the insanity, I got ripped a new one for not teaching the adults class "properly", my director REFUSED to give me my diploma until I lied through my teeth.    I got told that I was "damaging the school's reputation" by checking the clock on my phone because there's no clock in the classroom.  I was made to work today despite being sick and having a fever, even though I am supposed to have sick days.  I was told to teach a class where the kid doesn't understand a word of English...without a book...they chose a children's book for a 15 year old kid.

Maybe I will just apply to Teach for America, or say screw it and go into law school so that I can focus on international law and helping people who get in my situation because there HAS to be a way for people to get out of this without running and never being allowed to get back in the country that they ran from.
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Reply #10 - Oct 7th, 2009 at 6:59am
 
You've got the right attitude, girl.

And don't for a second think that because "they violated the bloody contract, so am I." They violated the contract - that makes it null and void from the point they violated it. Therefore you no longer have a contract to violate. Don't miss the distinction.
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Reply #11 - Oct 7th, 2009 at 8:29am
 
From the frying pan into the fire.  Trying to get her out of the country now.  Just got to get the logistics worked out.  Needless to say, mama's not going to make it to work today (frickin' chest pains/stress negate that).  I really don't think I could *think clearly* enough to get where I need to go and then get my job done.  Boss lady already knows and told me to do what I need to do.
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Reply #12 - Oct 7th, 2009 at 10:15am
 
deltadarlin wrote on Oct 7th, 2009 at 8:29am:
Boss lady already knows and told me to do what I need to do.

I have a boss like that, too. They are rare. God love 'em.
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Reply #13 - Oct 7th, 2009 at 10:30am
 
Thank goodness, Jimbo can still get on Yahoo at work.  He talked to Sarah and he's off to the travel agency to get her ticket.  Should have her back home sometime Friday afternoon.

To each and every one of you who has responded to Sarah, you have my heartfelt thanks.  If I weren't so damned tired, I'd pm each one of you personally.
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Reply #14 - Oct 7th, 2009 at 12:38pm
 
Hey Sara,
Just read this...talk about bait & switch!  I'm sorry that you're in this situation, but you should NOT feel like a failure my dear, these people clearly knew what they were doing and don't appear to have the resources for a program like the one they sold you on.

Just know this - whether it's abroad, or here in the States, things like this happen, and when they do, you do what you are doing - MOVE ON!  It's one thing to adapt, and another completely to be taken advantage of and be left with no resources.

I'll be giving your mom a call soon - in the meantime, keep your stance firm, you will be home in no time.  You have something out there better and bigger waiting for you, I'm sure.

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Reply #15 - Oct 7th, 2009 at 12:42pm
 
I just have to agree with everyone.  You have done nothing to be asshamed of.  You have legal rights behind you and you should look for an avenue to sue the bastards.  When you get home, look for someone in foreign law.  If you can't find anyone, let me know.  I was in the legal "business" for 30 years.  I will find someone for you if need be, and happy to do it.  Someone needs to take these people to task.  Let's be that someone and protect other people who only want to help.

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Reply #16 - Oct 7th, 2009 at 2:13pm
 
Ticket is bought, she has the information now.  She will be home tomorrow night about 8:30.  She flies out of Seoul to LA, arrives in LA 9:50 am, leaves there at 12:35, flies to Houston, has a short layover there and then will be home.

Again, I can't thank-you enough for the support you have shown Sarah (and me).  Keep your fingers crossed!

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Reply #17 - Oct 7th, 2009 at 2:39pm
 
Carolyn - when you get that little gal home - please give her a huge hug for me.  I can only imagine your stress levels with all of this.

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Reply #18 - Oct 7th, 2009 at 2:53pm
 
I'm so sorry, Sweetie.  I know you must be terribly disappointed.  What was to be a grand adventure for you has turned out to be a total nightmare.

Keep your chin up, Sarah, and know we love you.

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deltadarlin wrote on Oct 7th, 2009 at 2:13pm:
......She will be home tomorrow night about 8:30. 
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Reply #20 - Oct 7th, 2009 at 3:38pm
 
I think I'm going to take a nap.  I've had enough excitement for one day.  Let's keep the *power of positive* going and get her back on US soil.
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Reply #21 - Oct 7th, 2009 at 3:46pm
 
Sarah Elizabeth wrote on Oct 7th, 2009 at 6:14am:
Thank you so much, everyone, because of a part of me is screaming that I'm a failure.


Sarah, by no means are you a failure... A failure is someone that don't try. Even though you was mislead, you still gave it your all. Come home Sweetie with your head held high..

I have a friend that has been teaching English in   Prague Czech Republic for 3 years... and that's all Ray teaches is English..


Sarah, I wish things had of turned out different for you; as I'm sure you do also.. but it is what it is.

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Reply #22 - Oct 7th, 2009 at 4:17pm
 
deltadarlin wrote on Oct 7th, 2009 at 2:13pm:
Ticket is bought, she has the information now.  She will be home tomorrow night about 8:30.  She flies out of Seoul to LA, arrives in LA 9:50 am, leaves there at 12:35, flies to Houston, has a short layover there and then will be home.

Again, I can't thank-you enough for the support you have shown Sarah (and me).  Keep your fingers crossed!

Carolyn

Based on the flight time and a little bit of 'cipherin' on my part, I think that would mean she leaves just after midnight tonight, CDT. Prayers up for safe journey.
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Reply #23 - Oct 7th, 2009 at 5:44pm
 
Real close Brew, they are 14 hours ahead of us, so she'll be flying out about 3 am CDT.

Nap is not in the equation right how.  Just hoping sleep is tonight.

I just talked to her on Yahoo.  They're leaving, taking the local bus to Cheongju and from there, she'll take the limousine bus to Incheon (I think).  She will send me an e-mail before she boards the plane.
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Reply #24 - Oct 7th, 2009 at 6:23pm
 
I am so sorry this didn't work out. I can't add much else that hasn't been said, just to let you know another person is praying for a safe return.

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