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(Message started by: MR_FLOOR on Jul 2^nd, 2007, 12:48am)

Title: My Wife
Post by MR_FLOOR on Jul 2^nd, 2007, 12:48am

I have never posted on this thread but I would like to say that I don't know what I would do without my wife.She is at my beck and call when I'm getting hit.She knows there is not much she can do but she is right there for me trying to help.I give all you supporters allot of credit it's tough to live with one of us.

Dave

Title: Re: My Wife
Post by michael on Jul 2^nd, 2007, 3:39am

I know what you mean Dave. I have a great supporter too. I do remember one time surfacing from my private space after an attack and catching her crying. That tore me apart.

My best wishes to you and your wife.

Mike

Title: Re: My Wife
Post by Patrick_A on Jul 6^th, 2007, 10:31pm

I hope my wife never has to experience me having one. :-/

Title: Re: My Wife
Post by MR_FLOOR on Jul 7^th, 2007, 2:57am

on 07/02/07 at 03:39:02, michael wrote:

I do remember one time surfacing from my private space after an attack and catching her crying. That tore me apart.

Sad isn't it Mike,almost brings a tear to my eye reading your post.

Dave

Title: Re: My Wife
Post by sldrswyfe on Jul 10^th, 2007, 11:31am

It made me feel sad to see my husband just sitting quietly after I'd come of "the dungeon"...if I ever saw him crying...it would tear me up too.

God I hate putting him through it...holding up plans...having to CANCEL plans for that matter.

:'(

Title: Re: My Wife
Post by sldrswyfe on Jul 10^th, 2007, 11:35am

To add to that...we appreciate you supporters so very much...and need the hell out of you.

The guilt and emotional pain we feel for you...is overwhelming sometimes. Thankyou. You all mean soooo much.

Title: Re: My Wife
Post by Mosaicwench on Jul 25^th, 2007, 7:21pm

Michael - please understand that a supporter crying is not necessarily a bad thing.

I am a 15+ year supporter and when my clusterhead is in cycle I cry a lot - by myself.

It's not a "woe-is-me-he-can't-take-me-out-dinner" cry - it's generally frustration that the beast has returned and moved in again, it's the sadness/frustration/anger of not being able to help other than getting out of the way . . . it's a multitude of things wrapped up in a few tears.

Tears are simply an outward manifestation of internal grief. Each attack/hit/cluster creates grief. It's not the sufferer that's making me cry, it's the unrelenting nature of this shitty beast and the effect it has on all of us.

Tears help cleanse this malignant presence for a few minutes and help me continue on in my journey with my clusterhead.

Title: Re: My Wife
Post by MR_FLOOR on Jul 25^th, 2007, 8:56pm

Well said Pat.

Dave

Title: Re: My Wife
Post by sldrswyfe on Aug 6^th, 2007, 10:03pm

I am sad for my husband because of the pain he feels FOR me...that I know Im the cause of that PAIN...not that he "can't take me out to dinner"... that does upset me as well, because I want to have fun with him...we go through so much ...that we need some fun...

If I were to see my husband cry...I would simply put my arms around him...and let him. It would hurt me knowing how he's hurting...I cannot help but feel pain when my husband is feeling it...no matter what the cause.

Title: Re: My Wife
Post by dlinsenmann on Nov 3^rd, 2007, 10:55pm

I have to agree with you all. I'm a newlywed and the beast is getting worst every day. Tonight I had one and It was so bad it caused my husband to break down in tears for me. I felt like that hurt more then the CH itself. I like to have him with me when the attacks hit, i take comfort from knowing he's there. But after that I wish that I could hide so as not to hurt him anymore. I think that supporters are what make easier to live.

Title: Re: My Wife
Post by Annette on Nov 3^rd, 2007, 11:04pm

These are tears of love that we shed as supporters, not to make you feel bad or guilty but its our hearts showing we want to share.

If there is to be laughter, there shall be tears ... Tears can be beautiful and uplifting too.

Title: Re: My Wife
Post by midwestbeth on Nov 3^rd, 2007, 11:52pm

I don't know where I would be with out the support I get from my family and friends. I am truly blessed and thankful for the understanding, caring, and loving support I recieve everyday. I am in awe of those I love.

Beth

Title: Re: My Wife
Post by Linda_Howell on Nov 4^th, 2007, 1:30pm

Supporters appreciation day.

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