Clusterheadaches.com Message Board (http://www.clusterheadaches.com/cgi-bin/yabb/YaBB.cgi)
New Message Board Archives >> Jul-Sep 2003 >> Just a stupid rant...
(Message started by: Drk^Angel on Jul 29th, 2003, 9:57am)

Title: Just a stupid rant...
Post by Drk^Angel on Jul 29th, 2003, 9:57am
I hope y'all don't mind, but I feel a need to rant...

I haven't been doing too well for the past couple months.  My headaches have been getting the better of me... Other health difficulties... My car and house is falling apart... etc, etc, etc... It just keeps building up.  I've been trying to juggle all this as best as I could, but things just keep getting worse, and it just gets harder to keep everything together.  You see... My headaches and shit have been seriously effecting my performance at werk, and if I can't maintain my quota, I could get fired.  My only option around this has been FMLA, but I don't get paid when I take a day off.  Go to werk, could get fired... Stay home, don't get paid... Sounds like fun 'eh?

So the past couple of months I've missed days when things get really bad... i.e. Been up all night dancin' with the bastard and shit like that you know... Unfortunately, it just keeps adding up... And with the problems with my car and house causing unexpected expenses... I'm in deep shit.  I haven't even been able to afford my meds for a while.  Now I've hit the wall... How could I have been so fucking stupid??  My next paycheck won't be enough to pay the bills I need to pay with it, not to mention food and other necessities.  Unless a miracle happens... I don't know.  The final straw broke today when I was turned down for one of those short term, high interest, payday loans... Now what the fuck am I going to do??  Why did I let this shit happen?

Does anyone know of anyplace that can help me?  Any ideas?  I'm not normally the type of person that would beg, but I'm really starting to rethink that... I just don't know what I'm going to do... I'm just so fucking stupid.  Damn it...  I just don't know what I'm going to do.  Oh well... Thank you for listening.  Sorry to dump this on y'all, but I needed to talk to someone, before I completely lost my mind.

PFDAN................... Drk^Angel

Title: Re: Just a stupid rant...
Post by Donna on Jul 29th, 2003, 10:28am
Sorry things have piled up like this on you......I have been thru this when newly divorced and trying to raise three small children by myself, with ch.  So I know how frustrated you feel and how small and how hopeless.

Try your Health and Family Services depts...Salvation Army and Goodwill for emergency cash, and check to find out if you have a local "helping hands" org. in your town.

Good luck.  

Damn..it's so unfair that ch sufferers can't get a break of any kind..........jobs, insurance, docs who don't know what ch is, blah blah blah.  So sick of this crap!!!

Title: Re: Just a stupid rant...
Post by Big_Dan on Jul 29th, 2003, 10:30am
.... Sorry, Man... I don't really know what to tell you....

I'm fortunate enough to not have to deal with all of those problems..... I work for family, so they understand when the fuck-stick decides to bitchslap me...

.... just hang in there Bro.... you're bigger than the fuckin' beast....

PFDAN...


-Big Dan

Title: Re: Just a stupid rant...
Post by Hound_Dogg on Jul 29th, 2003, 10:41am
Drk...A lotta people are in the same boat. Living paycheck to paycheck.  I know I'm livin paycheck to paycheck. Keepin my head above water, but one emergency could really mess that up.

One thing I can help you with. Call the creditor's that are due. Let them know what's going on. Believe it or not, most of them are pretty understanding. Prioritize what's important. Gotta pay the food, electric, & mortgage/rent. Everything else can wait. Just don't forget to let all your creditors know that you can't pay right now & give them a realistic date as to when they can expect it.

P.S. I have about 6-2packs of imitrex syringes that I may need you to hold for me. ;) ;). Let me know if you would be able to do this for me. Out of cycle & I don't have any room for them.

Jim

Title: Re: Just a stupid rant...
Post by don on Jul 29th, 2003, 10:42am
Your not begging.

Your asking for help, no shame in that.

The shame is in NOT asking for help when you need it.

Title: Re: Just a stupid rant...
Post by echo on Jul 29th, 2003, 10:45am
Sorry to read you are being slapped bald, painted blue and mailed to Guam by the SOB and life in general.

Hopefully you will able to find assistance at the SA or possibly your church has a fund to help you out during these trying times.

Title: Re: Just a stupid rant...
Post by suzy617 on Jul 29th, 2003, 10:47am
So sorry Drk for what your going thru.  I wish I had the resources to make it all better for you.
Please just hang in there. It always seems worse before it gets better.
I would in the meantime call or go down to the Human Resources Center. You may be entitled to food stamps or help to pay your utilities.
I wish I could offer more help.

Suzy

Title: Re: Just a stupid rant...
Post by JDH on Jul 29th, 2003, 10:56am
Don't know what to say except hang in there, it has to get better. Just remember, your a clusterhead and we can endure ANYTHING!
For you to deal with the beast at a time like this just doesn't seem fair. Wish I could take some of those h/a's for a few days just so you could regroup, sounds like you need a break.  
Check your pm's.

Good luck,
Jim



Title: Re: Just a stupid rant...
Post by CathiP on Jul 29th, 2003, 11:38am
Drk- Not a stupid rant.....tons of people are in the same sitch, and it is the pits......call your lender, cite medical issues...they should be much more willing to work with you, rather than take the house back- there are many who are in a redemption period, where the lender is able to work out a catch-up plan for you.
As for house reapirs, head and work, seems that if you can get even one of the monkeys off your back the other things will likely ease up.
Vibes and good jujus going out to you.....and an invitation for the beast to take a hike......damn him, once again.
Please keep us posted, let us know how things are going.
Rant away, Drk- or better yet, tell us as things improve.
Cathi

Title: Re: Just a stupid rant...
Post by Drk^Angel on Jul 29th, 2003, 12:42pm
Thank you all for your advice and offers.  It always amazes me the support that can be found here.  I'm still working on a few possiblities for financial assistance, so I haven't given up yet, but it just hasn't been looking good.  Something will work out though...

Thank you again.

PFDAN................................... Drk^Angel

Title: Re: Just a stupid rant...
Post by cootie on Jul 29th, 2003, 12:54pm
Drk keep us posted.......esp of what you mite NEED in particular.........am sure people here cna help......best of luck and best of luck gettin yer shit in a pile vibes goin out to ya......yer not alone.......it happens to alot of people........shit happens ! Pam that hopes things will be ok soon for ya and back on yer feet agin  :)

Title: Re: Just a stupid rant...
Post by cathy on Jul 29th, 2003, 12:57pm
Hi Drk...sorry things are not good at the moment, don't know what to say to you so im sending positive PF vibes and remember every cloud has a silver lining.... :-/

Hang tough!!

Cathy

Title: Re: Just a stupid rant...
Post by ZAIRA on Jul 29th, 2003, 2:21pm

How sad to hear that my dear friend is in a hard time! I’m really sorry Dark! :-/ :'(
Don’t be disperate, there is a solution for all troubles. Life doesn’t present us many happy days, but it can’t always go bad. I could help you in some way, read your e-mail and let me know!
I hope I can help you, as you did with me in the past. And... Don’t thanks for listening to you... don’t feel embaraced if you need to rant... my spirit is there with you!!

Try to be strong.  :'(

Love, Zaira  :'(

Title: Re: Just a stupid rant...
Post by ShariRae on Jul 29th, 2003, 3:01pm
Drk.. I am so sorry to hear of these hard times.. I know it must seem insurmountable (sp) just know we are all pulling for ya. You may want to see if you can get emergency service plans for your utilities (HEAP). They are available in many states & will pay all/most of your gas & electric..just make calls & keep pluggin away hon.. thats all any of us can do..and know that this run of bad luck has got to end..
Huggs
Shari

Title: Re: Just a stupid rant...
Post by aprilbee on Jul 29th, 2003, 3:18pm
Drk, I just want to *bump* all of the other posts that have been written so far, can't say much more than what's already been said.  

Just remember tomorrow is another day, the sun will always come up!  We wouldn't appreciate the good if there was no bad.  You WILL get through this...

Sending you well wishes and pain free vibes... ;)

Title: Re: Just a stupid rant...
Post by Mastifflvr28 on Jul 29th, 2003, 9:50pm
Dark...I can't add any advise to what this great family has already said.
Just know I'm thinkin of ya and got some huge voodoo vibes going out to you!!

love ya bro,
Mast

Title: Re: Just a stupid rant...
Post by Pinkfloyd on Jul 29th, 2003, 10:38pm

on 07/29/03 at 09:57:04, Drk^Angel wrote:
My headaches have been getting the better of me...
My car and house is falling apart...
My headaches and shit have been seriously effecting my performance at werk,
I could get fired.
I don't get paid when I take a day off.
Been up all night dancin' with the bastard
I haven't even been able to afford my meds for a while.  
My next paycheck won't be enough to pay the bills I need to pay with it, not to mention food and other necessities.  
I was turned down for one of those short term, high interest, payday loans...

PFDAN................... Drk^Angel



www.clusterbusters.com

PF



Title: Re: Just a stupid rant...
Post by stevegeebe on Jul 30th, 2003, 5:44am
Drk^Angel,
Like Hound_Dog, I have 2-2 packs of Trex that I would like you to hold on to for me.  Let me know if you could do this for me.

Steve G

Title: Re: Just a stupid rant...
Post by godsjoy on Jul 30th, 2003, 7:16am
Dark,
My heart goes out to you too....Talk to your boss too....You never know how much he or she might understand.....There is no shame in it.....Stuff happens.....and God is a merciful God....I will pray for you as I will for all of us....

I work for a Christian Dentist that let me take home the extra oxygen tank and use it as long as I need it.....Praying for a breakthrough for you.....

Karen

Title: Re: Just a stupid rant...
Post by taraann on Jul 30th, 2003, 10:00am
We had a really rough year last year.....and we went for emergency assistance at Health and Human services....had to jump through alot of hoops to get some help but we did.  Just like DOnna said....Salvation Army, and local churches (you don't have to be a member) also can be helpful.  Also if you have a community action program in your area they can also help with food (maybe cash I'm not sure).  Another thing that helped us when one of our utilities were about to be shut off was the Town office....they can sometimes pay a bill for you.  Hang in there and you'll get through this!

Title: Re: Just a stupid rant...
Post by Drk^Angel on Jul 30th, 2003, 10:13am
Just to let y'all know... I'm working on working things out...  My creditors and debtors aren't being too helpful, but my wife is calling about assistance from the local groups.  Thanks again y'all for the advice, well wishes, offers and vibes.

PFDAN.................................. Drk^Angel

Title: Re: Just a stupid rant...
Post by Big_Dan on Jul 30th, 2003, 10:17am
No problem, Bro....

'tswat we do best....

PFDAN's & $... ;D


-Big Dan



Clusterheadaches.com Message Board » Powered by YaBB 1 Gold - SP 1.3.1!
YaBB © 2000-2003. All Rights Reserved.