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(Message started by: Biker on Aug 25^th, 2004, 10:56pm)

Title: anti-social
Post by Biker on Aug 25^th, 2004, 10:56pm

Am I the only one who becomes pretty much a recluse during times of many episodes? I find myself wanting to be left alone. I also find myself jumpy, irritable, grouchy, and just down right grumpy. I am currently finishing my predisone taper, and bumping up on verapmail. CH is beginning to return after a couple weeks of freedom. I caught myself today chasing folks away. Does anyone else become anti-social????

Title: Re: anti-social
Post by eddie on Aug 25^th, 2004, 11:02pm

oh yes but i do try not to be mean but some need it
this is hard enough to deal with and work
is hard to my xanax do help anti depressants
make me worse it seems
good luk >:(

Title: Re: anti-social
Post by IndianaJohn on Aug 25^th, 2004, 11:17pm

Oh, yeah...I can get real grouchy. I don't mean to be...My kids(19 and 17) know to stay clear during one my HA's. Not that I want to them to see it....When I'm at work and one hits, I have to hide somewhere and just deal, either with a Trex NS or just tough it out. I don't want to be around anybody sometimes.

Title: Re: anti-social
Post by Fatcat on Aug 26^th, 2004, 4:29am

I did. I used to lock myself away for weeks. But my bouts have got longer and/or the verapamil manages the attacks. So, although I'm often not drinking, I make a point of keeping up my social life. I want to have fun, regardless.

Title: Re: anti-social
Post by Lizzie2 on Aug 26^th, 2004, 6:59am

Hmm I've tried the social life thing. Just got too exhausting, and I wasn't much fun being in pain all the time anyhow! Last year, my boyfriend nicknamed me "The Hermit." I said that I went to class, practiced piano and all that and that that was enough. He said yeah but it's all you do! It used to bother me. It doesn't anymore. I'm quite content with my anti-social lifestyle...although sometimes it does get lonely. My one friend from Penn State used to say, "I like my anti-social lifestyle, Damnit! Why does anyone have to have a problem with that?" LOL I laughed cuz I could relate. :) I also tend to make close friendships with people who are similar to me, which helps. :)

Lizzie :)

Title: Re: anti-social
Post by Kevin_M on Aug 26^th, 2004, 8:09am

I kinda stay in the shade somewhat for the months of an episode. What bothers me is when the cycle ends and then having no longer a reason to be more reclusive, but it has become more of a lifestyle and harder to change after so many episodes. I get too used to it.

Kevin M

Title: Re: anti-social
Post by E-Double on Aug 26^th, 2004, 10:19am

I absolutely became a recluse!! My damn hits were coming throughout the day and night.
Afraid to work. Afraid to socialize....

It really took a swift kick in the ass by my fiance and my best friend to start getting me to live again.
The fact is that many of us are so filled with anxiety over these things that we don't live.

I've come to realize that if I'm gonna get hit, that it will occur whether I'm home or out.
I just have to arm myself.

It's scary and I don't do it as often but when I do go out whether I get slammed or not it has become worth it.

Taking back life is important for us to survive.

Just my feeling on the matter.

Eric

Title: Re: anti-social
Post by lionsound on Aug 26^th, 2004, 1:02pm

Yup, my attutude gets ugly and anit-social. Usually takes my husband to make me get up and out of the house. I hate him for it.....but later I love him for it.

Title: Re: anti-social
Post by thomas on Aug 26^th, 2004, 2:24pm

on 08/25/04 at 22:56:23, Biker wrote:

Am I the only one who becomes pretty much a recluse during times of many episodes?

No, I do too.

Title: Re: anti-social
Post by manana on Aug 26^th, 2004, 3:42pm

... and I thought I was the only one like that...

T

Title: Re: anti-social
Post by mynm156 on Aug 26^th, 2004, 3:45pm

I know how you feel. I just go away durring my attacks most of the time. into my room, ar the bathroom take my meds and pray!!!

Good Vibes

MYNM156

Title: Re: anti-social
Post by don on Aug 26^th, 2004, 5:02pm

Well yeah but I'm sort of like that out of cycle to. 8)

Title: Re: anti-social
Post by Biker on Aug 26^th, 2004, 7:57pm

Thanks, I was beginning to think it was just me acting like that. Seems I have chased everyone away, incluing the cat. Well, at least Im in a good place for it. Cannot see a neighbor. The wife and her daughters moved back to their house on my request. Folks think Im strange when Im riding with a group, and just dissapear-(pull off the road and hide during an attack). The meds make me feel pretty wierd too. I think Im gonna have a T. shirt made up that says,

I AINT RIGHT

Title: Re: anti-social
Post by Kris_in_SJ on Aug 26^th, 2004, 8:41pm

I don't think any of us are "right" when we're in cycle. We're existing in a bubble ... either recovering from the most recent banger, suffering from the almost constant shadow, or worrying about when the next big one will hit (all the while wondering when those prevents are going to kick in).

Hang in there. We can all be anti-social together!

Kris

Title: Re: anti-social
Post by Jonny on Aug 26^th, 2004, 8:43pm

on 08/25/04 at 22:56:23, Biker wrote:

Yeah, your a real bitch!

...................................jonny

Title: Re: anti-social
Post by crazy_mj on Aug 26^th, 2004, 9:36pm

My mom said I was born anti-social!! I try to get out and do things, but I live in a state of fear. Always on the lookout for triggers, wondering when my next attack will hit.
I also find it interesting the link between anxiety and clusters.

Title: Re: anti-social
Post by Lizzie2 on Aug 26^th, 2004, 10:15pm

My mom said no to my 23 year old self going to west philly tonite to visit the guy I've been dating for a year (James). She basically said it in a way where I could go if I wanted, but she would get really pissed off at me. So I called James up and told him I couldn't come and proceeded to vent to him about the freaking insanity I feel like I am living in right now.

Then I went downstairs and heard my parents talking about me. My mom said something to the effect that she didnt "make me sit around and be a vegetable" this whole week. No..she didn't. She suggested that I clean, do laundry, go to the store to shop for a comforter cover, call the insurance company. Oh yeah I was jumping off my ass to get that stuff done. We don't belong to a gym so I can't get to the pool. I asked my brother twice if I could go to the shore with him so I could see my friend who is down there this week.

Yeah this is a whine. And I don't care. I'm so sick of everything right now. Being a hermit has just become who I am. And I'm sick of that too.

Title: Re: anti-social
Post by ex_pat_asia on Aug 27^th, 2004, 1:41pm

I am not sure why but when I am faced with almost any personal adversity or emotional stress I tend to lick my own wounds in solitude. During an attack I am definitely wanting to be alone.

Many years ago my mother told me that as I was growing up, and if I was in some state of troubled mind, I would escape from the house (we had a large family and a noisy household) and shoot baskets in the hoop my father had hung on the workshop wall. She said I would do this for hours until finally, whatever it was, dissipated and I would rejoin the human race, I see vestiges of that behavior in me today. I guess we all deal in different ways, and suspect it isn't the beast as much as it is just us...and our personal methods of dealing.

Title: Re: anti-social
Post by bluesunshine on Aug 28^th, 2004, 2:24am

Now i can make people go away when I want.

I just have to think, remember how i feel those CH and it is enough, like a powerfull weapon,

they're just don't wanna be around me...!!!!

GRRRRRRRRR!!!AAARR!!

Be carefull with that, it is powerfull because you contain it (i am buzzing, you say it)

i am gonna kick your as... MOVE!!!