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(Message started by: PollyPocket on Apr 4^th, 2008, 8:24pm)

Title: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by PollyPocket on Apr 4^th, 2008, 8:24pm

This was my last week:

Last Friday
http://i105.photobucket.com/albums/m211/darryljen/scan0001.jpg
Harry's first day, our first look at each other.

Saturday
http://i105.photobucket.com/albums/m211/darryljen/scan0002.jpg
Learning to walk

Sunday
http://i105.photobucket.com/albums/m211/darryljen/scan0003.jpg
Tweedlebug, my little man

Monday
http://i105.photobucket.com/albums/m211/darryljen/scan0004.jpg
The day the training wheels came off

Tuesday
http://i105.photobucket.com/albums/m211/darryljen/scan0005-1.jpg
Tough guy who went over the handlebars

Wednesday
http://i105.photobucket.com/albums/m211/darryljen/scan0006.jpg
The first date/dance

Thursday
http://i105.photobucket.com/albums/m211/darryljen/tweednchar1_pp.jpg
A young man and his old girl

Today.
My son moved out.

I feel like someone sucked all the air out of my lungs.

edit to add: http://youtube.com/watch?v=-SAFk0j-f4c

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by E-Double on Apr 4^th, 2008, 8:37pm

AWE

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by DennisM1045 on Apr 4^th, 2008, 8:38pm

[smiley=hug.gif]

It seems we work all their lives to make them strong and independent. To make sure they know right from wrong. Then they do it. They leave us behind to make their own way in the world.

And it cuts deeply. Pride and emptiness felt in equal measure dizzying in their depth.

Nice tribute Jen. Great looking kid. You done good. Now go take a break. Looks like you've earned it ;)

-Dennis- (who just watched his 17 y/o daughter driver off in her 1st car)

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by brewcrew on Apr 4^th, 2008, 8:43pm

on 04/04/08 at 20:38:45, DennisM1045 wrote:

It's the natural order of things.

Would we rather they lived in our basement until they're 50? ;)

Of course it's bittersweet. We hope and pray we've done most of our job right. But if they're leaving as they just become adults, chances are they're going to be fine. They need to spread their wings and fly.

And so will you, Jen. You too, Dennis.

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by Racer1_NC on Apr 4^th, 2008, 9:22pm

I know where you are coming from.....my oldest will turn 18 and vote for the first time this year. I swear it was only yesterday that I held her for the first time in the hospital.

It doesn't take long.....at all.

Bill

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by Paul98 on Apr 4^th, 2008, 9:30pm

Sweet post Jen ;) Very meaningful way to express the emotion!

-P.

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by Ree on Apr 4^th, 2008, 11:19pm

Very sweet... I can feel for ya... My kids are gone gone and growing... Breezy goes to high school next year... Those of you that were here when I got here know that she was about 4 when I found this place. Scarey stuff.

Your son is a beautiful boy grown into such a handsome young man...

Good Luck facing this right of passage... I'll pray for your comfort MOMMA...

Be proud!
modified to say...
Guess what my new myspace song is... that is so beautiful... thanks
Ree

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by Jonny on Apr 4^th, 2008, 11:21pm

Just think of the reduction in bills.....LOL :-*

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by Ree on Apr 4^th, 2008, 11:27pm

on 04/04/08 at 23:21:46, Jonny wrote:

Just think of the reduction in bills.....LOL :-*

Water alone...

jonny you always bring the sunshine to a sad post...

you coulda said Awwwwwwwwww though lol

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by PollyPocket on Apr 4^th, 2008, 11:41pm

on 04/04/08 at 23:21:46, Jonny wrote:

Just think of the reduction in food bills.....LOL :-*

fixed it.

just think of the tax deduction reduction. :/

Crap, its so NOT that. Fuckin ouch.

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by HeadhurtinMama on Apr 5^th, 2008, 1:05am

Awww Jen, you have given me a major fast forward in life.... Can I cry now to avoid it later?

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by Mastifflvr28 on Apr 5^th, 2008, 1:32am

Jen,
I know EXACTLY how you feel...it KILLS.
Also, good advice to new/young parents.
Savor the 18 years, take LOTS of pics :)

Kaleb is 17 and went off to school. His tribute
and pics are on my myspace:
http://www.myspace.com/mastifflvr28

Mast

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by sailpappy on Apr 5^th, 2008, 6:43am

:-/ Jen,
Very nice retrospective post of your son growing up! My youngest is 23 and she has been married and gone for 4 years, 2 older brothers, 34 and 32 Oldest in Alaska, Middle child in Wisconsin, Youngest in Florida and now I am in North Carolina,
You blink and they are gone, now I have 7 Grandkids and don't get to see any of them enough!
Definitely feeling your Pain my Sweet Friend!
John

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by George_J on Apr 5^th, 2008, 6:44am

:-[

Where'd the time go? It's bewildering.

Mast is right. Every moment with them is a gift.

All the best,

George

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by BarbaraD on Apr 5^th, 2008, 8:04am

But they DO come back and BRING the grandkids.... the grandkids .... now that's the joy for raising the kids and letting them go.... Rest up now... you'll need the strength later :)

Hugs BD

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by Karla on Apr 5^th, 2008, 8:17am

My youngest left home for the Marine Corps this year. That was just gut renching for me. I cried for weeks. My oldest two: one has been married for two years and the other just made me a grandmother two months ago. I am loving it now. It is so wonderful to have them out of the house and have my liberties back and to be able to come and go as I want, reduction in bills, etc. Of course being a Grandmother has aged me some but he is sooo cute and adorable and I get to see him several times a week so there are some rewards in having them gone. You will adjust in time.

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by cash5542 on Apr 5^th, 2008, 10:02am

My mind has been in this mood ever since the pictures of Marco looking at his new baby sister. I swear I have that exact same pose when we were in the hospital with Lisa. Ryan was looking into her bassinet with such pride. Don't know where the time went!! That was 1985.

When Ryan left for college I was a wreck. I felt like I had my heart ripped out. My older sister had been through it a few times and spent hours consoling me. She called it reverse child birth. It did get easier somehow and he's now in Hawaii.

Hugs to you Jen!!

Charlotte

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by Jackie on Apr 5^th, 2008, 12:31pm

Oh, Sweetie....what a lovely, sweet post...... :)
And yes.....it goes by in the blink of an eye.

Much love,
Jackie

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by Rosybabe on Apr 5^th, 2008, 12:45pm

our children are a loan from God, He lets us have them, feed them, raise them, educate them and love them, but we must be ready to let our arms open and let them go t fly for themselves ...it hurts :'( but look what a wonderful human being you have created, now it is time for him to have a creation of his own...then you get to spoil rotten those creations and give them back to him.. :)

You should be proud of your creation :-*

Hugs

Rosy.

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by midwestbeth on Apr 5^th, 2008, 3:31pm

Time does seem to pass too fast. I have one out of the house already and two more will probably go within the next 5 years. Enjoy all those moments while they are young, cause it is gone in a blink.

Beth [smiley=hug.gif]

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by DennisM1045 on Apr 5^th, 2008, 3:42pm

Thanks Brew.

on 04/04/08 at 20:43:27, brewcrew wrote:

Would we rather they lived in our basement until they're 50? ;)

I've got a 19 y/o treating the house like a hotel with room service who thinks he'll still be here when he's 50. We're doing our best to disabuse him of this notion. ;;D
I'm still gonna be sad when he moves out.

-Dennis-

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by Annette on Apr 5^th, 2008, 5:29pm

Awww Jen ... That is just beautiful ! Thank you for showing us the passage of time.

My eldest son will be in high school next year and gosh it was only yesterday he was learning to walk, wasnt it ? :-/

But Barbara is right, they will come back with girlfriend and more girlfriends and eventually grandchild then grandchildren then great grandchildren ... Err .. I think I better stop here ;;D

Hugs to you mum :-*

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by Charlie on Apr 5^th, 2008, 6:35pm

Great posts kids. You're lucky people.

Charlie

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by cosmicfunkfather on Apr 5^th, 2008, 7:55pm

Awe... how sweet Jan, But you can always start over :-X

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by Tara Ann on Apr 6^th, 2008, 5:45am

The pics wont load for me (and it's my pc not any other prob) but your message is sure loud and clear. BUT don't let that empty nest syndrome wear ya down k?

Reading your title I keep hear Kenny Chesney's song "Don't Blink" in my head. :)

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by mummymac on Apr 6^th, 2008, 3:58pm

Jenn

I can so relate to that, when they are little you think that is how your family will stay forever.

My Baby gave birth to her second baby today, it seems only yesterday that I was holding her in my arms.

I love your photos , the one in the cowboy hat is grea, looks like that was some tumble he took.

Title: Re: To young parents, please don't blink
Post by debOUCH on Apr 6^th, 2008, 7:35pm

it's bittersweet, jen...............your tribute "touched my heart" & brought those tears to my eyes.........it's a good thing though.............i am going to be facing that soon, a 23 yr old son, who still lives with me, making decisions...........an 18 yr old daughter is @ college, just 40 miles away, but lives there, she is on the lacrosse team, a goalie, so she still visits frequentl.but soon they will leve...............and that is what this parent thing is all about..........................we must set them free....................all the hugs to you..................
deb