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(Message started by: Charlotte on Mar 5^th, 2008, 3:36pm)

Title: The day I dreaded is here
Post by Charlotte on Mar 5^th, 2008, 3:36pm

My supervisor sent me home today. She said I am not up to standards because my voice is too loud and I snap at people (coworker & clients) and although I get all the paperwork done, I am not meeting standards in dealing with people, and that I should use my sick leave.

The she said, "I'm not telling you what to do."

(OK, you're sending me home because my headaches prevent me from being professional, but you're not telling me what to do?)

So I am home, and I am a mess. I haven't emailed my neuro or doc yet. It's been a miracle this didn't happen sooner.

It is not the ch that is my down fall. That is moderately under control with verap. It's the occipital type headaches that go back and forth, side to side, for hours on end.

The supervisor did say I was better when I was on the pred tapers, but we all know you can't live on pred tapers.

So, did I say I'm a mess?

Charlotte

Title: Re: The day I dreaded is here
Post by Sean_C on Mar 5^th, 2008, 4:23pm

What did you do for work Charlotte?

[smiley=hug.gif]

Title: Re: The day I dreaded is here
Post by aloneuk on Mar 5^th, 2008, 4:24pm

Char,

Sweetie Im sorry your going through this i really am, I was fed the same line !

I really hope it works out ok,.. No NO it will work out ok

Hugs Ike

Title: Re: The day I dreaded is here
Post by Charlotte on Mar 5^th, 2008, 4:30pm

Sean, I'm a legal clerk for the Public Defenders Office. Lots of paperwork, and lots of telephone and counter work.

I did email the neuro, now, and discussed a few options. Waiting for him to email back.

Title: Re: The day I dreaded is here
Post by KJ on Mar 5^th, 2008, 4:32pm

Damn, C, I'm sorry to hear that. Your head must be bothering you alot, because I can't imagine you snapping at anybody. You are one of the kindest people I know.

Lots of love and a big hug headed your way.

Title: Re: The day I dreaded is here
Post by Grandma_Sweet_Boy on Mar 5^th, 2008, 4:34pm

Sending you hugs Char - and sorry you have to deal with crap at your work place.

How long have you worked there? Could you maybe take some short term disability whilst the medical folks try to get your sorted out.

Hang in there.

Carol

Title: Re: The day I dreaded is here
Post by Sean_C on Mar 5^th, 2008, 4:39pm

on 03/05/08 at 16:30:15, Charlotte wrote:

Sean, I'm a legal clerk for the Public Defenders Office. Lots of paperwork, and lots of telephone and counter work.

And they said you weren't nice to clients???

Sounds political to me Charlotte.

An attorney doesn't sound out of the question to me ;)

Thats her "opinion"........................did she mention that her friend is taking your place ;)

Sean..............................

Title: Re: The day I dreaded is here
Post by deltadarlin on Mar 5^th, 2008, 4:47pm

Charlotte,
Are you a civil servent? Further response depends on that answer ;;D.

Carolyn

Title: Re: The day I dreaded is here
Post by Charlotte on Mar 5^th, 2008, 5:04pm

yes, Carolyn, I am a civil servant. And I have been with the county for almost 20 years. I spent 17 years at the Sheriff's Office before I went over to the "dark side".

I love my job, and I have been having difficulty living up to my own standards.

Also, the neuro emailed me back and will recommend sick leave, so that takes some of the stress off, and he will up the prednisone, and look into tyring something else.

Charlotte

Title: Re: The day I dreaded is here
Post by nani on Mar 5^th, 2008, 5:20pm

:(

I'm with KJ...you must really be hurting, because you are one of the nicest people I know, Char. I'm sur this is a very temporary thing, you'll get things sorted out.
Try to think of it as a mini-vacation?

lots of love to you, nani [smiley=hug.gif]

Title: Re: The day I dreaded is here
Post by Ray on Mar 5^th, 2008, 6:02pm

Charlotte:

I'm so sorry that you've had to go through this. As said by others, you're one of the sweetest people I've ever met.

If you've gotten approval for some sick leave, take it! You've earned it. I hope that you can get these hits under control so that you're not feeling so irritable.

I know that I get that way when the CH hits are bad.

I love you Charlotte and want the best for you,

Ray

Title: Re: The day I dreaded is here
Post by Charlie on Mar 5^th, 2008, 6:54pm

Rats. WTF is wrong with people?

http://www.netsync.net/users/charlies/gifs/wild girl.gif

Hold on kid.

Charlie

Title: Re: The day I dreaded is here
Post by Jackie on Mar 5^th, 2008, 7:07pm

Hang in there, Sweetie.....take some time and I'm gonna bet you and the neuro will figure something out.

Love & Big Hugs...
Jackie

Title: Re: The day I dreaded is here
Post by cash5542 on Mar 5^th, 2008, 8:07pm

I am so sorry Charlotte. Take it one day at a time and enjoy a little painting!

Charlotte

Title: Re: The day I dreaded is here
Post by jimmers on Mar 5^th, 2008, 8:16pm

Char,

Maybe have the nuero CC the letter to you to your boss as well.

Maybe then, that person will understand what you are going through. Just a thought.

Hugs to ya!

Jimmers

Title: Re: The day I dreaded is here
Post by deltadarlin on Mar 6^th, 2008, 8:22am

I know that you love your job, but are there any other positions that might not be as interactive with the public? I'm assuming that since you're a civil servant, there are measures in place that give you more protection than the average employee (I know that in LA, it's almost impossible to *fire* somebody when they are employed by the state).

Good luck and take this time off to regroup.

Carolyn

Title: Re: The day I dreaded is here
Post by Angie on Mar 6^th, 2008, 9:32am

Hugs to you Charlotte

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Title: Re: The day I dreaded is here
Post by sandie99 on Mar 6^th, 2008, 12:32pm

Lots of [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif] Are on their way!

Sanna

Title: Re: The day I dreaded is here
Post by DennisM1045 on Mar 6^th, 2008, 12:41pm

Just adding to what others have already said. You are a sweet person Charlotte. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Take the break, work with your Neuro to find something that helps and then climb back on that horse.

((((HUGS))))

-Dennis-

Title: Re: The day I dreaded is here
Post by BMoneeTheMoneeMan on Mar 7^th, 2008, 1:06am

Love you, Char, and I hope you had a better day today.

Keep your chin up, and the sun will always shine on your face. 8)