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Title: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by Mrs Deej on Mar 3rd, 2008, 10:22am Well, it has been crazy, to say the least!!! We need some good juju, vibes, prayers, WHATEVER you have to spare. Two weeks ago my dad (step-dad, 25 years) called me to tell me that shit had hit the fan AGAIN with my mother. For those of you that don't know, my mother is an alchoholic, has been for many years. She went out drinking with one of her drunk friends, came home and accused my dad of having an affair. (My father would NEVER have an affair, and yes, I did ask him. Jimmy and I are very honest with one another.) She gets real violent, physically and emotionally, started hitting, kicking, punching, slapping, and THE MOMENT my dad went to restrain her she started screaming bloody murder and called the cops claiming he tried to choke her. >:( BAD NEWS....longer story short, he has been staying with us for a week, and I finally convinced him to go to his lawyer and file for divorce. For those of you thinking..."how could you do that to your own mother?"...you haven't lived with a mean, abusive drunk all your life. It has been the hardest decision I have ever made, but God has calmed my heart to give me the strength to get through this knowing it is the very right thing to do. The worst part about the whole thing is Conner and Brandon, they don't understand why we won't allow them to spend time with her. I'm still trying to come up with the right conversation to have with Conner. :-/ Enough of that BS...just send some prayers our way. I wish she could admit she has a problem and get professional help...this would all be so different. I started a BootCamp Fitness program last week. It is three times a week, for six weeks. I would have never made it in the military...they would have sent my ass home crying. My body hurt SOOOOOOO bad the next day....my fingers hurt!!! My abs STILL hurt from last Wednesday...HOLY SHIT!!!!!!!! :-/ but....no pain, no gain!!! DJ is on 12 hour shifts all week, until Sunday...so if you can't get ahold of either one of us....you'll know why. They are still trying to get ready for this big inspection in June. It's a PAIN IN THE ASS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! For those of you that work 12 hours everyday on a regular basis...I'm sorry! Brandon and Conner are doing wonderful!!! Conner is flying straight through first grade...all A's. He's a little smarty pants!! He's started Scouts, he's a Tiger Scout. It's wonderful to hear and see him have so much pride in it. I'm so proud of him!! Brandon is growing like a weed. We watched a video of him from October and he looked like a little alien baby!! (Only a mother can say this...) ;;D he didn't have any hair...and he just stared at everything...taking it all in. WOW...I forgot how much and how fast they change!!! LOL He had his 6 month check and shots last Monday, did wonderful. The doctor said he looks great and doing all the milestone stuff he should be. THANK YOU GOD!!! No signs of any problems!! He's starting to sit up by himself...no army crawl yet, but I'm sure I can wait!!! LOL We have set up a page for pictures and videos...hope you all enjoy them!!! We update it often so be sure to check back every once in awhile!! http://www.ourowntravel.com/brandon Sorry for the long post...lots going on in our world! Know that we love you all!! Thank you again for the support you have given and continue to show our family!! [smiley=hug.gif] Gratefully, Steph, DJ, Conner and Brandon |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by HappyElaine on Mar 3rd, 2008, 10:41am Prayers are coming your way. Family problems have been going on since Adam and Eve. It happens in the best of homes. Never say your sorry for things you can not do any thing about. You are doing the right thing. The Johnson's stay on my Prayer list ! Big hug to you all Elaine |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by Ray on Mar 3rd, 2008, 10:48am Prayers going up now, Steph. Thank you for the updates on the family and the wonderful photographs and videos. May you soon find peace. Ray |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by Paul98 on Mar 3rd, 2008, 10:48am Sorry to hear about the parent problems guys. Vibes coming from NY. I hope things settle down at home. Glad the kids are doing good! ;) -P. |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by nani on Mar 3rd, 2008, 10:56am Oh Steph... sorry about your mom problems... I'll send prayers for all of you. I'm glad the boys are well. I loved Cub scouts for my boys. They learned so much. Boot camp fitness? Why? You're gorgeous. Good luck with it. You guys are always in my prayers and thoughts. Lotsa love, nani |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by George_J on Mar 3rd, 2008, 11:03am All the best we have headed your way, Steph. It's a terribly difficult stance you've taken, but I'm convinced that you are correct, and it's the right one. Really enjoyed seeing the album. You have beautiful boys, and I'm happy to hear that Conner is doing so well in school, and is enjoying it so much. We think about you folks every day. Best wishes, George |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by thomas on Mar 3rd, 2008, 11:15am Hope everything gets resolved for the best for you guys. Love you all lots. I know it's hard but the resolve that you both have will be a true assett. Good luck with the fitness. ;) |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by Guiseppi on Mar 3rd, 2008, 11:18am Chemical abuse of any form is horrible in the damage it inflicts on the families. All our thoughts and prayers to youse guys. [smiley=hug.gif] Guiseppi |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by jimmers on Mar 3rd, 2008, 11:21am Vibes on the way! Hopefully your Dad won't have to do any jail time. I've heard of some crazy things happening in domestic cases when the cops are called. Sounds to me like you did the right thing, I've been through that situation as well. Jimmers |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by seasonalboomer on Mar 3rd, 2008, 11:45am Growing up in dysfunction has a terrible of lowering the bar for behavior, that if we saw it in others, we would condemn. But since it is within the "circle of dysfunction" we are often forced to reason away, excuse, look past, or otherwise accept. For some reason the idea of unconditional acceptance and love is flouted widely in dysfunctional families like mine and others. It's taken me a lot of hard work to understand that "conditions" should be part of any family's interaction. And it's not wrong. Scott |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by LeLimey on Mar 3rd, 2008, 11:46am Steph you aren't the only one with a toxic mother - ((HUG)) Just keep on being you, you're lovely just as you are. lots of love Helen xxx |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by aloneuk on Mar 3rd, 2008, 12:20pm sending all we have [smiley=hug.gif] |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by Grandma_Sweet_Boy on Mar 3rd, 2008, 12:34pm Sorry you and your family have to deal with this, Steph. Alcoholism is a horrible disease. Just the other day, I read this "All family members have places in our lives and we need to understand where they best fit in." Sadly enough - some just never do fit in and for the others, sometimes we are able to find a way to have them fit without disrupting everything we hold sacred. Hugs Carol |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by DennisM1045 on Mar 3rd, 2008, 12:38pm Hi Steph, VIBES and Prayers are coming your way. Sounds like you are making the best of an awful situation. I'm so sorry. Don't you dare appologize for the long post. I'm always interested in CH's First Family. On the Conner front, 1st graders are pretty perceptive. Just tell him the truth. I find it is usually the best way to go. Of course you follow your gut. You know your son better than anyone else. ((((HUGS)))) -Dennis- |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by Kevin_M on Mar 3rd, 2008, 2:00pm Yeah, when it comes to drinking problems, it don't get better. What a turnaround, Deej is Rosie the Riveter while Steph's away at boot camp. Call to duty is tough, but I hear you both win. ;) Amazing how babes go through stages of feature changes in a couple month's time. Boys sound great. Us little guys agreed to wear our Cub Scout uniforms for class picture day one year, kinda proud I guess and neat dark blue uniforms. Did a lot of good stuff in scouts together. Jumpin' over fences, Swingin' on a gate, Den eight, den eight, We'll never be late. Thanks Steph for the update. Hope things go well, and give the hard workin' guy a big hug, one from the gang, too. |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by Annette on Mar 3rd, 2008, 3:28pm So sorry Steph to hear things arent going well with your parents. When one is plagued with something like alcoholism, disaster can strike at any minute ! :( Take heart in your beautiful husband and two children though and focus on them. Strong vibes, lots of love, lots of hugs and prayers going your way. :-* |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by BarbaraD on Mar 3rd, 2008, 4:16pm Big hugs from Texas. Ya know you're all in our thoughts and prayers. Give the little ones (and the big one too) a big hug for me..... Hugs BD |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by Sean_C on Mar 3rd, 2008, 4:35pm on 03/03/08 at 10:22:40, Mrs Deej wrote:
LOL are you kidding, the irish mastered distillation. :) Good luck all around ;) Cheers, Sean....................... |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by Jackie on Mar 3rd, 2008, 4:57pm Thanks for the 'catch up', Sweetie.... Sorry about the Mom problems... :'( Just remember...things have a way of working out. Good luck with BootCamp.....you are a brave girl.... Glad the boys are well.....they sure are precious. Much love to you, DJ and the boys... Jackie |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by Jonny on Mar 3rd, 2008, 5:55pm JuJu on the way, sweetie!!!! :-* |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by barry_sword on Mar 3rd, 2008, 7:32pm When it rains it pours doesn't it! :( Sorry Steph with what is going on with your folks, that really sucks. All the prayers, vibes, whatever it takes for you guys. We are 100% with you. I grew up with an alcoholic dad but he was non violent thank god, just made my mom's life hell until he quit. Again, sorry. Here is a hug for You, DJ, Conner and Brandon [smiley=hug.gif] |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by midwestbeth on Mar 3rd, 2008, 7:39pm Prayers and vibes on the way. Beth |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by PollyPocket on Mar 3rd, 2008, 8:36pm Steph, its great to hear from you, even under the difficult circumstances. You made the right choices, and in dealing with the kid situation, the best is taking it a day at a time (left an alcoholic ex with my 2 kids). They understand in time and you'll help to help them understand on their terms. Prayers, vibes and juju for all of you! (and still want to hear the details of boot camp- when things settle down for you) Love ya, Jen |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by cosmicfunkfather on Mar 3rd, 2008, 8:40pm Sorry to hear about your Mom Steph...Prayers on the way. [smiley=hug.gif] |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by Ree on Mar 3rd, 2008, 8:42pm All the prayers we can muster for your family... so sorry you have to go through this... but proud to know you are there for your Dad... the videos and pics are awesome... I wish my kid in Hawaii would make a site like that so I could see my grandkids... that is just so priceless... love to you guys... Ree |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by Callico on Mar 4th, 2008, 12:16am Praying! You did the right thing. Give your dad all the support you can. he may not be "blood" kin, but he is "heart" kin. Jerry |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by Rosybabe on Mar 4th, 2008, 11:08am Dj and Steph, lots of prayers are in your way and the pictures are wonderful!! I would love to be able to hug that baby! :D He is so cute!! Hugs and kisses for all of you Rosy. |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by mummymac on Mar 4th, 2008, 3:17pm Don't know the right words to say at a time like this, but best wishes are being sent for you all. |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by purpleydog on Mar 4th, 2008, 4:43pm on 03/03/08 at 11:18:02, Guiseppi wrote:
Steph, this is so true. Thank goodness you are there for your father. Don't sweat boot camp too much, by the time you are done, I'm sure you'll give DJ a run for his money. ;) |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by E-Double on Mar 4th, 2008, 5:00pm hugs to you all |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by Jimi on Mar 4th, 2008, 5:19pm [smiley=hug.gif] P.S. I looked at all your pics and some of the videos. Great album that you two have. |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by Charlie on Mar 4th, 2008, 7:05pm Thinking of you and sending all the vibes I can muster. Hold on! [smiley=hug.gif] Charlie |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by chewy on Mar 4th, 2008, 8:21pm Just watching the "Sleepy" video. Careful there Brandon old buddy. I think Poppa has hair evny! |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by Jonny on Mar 4th, 2008, 8:33pm [smiley=crackup.gif] |
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Title: Re: Catching up with The Johnson's Post by Groov on Mar 4th, 2008, 9:13pm You did the right thing Steph. I know from living with an alcoholic, the best thing to do is to take em to the mat & make em know that they aren't fooling anyone but themselves. I wish you & yours the best of luck. Sincerely, Dave |
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