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(Message started by: PollyPocket on Feb 9^th, 2008, 1:39pm)

Title: Sell it or give it?
Post by PollyPocket on Feb 9^th, 2008, 1:39pm

My boss is giving me his pool table (told y'all he's the best!) and we're moving the old furniture out of the "family room" to storage and turning that room into a grown-up play room.

My son will be breaking my heart and moving out in 6-7 months. The question is: should I sell the furniture to use the money for new stuff in the "new" room, or give it to the boy child? Or should I make him pay 1/2 the storage fee if he wants the furniture in 6-7 months?

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by Rosybabe on Feb 9^th, 2008, 1:50pm

Give your son the furniture, he won't be able to buy anything new by the time he needs to start paying rent and other bills and you probably won't get much selling it anyway..but if you want him to pay something maybe the storage rent would be a good thing...if he was my child I will not charge him anything but that is just me ;)

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by artonio7 on Feb 9^th, 2008, 2:01pm

Give him the pool table... then after he gets really good at playing pool and becomes a pool shark hustler... he'll be able to afford to buy you a new pool table, a house, a car, a vacation home, all the furniture you'll ever need and a storage facility.

But... that's just me. ;;D

BTW did I tell you I love you today?

with warm regards,
Tony

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by brewcrew on Feb 9^th, 2008, 2:17pm

Make him think you're going to sell it to him (at a good price), then surprise him by giving it to him when he's ready to write the check.

Then make him take you out to a nice dinner.

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by PollyPocket on Feb 9^th, 2008, 2:20pm

Rosy if you only knew how much other stuff he's going to be walking out of here with! lol

$300 - $400 in storage fees may not be much to some, but for me its a lot to hang onto the furniture for several months till "whenever" he is ready for it.

Only other option is to NOT get the table, keep the furniture, then the boy has none and would still have to buy some, and I have no fun. :-/

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by DennisM1045 on Feb 9^th, 2008, 2:21pm

on 02/09/08 at 14:17:19, brewcrew wrote:

Make him think you're going to sell it to him (at a good price), then surprise him by giving it to him when he's ready to write the check.

Then make him take you out to a nice dinner.

Perfect! No need to add anything to this thread ;;D

-Dennis-

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by brewcrew on Feb 9^th, 2008, 2:22pm

Dinner with your baby boy would be fun....

He's gonna need to take you out on a date.

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by PollyPocket on Feb 9^th, 2008, 2:35pm

on 02/09/08 at 14:17:19, brewcrew wrote:

Make him think you're going to sell it to him (at a good price), then surprise him by giving it to him when he's ready to write the check.

I did that with a car :)

This would be an easy decision if the little shit didn't make the same salary I do. LOL

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by brewcrew on Feb 9^th, 2008, 2:42pm

on 02/09/08 at 14:35:52, PollyPocket wrote:

I did that with a car :)

This would be an easy decision if the little shit didn't make the same salary I do. LOL

10-4.

I'm out of ideas then. Somebody will come along with something.

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by barry_sword on Feb 9^th, 2008, 2:54pm

Angie and I started out with nothing but a big old gas guzzling car and the clothes on our backs. Nobody helped us at all.

25 years later we will be watching the Bud Shootout on our HD 50inch Plazma TV. Bought and paid for with our own money.

It sure would have been nice to have some furniture when we were starting out but we did ok! Maybe sell him the furniture and do it on payments and put whatever money he gives you in the bank for him later.

Just my [smiley=twocents.gif] :)

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by Jonny on Feb 9^th, 2008, 2:59pm

on 02/09/08 at 13:39:15, PollyPocket wrote:

turning that room into a grown-up play room.

So I take it there will be a mattress on that pool table?

;)

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by Paul98 on Feb 9^th, 2008, 3:07pm

Jen-

Not sure if you have more than one child. If yes, divide it up and share. (I got screwed and resent that my older sister got all the throw outs when I left home) (didn't have shit except what I could build from scrap lumber)

6-7 months? put it to the side, do what you can to suit the room to your needs, give the stuff to him then and then finish the job. Seems like a plan that works for all.

-P.

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by PollyPocket on Feb 9^th, 2008, 3:31pm

on 02/09/08 at 14:59:42, Jonny wrote:

So I take it there will be a mattress on that pool table?

;)

mattresses are only for those who lack imagination ;)

I really do appreciate all the different perspectives and suggestions on this. :)

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by Redd on Feb 9^th, 2008, 3:44pm

If he's making a good wage, and you can't find cheaper storage, let him pay for the storage fees, or at least part of them.

Giving kids a hand- up, rather than a direct hand-out teaches them about real life, and real bills and real responsibility.

The ex and I agreed that I would "give" Dylan my old car. He would pay for the parts to fix it up. Dyl would have to earn the money to register it and get insurance.

The ex and I are helping out, but yl also has to hold up his end of the bargain. No insurance or registration, it's not "his" car.

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by chewy on Feb 9^th, 2008, 3:50pm

1/2 the storage fee if he wants the stuff later.

Then he'll be invested in the furniture at a fraction of the cost it would take to buy it.

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by mummymac on Feb 9^th, 2008, 3:57pm

When my no 2 daughter was moving out, we collected and stored as much as possible to help her and partner kit out their home .

I say Give it.

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by midwestbeth on Feb 9^th, 2008, 4:04pm

Quote:

Giving kids a hand- up, rather than a direct hand-out teaches them about real life, and real bills and real responsibility.

Sounds like good advice to me.

Beth

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by artonio7 on Feb 9^th, 2008, 4:08pm

Is "renting/with an option to buy" an option? After five long years of monthly payments... you can take the cash and pay for half of his schooling. :) and with the other half you can buy another pool table.

just another thought. :-*

with warm regards,
Tony

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by Groov on Feb 9^th, 2008, 4:10pm

on 02/09/08 at 14:17:19, brewcrew wrote:

Make him think you're going to sell it to him (at a good price), then surprise him by giving it to him when he's ready to write the check.

Then make him take you out to a nice dinner.

Perfect idea Brew. Gives him some responsibility and makes him save for his goal. Just when he has done his work, he'll get a great surprise !!!

The dinner is a nice way to celebrate too.

Hey Jen, Darryl works hard...have him cut loose with a few bucks for some new stuff for the new room. ;)

Regards, Dave

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by Melissa on Feb 9^th, 2008, 4:55pm

on 02/09/08 at 15:50:04, chewy wrote:

1/2 the storage fee if he wants the stuff later.

Then he'll be invested in the furniture at a fraction of the cost it would take to buy it.

http://www.familyfriendsfirearms.com/forum/fffmain/smilies/exactly.gif

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by AussieBrian on Feb 9^th, 2008, 6:19pm

"If I can't sell it, I'll keep sittin' on it, before I'll give it away."

(From a song called "The Chair)

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by Jonny on Feb 9^th, 2008, 6:38pm

on 02/09/08 at 18:19:59, AussieBrian wrote:

"If I can't sell it, I'll keep sittin' on it, before I'll give it away."

In the past I have sold it, do you hate me?.....LOL [smiley=grin2.gif]

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by Mr. Happy on Feb 9^th, 2008, 7:58pm

on 02/09/08 at 13:39:15, PollyPocket wrote:

Or should I make him pay?

Might as well bring him up right......unless the Easter Bunny and Santa Claus are developmental factors.

TANSTAAFL (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/TANSTAAFL),
RJ

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by brewcrew on Feb 9^th, 2008, 8:13pm

I guess I was way off the mark.

Make him pay full price as if it was new, then make him take you out to dinner just for the privilege of buying your stuff.

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by chewy on Feb 9^th, 2008, 8:15pm

on 02/09/08 at 20:13:01, brewcrew wrote:

I guess I was way off the mark.

Make him pay full price as if it was new, then make him take you out to dinner just for the privilege of buying your stuff.

LMAO! Stakes are getting higher.

When you go out to dinner order big.

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by brewcrew on Feb 9^th, 2008, 8:16pm

on 02/09/08 at 20:15:45, chewy wrote:

LMAO! Stakes are getting higher.

When you go out to dinner order big.

That's the ticket. Order big or go home.

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by Annette on Feb 9^th, 2008, 11:46pm

Just a thought, I started working from 15 years old, putting myself through medical school and paid for my own wedding, all from my own savings working during school holidays at various department stores. On top of that I bought my ( widowed ) mother half of her furnitures. It taught me to be responsible and rely on myself. It has served me very well through life.

On the other hand, my younger brother ( the only boy ) was given everything on a plate. To this day, he lives with my mother and expects her to pay for almost everything. He has never had a full time job. I guess he figured he didnt need to.

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by MR_FLOOR on Feb 10^th, 2008, 2:32am

I myself am a firm believer in making them earn stuff whatever it is. Maybe help with chores or yard work or maybe clean out the garage. I always felt the an item earned was much more valued and or appreciated than an item given. Thats just me.

Dave

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by E-Double on Feb 10^th, 2008, 7:20am

on 02/09/08 at 23:46:42, Annette wrote:

Me too.........w/ exception to widowed parent
I still say help the kid out if he has shown throughout his history to be a responsible kid.

Hugs and cheers to a playroom

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by Kevin_M on Feb 10^th, 2008, 7:35am

I take it maybe it's a 7 by 3 1/2 table, which is about 8 by 4 with rails. Make sure you have the length of a pool stick up to the edge of the inside cushion on each side around it in the room so there's space to shoot.

You'll need to hang a pool cue rack for a couple house sticks and a bridge, a place for supplies like extra chalk and a hand whisk broom, maybe a chalk board or some way to keep score, nobody remembers shit. Room for about two raised chairs like bar stools with backs, getting up out of a regular low chair to shoot won't be comfortable with pool, and some standing around out of the way space. It has to have some pool room atmosphere, think ventilation too if smoking.

The sound carries and noise factor is LOUD, especially breaking, friends hanging can get frequent, sometimes after the bar closes, talk is loud in enclosed rooms, and keep beer handy, lots. Oh, and then you'll need a card room for the friends along not shooting, you may see the sunrise more times than you think.

I know this goes a little beyond what you may intend but it's cool to have a friend or two over for fun rather than go out, but sometimes things develop. I can tell you eons more about that. ;)

Make sure it will all work out for you, store the furniture with no decision as to what to do with it until you've had the six months with the table, then a decision will come easier.

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by BarbaraD on Feb 10^th, 2008, 7:50am

Give him the furniture and LET HIM STORE IT! That way he'll have it in 6-7 months. If he's making as much as you are and living at home - no problem....

When our son was in college we gave him a duplex on the condition he move that weekend while we still liked him. Later we realized we should have made him pay for it (too late). He didn't appreciate the gift, but if he'd had to pay for it, he would have learned a lesson in the real world.

Sometimes we have to "let our kids learn what it's like not to have everything" given to them (and it's not easy). We don't like to see them do without when we've got it sitting around, but..... they'll appreciate things a lot more if they work for them. Doing without is good - builds character (just look around at all the things you've got and remember how hard you worked to get them).

Hugs BD

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by sandie99 on Feb 10^th, 2008, 9:16am

What comes to me, I've been buying things for my own home for years and now I'm slowly moving them from my childhood home to our place (problem is the space; we already have lots of stuff and very little room...).

When I moved to study in London, I happily lived in a tiny room with a bed, table, chair, lamp, radio, bathroom/shower and a kitchen I shared with 5 other people. I was happy and didn't need much more.

These days mom wants to give us a lot of stuff she doesn't need anymore, which is nice idea in theory, but because lack of space we must refuse most of them.

My thoughts: give them to him, but if you need to storage those things, make him find a suitable place for them.

Sanna

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by Charlie on Feb 10^th, 2008, 4:22pm

Quote:

Make him think you're going to sell it to him (at a good price), then surprise him by giving it to him when he's ready to write the check.

Then make him take you out to a nice dinner.

I always liked this. My dad did it a number of times starting when I was a kid.

Charlie

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by brewcrew on Feb 10^th, 2008, 6:34pm

on 02/10/08 at 16:22:20, Charlie wrote:

I always liked this. My dad did it a number of times starting when I was a kid.

Charlie

So did my dad, Charlie. He was a great guy, and I miss him every day.

Title: Re: Sell it or give it?
Post by purpleydog on Feb 10^th, 2008, 6:53pm

I would give him the furniture, then tell him he has a certain amount of time to move it (say 30 days). Let him store it, he can afford it. If he doesn't want it, then put it up for sale, or donate it, and take the tax deduction.