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(Message started by: Tiannia on Jan 11^th, 2008, 12:05pm)

Title: Damn I'm screwed, sad, freaking.. ( a vent)
Post by Tiannia on Jan 11^th, 2008, 12:05pm

All this is just a vent for me. I need to be able to freak out somewhere and I know that you don't mind if I do it here.

Well, sh1t. I got my check on the 31st and they took 70% of it out with taxes. I am not used to a state income tax and that really really hurt. Part of it is my own damn fault because in Nevada I always marked my w-4 as married but at the single rate and never used any dependents on it. So I have changed it to married with 3. That will help some.

But after not getting a check for 6 weeks and then to get a short check I don't know how we are going to live for the next 3 weeks. After rent, utilities and car payment and car insurance, we have less then $100 in our account. And when my next check comes in it will be the same thing. I just feel it snow balling on me. :'(

Shaun is looking for work but it took me 6 months to get a job and I had current experience. He has been not working for the past 3 years, as he stayed home to take care of our son while he was having surgery on his ears and was so sick. Because of the time has was having to take off work (as the insurance was thru my work and I made more money then him in Vegas) it was costing us more to pay for day care then he was bringing home. So we decided to have him stay home and take care of the kids and stuff. He has gone to temp companied and their comment is that because he does not have work exp that is current they can not help him. How in the fuck is he supposed to get exp if no one will hire him? >:( Now he is getting punished for taking care of our kids. How in the hell is that fair?

I just feel so f'ing screwed as I cant see a way out of this. Even if he gets a job, we dont have the money to put the kids in teh after school program so he can work. What a f'ed up catch 22.

And on top of it, I want a damn SMOKE. :-X

Thanks for letting me vent.

Tia

Title: Re: Damn I'm screwed, sad, freaking.. ( a vent)
Post by DennisM1045 on Jan 11^th, 2008, 12:12pm

[smiley=hug.gif]

I'm sorry Tia. Just keep plugging away hun. That's all we can ever do. Once Shaun finds something (anything!) it'll start to get better. Till then you just do what you can.

-Dennis-

Title: Re: Damn I'm screwed, sad, freaking.. ( a vent)
Post by chewy on Jan 11^th, 2008, 12:16pm

I've been in that circumstance with unexpected tax lies on my pay. Once you get over the intial shock you'll get a plan together.

Pay the rent, buy the food, contact all others and tell them they'll have to wait.

Title: Re: Damn I'm screwed, sad, freaking.. ( a vent)
Post by aubmari on Jan 11^th, 2008, 12:16pm

Hang in there T! :-*and vent away. I am sorry you are having a rough time right now but things are bound to improve. (and will)

A month ago I thought there was no way I would prevail in my current situation and against all odds things got better. ;)

My wish for you is the same and hopefully sooner than later!

aubmari

Title: Re: Damn I'm screwed, sad, freaking.. ( a vent)
Post by tessistired on Jan 11^th, 2008, 12:30pm

I'm sorry Tia you are going through a hard time right now.

As a single mom I do understand how hard times can be financially but just keep your head high and dont lose faith that things will get better. I am praying for you and your family and good luck with continuing not to smoke!

MANY BLESSINGS TO YOU AND YOURS!!

TESS

Title: Re: Damn I'm screwed, sad, freaking.. ( a vent)
Post by Tiannia on Jan 11^th, 2008, 12:50pm

Thanks guys. Sometimes it just helps to be able to freak somewhere. I cant freak with Shaun because he is tearing himself up because he can not take care of his family.

We will get thru. One way or the other.

I talked shaun into going down to the Div of Family Services as they have a job center there. Maybe they can help him find something.

Title: Re: Damn I'm screwed, sad, freaking.. ( a vent)
Post by Melissa on Jan 11^th, 2008, 12:52pm

Tia, you have just moved, you just quit smoking and things are crazy right now, but I promise you, this is only temporary. You'll get through this! And I COMPLETELY understand about the predicament your hubby is in. It's like you're damned if you do, damned if you don't.

We're going through our taxes right now (haven't gotten statements yet, but house/land taxes are due at the end of the month) and I am having to give up my piddly little savings just to pay the phone/cable/internet bill. I was soooo close to my savings goal for my new camera all to see it gone before it's even all here! Now that may not seem a big deal to some, but to me, a SAHM with no outside income, I worked my butt off and waited a long time to get to this point!

Anyway, big *HUGS* to you. It'll be alright!!

Title: Re: Damn I'm screwed, sad, freaking.. ( a vent)
Post by Ray on Jan 11^th, 2008, 12:57pm

Dear Tiannia:

As far as money problems go, I'm right there with you! I'll be praying for you and knowing that you'll do the best you can. Perhaps you can qualify for food stamps or something to take some of the weight off of your shoulders -- It's not a crime to get some help if you need it!

Ray

Title: Re: Damn I'm screwed, sad, freaking.. ( a vent)
Post by Annette on Jan 11^th, 2008, 5:09pm

Vent away Tianna and its OK to freak out here. Its good to release all tension and frustration, dont hold it in.

Money will always be a problem. When I was a student working part time making $2.50 an hour I struggled. Now I am making 100 times that I am still struggling as now I have to pay more taxes, higher insurance costs, bigger premiums and increasing over head costs.

Vent away then sit down and work through a plan. Buy only the essentials for now and keep looking for the next opportunity, it will come.

All the best.

Title: Re: Damn I'm screwed, sad, freaking.. ( a vent)
Post by fubar on Jan 11^th, 2008, 6:05pm

I hope this doesn't hit you the wrong way, but this is something I learned a long time ago. If you remain calm, and look very carefully at your situation, there is a way to make it all work. I have always said 'the universe provides what I need' and it has always been true. What I need may not always (ever?) be what I want, but if I need it I get it somehow without a struggle. Just relax, evaluate, and act. It's a simple plan, but it works.

Fu has spoken :)

Title: Re: Damn I'm screwed, sad, freaking.. ( a vent)
Post by artonio7 on Jan 11^th, 2008, 6:19pm

on 01/11/08 at 18:05:26, fubar wrote:

This seems to be so much of what I have come to know as reality. We are all here praying that the universe will expedite what ever it is that you need to make it work. There's no limit to what positive energy will do.

I know how frustrating things can be when finances just fall far to short of living expenses. We learn to become very industrious or very creative in making things work. My knee jerk response here is to write out a check... put it in the mail and hope that it will help.... I have 23 dollars to get me through the rest of the month... so that is not an option. What I can do though is put up something of mine for sell here and send you the proceeds.

I'm a portrait artist... if someone would like to commission a pencil sketch I will have the money directed to you... I don't even want to handle the money.

If anyone here on the board would like to help in the matter... please PM me privately and I will make the arrangements.

with warm regards,
Tony

Title: Re: Damn I'm screwed, sad, freaking.. ( a vent)
Post by Tiannia on Jan 11^th, 2008, 7:47pm

Tony you are a sweetheart.

I know that it will work out. It always has in the past. And I know that somehow it will work out now. But there is that part of me that wants to be 6 and say it is not fair.

It is just that I have to be a support to Shaun because this is really hard on him as he feels like he has let us down.

I love you all so much.

Thank you for letting me vent freak and then be able to look at our options with a clearer mind.

/huggs Tia