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(Message started by: sandie99 on Jan 10^th, 2008, 6:08am)

Title: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by sandie99 on Jan 10^th, 2008, 6:08am

My cousin is getting married this weekend and I'm working on a card for the joyful occasion.

I do not have any beautiful poems ready, but I have some nice thoughts I can add to the card.

But if you happen to have some cute/funny/otherwise appropriate advice I could add to the card, I'd love to get them. :)

Sanna

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by Dape on Jan 10^th, 2008, 8:44am

Remember. Marriage is the number one cause of divorce.

And. Statistically, 100% of all divorces start with marriage.
[smiley=laugh.gif] [smiley=laugh.gif] [smiley=laugh.gif]

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by Mosaicwench on Jan 10^th, 2008, 9:18am

"May the best day of your past be the worst day of your future together."

That's always a nice sentiment to pass on to newlyweds.

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by Maffumatt on Jan 10^th, 2008, 10:02am

best advice I can give can be summed up in one word. Don"t.

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by sandie99 on Jan 10^th, 2008, 10:09am

Matt, they're so in love that they will... ;;D

Two years after they met, they're saying "I do" in front of their parents, siblings and siblings' partners tomorrow and then celebrate the union with a rock- style party for the rest of us on Saturday.

And the love, happiness & commitment is spreading; the bride's younger sister actually proposed her boyfriend of 5 years earlier this month, so one day there'll be another wedding! ;;D Don't know how soon, though, because they're 22.

Hmm... if my other cousin (who is also 27 just like me & the bride to be) will ask his parther to marry him, I might soon face some pressure from the family. Oh crap... :-X

Sanna

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by aprilbee on Jan 10^th, 2008, 10:23am

oldie but goodie...

Live like there is no tomorrow

Dance like no one is watching and

Love like you have never been hurt...(this one is my favorite, and probably the hardest one to accomplish) ;)

Good Luck!

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by Guiseppi on Jan 10^th, 2008, 10:44am

Love like you've never been hurt,
Dance like no one is watching,
Screw like it's being filmed,
And drink like a true Irish Man.

(Dad's advice)

Talk......silence is deadly

(Mom's advice)

Combined they helped us celebrate our 25th anniversary in September. Give them my best, still the BEST decision I ever made!

Guiseppi

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by Rosybabe on Jan 10^th, 2008, 11:01am

I like this card

http://i152.photobucket.com/albums/s177/TexasBeck499/WeddingCongratulations.gif

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by Mosaicwench on Jan 10^th, 2008, 12:33pm

on 01/10/08 at 10:44:15, Guiseppi wrote:

Love like you've never been hurt,
Dance like no one is watching,
Screw like it's being filmed,

http://img142.echo.cx/img142/6573/ewwww9dq.gif

Did you have to say that out loud??? :o

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by DennisM1045 on Jan 10^th, 2008, 12:56pm

(From my Father)

A successful marriage is not 50-50. It's really more like 80-20.

Do you know who the 80% goes to?

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Whoever needs it at the time.

-Dennis-

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by Gena on Jan 10^th, 2008, 1:11pm

Well if you have read the davcon thread you would think that my advice would be to RUN!!!

But the best advice I can think of is:

Try always to think of the other person first.

This is not very easy to accomplish, but if you try and each manage it about half the time.

All will be well :-*

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by thomas on Jan 10^th, 2008, 1:14pm

on 01/10/08 at 13:11:19, Gena wrote:

Well if you have read the davcon thread you would think that my advice would be to RUN!!!

Funny, that's what I was thinking.

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by Guiseppi on Jan 10^th, 2008, 1:58pm

Did you have to say that out loud???

Deep thought.....dang....that WAS my outside voice again wasn't it............dang :-[

Guiseppi

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by jimmers on Jan 10^th, 2008, 2:46pm

Tell her to be a good housekeeper!

If he screws up, make sure she keeps the house! ;;D

Tell them Good Luck!

Jimmers

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by BMoneeTheMoneeMan on Jan 11^th, 2008, 12:46am

:-X

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by sandie99 on Jan 11^th, 2008, 2:59am

Thank you all. :) ;;D

They have a prenup, so no worries about possible screw ups in the future.

Pat, I'll try to translate that into Finnish - it can be hard to keep the original content, but I'll try.

Rosy, that was beautiful. :)

April, I didn't recall that one, thank you! :)

Guiseppi, I don't think I could say that out loud and keep a streight face! ;;D

Dennis and Gena, thank you, those are good reminders to add.

Sanna

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by marlinsfan on Jan 11^th, 2008, 9:55am

wait at least 5 years before they have kids. we waited 10, and are glad we did. marriage turns to parenthood once the kids arrive, so they should enjoy each other for some time before they turn their attention to the babies!

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by Jonny on Jan 11^th, 2008, 4:09pm

on 01/11/08 at 00:46:22, BMoneeTheMoneeMan wrote:

:-X

Hell must have froze over, because I agree with B$

:-X

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by brewcrew on Jan 11^th, 2008, 4:14pm

on 01/11/08 at 02:59:52, sandie99 wrote:

They have a prenup, so no worries about possible screw ups in the future.

How romantic.

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by Annette on Jan 11^th, 2008, 4:34pm

Prenups are interesting, when people draw up prenups does that mean they already dont trust each other even before they get married ?

But then people who dont have prenups often get burnt when things go sour !

What to do? Be romantic and risk suffering or Be unromantic but smart ? [smiley=huh.gif]

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by Melissa on Jan 11^th, 2008, 4:45pm

Jesse had a prenup drawn up before we got married. Of course, his uncle had just been through a nasty divorce and Jess had some things, including land, that he was scared of losing.

It didn't matter one bit to me until we had been married for 5 years. But of course, me being the sweet person I am, let it go. ;)

Then on our 7th anniversary he took the papers and threw them into the fireplace. ;;D

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by Annette on Jan 11^th, 2008, 4:51pm

I guess then if one has a lot of asset that one can potentially lose ( like if one is Angelina Jolie ) then its a smart thing to draw up a prenup.

If one doesnt have a cent in the pocket then one can be as romantic as one wants.

The conclusion : one cant afford to be romantic if one is rich ? :P

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by sandie99 on Jan 12^th, 2008, 3:03am

They say that love is blind, but relatives are not. So, the first thing my mother said to my aunt: get them sign a prenup. May be nothing romantic, especially, when the only thing at risk is the tiny appartent she owns, but if things would turn sour one year (they both are feisty as hell), that probably will be a small comfort.

When my parents got married, they had a prenup, which prevented the possible debts dad would inherit from his father to hurt their future.

And I already know that my mother would never forgive me if I'd get married before signing a prenup.These days it seems to be common sense back in here.

And to return to the happy couple and the idea of children... the groom announced on Christmas Eve that he already knows what he'll do if they'll have kids: he will take a pic of his wife and their baby and then turn that pic into a permant tattoo to his chest. I had to ask, what will happen if they'll have more than one kid and he said that then he'll must find another spot for another tattoo made out of pic... ;) But knowing the bride and the terrified look on her face there and then, they'll wait before having kids! ;;D

Sanna

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by artonio7 on Jan 12^th, 2008, 6:32am

Here is a list of things that a card writer came up with after his nasty divorce....... it was the best he could do before he was fired.

We've promised to sign each others prenups and to live together as happily as possible without killing each other until we need to use them...

or

We'll stay together because we like each other... we'll be together until we don't.

or

We don't hate each other yet... and when we can't stand being in the same room together we'll get a lawyer to tell us which furniture to fight for and why.

or.

We're together now... we'll probably be together tomorrow... or at least until all the great gifts have lost their usefulness or have broken.

or

We need the tax break... so we'll do this until they change the tax laws.

or

We always liked blonde kids... chances are that's what we'll produce. We'll stay together until the child is old enough to realize that we really don't like each other.

with warm regards,
Tony

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by E-Double on Jan 12^th, 2008, 7:17am

communicate!

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by Shedz on Jan 12^th, 2008, 10:04am

TALK, talk to each other about everything, and NEVER stop talking to each other ;)

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by brewcrew on Jan 12^th, 2008, 8:58pm

Sorry, a prenuptual agreement acts to undermine the very fabric of what marriage is all about.

Just my humble opinion - take it for what it's worth. Anything that says "If things don't work out, _______" is completely and utterly contrary to "until death do us part."

Call me old fashioned.

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by Groov on Jan 12^th, 2008, 9:05pm

PFFFFF, don't take my advise...I sure & the hell don't know how to pick em !!!!

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by LeLimey on Jan 13^th, 2008, 7:04am

on 01/12/08 at 20:58:56, brewcrew wrote:

Call me old fashioned too then cos I agree. Now I understood the point above from Sandie about potential family debts not affecting them and that sort of thing is different, that is protecting the marriage not protecting against it. Apart from those sort of reasons though - I think it's a very jaded way to enter into what is supposed to be a lifelong commitment.

Sanna I always like the quote that marriage isn't just looking into each others eyes, its standing together and looking forward in the same direction.

Helen

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by zwibbs/Scott on Jan 13^th, 2008, 7:09am

I'm Old Fashioned Too. It is a lifelong commitment to each other, and if that simple principle doesn't apply ,then they should reconsider.

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by andrewjb on Jan 13^th, 2008, 4:36pm

:P, run to the hill's, count your blessing's. sincerely, andrew.

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by barry_sword on Jan 13^th, 2008, 5:07pm

Sanna, old school here also. We remember our vows and stick by them. After 25 years we have been through a few un-happy moments, even been apart from each other when we were 20 something, but here we are today celebrating! ;)

I hope they are happy together forever! :)

Cheers to the newlyweds [smiley=thumb.gif]

Barry&Angie :)

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by Langa on Jan 15^th, 2008, 9:01am

Marriage is not easy, but it really is worth the work, in my opinion. As E2 stated, COMMUNICATION, don't let things bottled up inside or they'll come out in other nasty ways :P. Also COMPROMISE and never go to sleep angry.

Well, maybe not NEVER...make up sex is great too!

Congrats to the new couple.

Langa

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by sandie99 on Jan 15^th, 2008, 9:05am

BTW, does someone want to see a pic of the couple?

I took nearly 50 pics myself and I got via email the official wedding pic, taken by a family friend who is a professional photographer.

I haven't downloaded any pics to photobucket yet, but if you're interested, I'll do that.

Sanna

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by Dape on Jan 15^th, 2008, 9:14am

on 01/15/08 at 09:01:16, Langa wrote:

never go to sleep angry.

Stay up and continue fighting ;;D

I would like to see a pic when you get round to uploading them.

Dape

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by sandie99 on Jan 15^th, 2008, 10:01am

I downloaded couple pictures from the wedding. There's now 2 pics of the couple (different sizes), pic of the cake (which was chocolate in case it's too dark to tell) and a pic of the flower bucket (the bucket of passion as the bride called it). Enjoy! :)
http://s19.photobucket.com/albums/b176/sandie99/

Sanna

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by brewcrew on Jan 15^th, 2008, 10:05am

Great looking couple, Sanna! Nice pics!

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by midwestbeth on Jan 15^th, 2008, 10:38am

A few quotes on marriage:

The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
~Robert Dodds

A happy home is one in which each spouse grants the possibility that the other may be right, though neither believes it.
~Jean Stapleton

A wife lasts only for the length of the marriage, but an ex-wife is there for the rest of your life.
~Woddy Allen

Beth ;)

Title: Re: Advice to a soon to be wed couple?
Post by aprilbee on Jan 15^th, 2008, 11:15am

on 01/15/08 at 09:01:16, Langa wrote:

...make up sex is great too!

Langa

AMEN Sista! ;) I LOVE to pick a fight.... tee hee ;;D