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(Message started by: Night_Owl on Oct 28th, 2003, 2:20pm)
Title: Sad News
Post by Night_Owl on Oct 28th, 2003, 2:20pm
My mom passed away last night, about 11:40.  My dad and I were with her.  It seems every time I post I have nothing good to say, so sorry for that.  I am running on very little sleep, so I am pretty numb at the moment.  I'm 17, for those who don't know me.  I have a younger sister who is 11.  My grandparents have been staying with us throughout the course of my mom's treatments for her cancer.  She had adnocarcenoma, with no known origin.  This spread rapidly throughout her body.  My dad is very depressed, along with my grandparents, and my sister has been crying a lot.  I am alright for the time being I think.  Hit a k9 really fast last night, but was able to get rid of it within the hour.  I have taken a lot of time off of school, and won't go back for the remainder of the term.  Sorry if this is unclear or odd, I can't think too straight.  It's funny how you think you have all the time in the world to do or say whatever you need to.  I have been trying to get myself prepared for this time, and I thought I was for a while, but you can never get yourself prepared for this sort of thing.  I just needed to type this all out, and thankyou for listening.  Also, thankyou to those of you who have been continually supportive through all of this.  I love you guys.

Cassi
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by Ree on Oct 28th, 2003, 2:23pm
I am so sorry Cassi... I just don't know what to say other than your mom is at rest now.  I was 17 when I became a mother and I cannot imagine living without mine... I will pray for you and your dad... God bless you both...   Love ree
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by thomas on Oct 28th, 2003, 2:39pm
I am so sorry about the loss of your mother. :'(
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by Karla on Oct 28th, 2003, 2:43pm
So sorry to hear of your loss.  I will pray for your family that you can find some peace and comfort in this. [smiley=hug.gif] A big hug for you.  Remember we are here anytime for you.  I will also pray that you get a quick break in your cluster headaches  right now.   Take care and be well.
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by echo on Oct 28th, 2003, 2:45pm
Sorry to read of the loss of your mother.  You have quite the load on your sholders.  I pray the beast will leave you alone.
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by TomM on Oct 28th, 2003, 2:49pm
Cheese and Rice! What a cross to bear at such a  young age.
I wish you nothing but fair winds and  following seas as you plot a course through these troubled waters.
TomM
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by Tiannia on Oct 28th, 2003, 3:09pm
I am very sorry to hear such sad new sweetie.  Please make sure to take a little time for yourself.  You sound so strong, but you need your time to be sad as well.  Please know that we are all here for you.

Blessed be,
Tia
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by gmlevenhagen on Oct 28th, 2003, 3:11pm
[smiley=hug.gif]

I am so sorry.  We are all here for you.

Gena
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by Melissa on Oct 28th, 2003, 3:19pm
Oh sweetheart, I am so sorry for your loss!!  I don't think I could fathom losing my mom at your age, it was hard enough losing her when I was 27.  Please remember you have a friend in me if you ever need me.  You just take all the time you need to take care of yourself and your family, ok?  Lots of love, hugs and prayers for you Cassi...

love,
melissa
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by cootie on Oct 28th, 2003, 3:20pm
So sorry Cassi.......oddly enuff things like this at such a young age makes us grow up alot faster then planned.....almost too fast ! Hang in there and stay strong....your goin thru alot more then a normal young person yer age.....let it make you strong and don't let it weaken you. Super good vibes to you and your family and PF vibes to you for your head pain goin on. Stick around.....they'll be alot of people here "for you" when you need them. Pam that is so very sorry for your bad times
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by Peppermint on Oct 28th, 2003, 3:21pm
Aw Cassi....I am so very very sorry.   :(

You've been through hell and back through all these months, I don't think you could've managed better than you have been doing. I'm so sorry for slacking on the communication,  I would hope that anything you need you know you can ask - and I mean that.

Whatever time you shared with your mom, hold on to the things you shared, and the memories you made, and know that she will always be in your heart and watching over you.

Cassi, I'm really sorry sweetie, so much to say and yet no way to say it.  Hold on tight to your loved ones and all the love around you.  

I'll be praying for you... I'm only an email or phone call away kiddo.  

Hugs,
Pepp
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by taraann on Oct 28th, 2003, 3:34pm
Hi Cassi I am so very sorry to hear about your mother.  I am the oldest of four, I'm 26 my brother is 17, my sisters are 18 and 24.  Our mother passed a little more than 2 yrs ago.  I feel your pain and if you ever want to talk you feel free to email me.  Also if you want to talk with someone your age who knows what you are going through I can give you my brother and sisters email address.  I can imagine this feels very surreal to you and for me that was the hardest part...just accepting the fact that she is gone.  You just know that you and your family are in many ppls thoughts and prayers right now.  And you remember your mother is now at peace.
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by BarbaraD on Oct 28th, 2003, 3:41pm
My sympathy and prayers to you. I know what it's like to lose Mom. When you lose your mother - you lose HOME no matter what age (I was 50 when mine died).

Hugs to you sweetie

BD
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by Margi on Oct 28th, 2003, 3:51pm
Our condolences, Cassi.   :'(  Our prayers are with you and your family now.  Ree's right, your Mom is at peace now.
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by OneEyeBlind on Oct 28th, 2003, 4:00pm
Cassie, I am so sorry.  I'll keep your family in my prayers.  Loosing a mother is something I cannot comprehend, I still have mine.  I've experienced lots of losses in life, but I still have my mom to cry to.  I'll be holding you and your family in my heart tonight.  
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by Jackie on Oct 28th, 2003, 6:46pm
Our deepest sympathy to you and your family, Cassi.
My heart goes out to you.....we will keep you all in our prayers.

Jackie
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by goaway on Oct 28th, 2003, 6:55pm
Cassi-

Words are never adequate at times such as now.  Unfortunately, words are the only way that we have to express that our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

God bless you all.

Mike
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by catlind on Oct 28th, 2003, 7:18pm
Cassi I am so very sorry to hear about your loss.  Words can't make it better, but sometimes they can be a comfort.

Native American Prayer

I give you this one thought to keep -
I am with you still - I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle Autumn rain.
When you awaken in the mornings hush,
I am the swift, uplifting rush
of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not think of me as gone -
I am with you still -- in each new dawn.

May you find peace in your heart

Cat
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by Opus on Oct 28th, 2003, 7:33pm
Cassi,
   I am sorry to hear the end finally came, I was hoping for your family to have a better outcome. I felt bad that I couldn't help you much but I am glad to hear you had other support. I will be praying for your family and for you to get some PF time soon.

Don't worry about having nothing good to say, your time will come.

Opus/Paul
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by Elaine on Oct 28th, 2003, 7:39pm
I am so very sorry for your lost!  My prayers are with you and your family. Remeber she may have been taken from your arms, but she wasn't taken from your heart, she will always be there for you!
God Bless
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by Night_Owl on Oct 28th, 2003, 8:15pm
Thankyou all so much for your support and kind words.  This has been one of the hardest things I have ever dealt with.  Life can only get better I figure, this about tops it.  Thanks again.

Cassi              
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by Roxy on Oct 28th, 2003, 8:19pm
Cassi, I am so sorry that you and your family are having to go through this.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.  If there is anything I can do to help.....please let me know.  I know that life sometimes sucks and seems so unfair, but I remember you telling me about how much pain your Mom was in.....just try as hard as you can to think of her at peace now.  She will always live on in your heart.

Tracey
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by stevegeebe on Oct 28th, 2003, 8:20pm
It will Cassi.

Sorry about your loss.

Steve G
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by taraann on Oct 28th, 2003, 8:23pm

on 10/28/03 at 20:15:23, Night_Owl wrote:
Thankyou all so much for your support and kind words.  This has been one of the hardest things I have ever dealt with.  Life can only get better I figure, this about tops it.  Thanks again.

Cassi              

It really does get better.  Your mom will always be with you in your heart and in your memories.  That saying that time heals all wounds is very true, it will take alot of time but that horrible hurt you feel will be less and less consuming over time.
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by grumpett on Oct 28th, 2003, 8:28pm
I am so sorry about your loss.
I was just cleaning out a file of cards and clippings before i came on this site and came across this clipping, I don't know where it came from, but I think it is really appropriate to share it with you!   I hope you get the same feeling!

When tomorrow starts without me, and I'm not there to see: If the sun should rise and find your eyes all filled with tears for me; I wish so much you wouldn't cry the way you did today, While thinking of the many things we didn't get to say.
I know how much you love me, as much as I love you. And each time you think of me I know you'll miss me too:
But when tomorrow starts without me, please try to understand, that an angel came and called my name and took me by the hand. and said my place was ready in heaven far above and that I'd have to leave behind all those I dearly love. But as I turned to walk away, a tear fell from my eye for all life, I'd always thouight I didn't want to die. I had so much to live for and so much yet to do, it seemed almost impossible that I was leaving you. So when tomorrow starts without me, don't think were far apart, for every time you think of me, I'm right here in your heart.

I think this is from your mom!

Debbie
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by Mastifflvr28 on Oct 28th, 2003, 10:04pm
I'm so sorry to hear of the news NiteOwl.  We all thought about you a lot in chat and my condolences go out to you and your family.
Take care sweety,
Love Mast
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by Patrick_A on Oct 28th, 2003, 11:24pm
Dear Cassi,
                 I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my Mom to Cancer not too long ago myself. It is and probably always will be the low point of my life. I know you must be in shock now no matter how much you thought you was prepared. Try to talk to people who care about you. This will let out some of that anguish that you will surely feel in the coming months.
I went through about 4 phases. 1st phase i was shocked, 2nd phase i was mad, 3 phase i was depressed, 4th phase i started the long process of healing. I guess i am still healing even now.
If you need someone to talk with, Please contact me. We can talk by E-mail or phone, whatever ya feel comfortable with.

Thinking of you tonight, and in my prayers, Patrick
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by Edna on Oct 28th, 2003, 11:36pm
Cassi, I am so sorry you have had to experience such a sad loss. You are in my prayers tonight, and so is the soul of your mother. May she rest in God's peace, now that her suffering here on earth is done.

I hope you and your family draw strength from each other during this sad time.

I also hope that you come and be with us as you need us, and know we care about you.

Hoping the ch leaves you alone at this time.

God bless you and keep you close in this time,
EDNA
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by nancyc on Oct 29th, 2003, 12:38am
Oh, sweetie, you are in my prayers...please let me know if there is anything i can do for you...we love you, Cassi...nancyc
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by tsayswhy on Oct 29th, 2003, 1:00am
Cassi

no words could ever take away your pain :'(
but from my heart i am really sorry you have to go through!!

you and your family are in my prayers..
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by brain_cramps on Oct 29th, 2003, 1:09am
Cassi

I'm so sorry to hear this.  It seems there is so much to be said, but the right words just aren't there.  

It is so hard to watch someone so close fight an awful battle like that, but remember that she is done her fighting and is no longer in pain.

I'm hoping and praying for you, your dad, and your sister.  I'm sure your mom will remain in your heart forever and she is now in a place more beautiful than she ever imagined.

You know how to get ahold of me and I'll be there for you any time.

Prayers to you and your family,
Grant
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by Svenn on Oct 29th, 2003, 1:28am
My sympathy and prayers to you my friend

Take care

Svenn
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by ave on Oct 29th, 2003, 5:50am
Cassi, I am so sorry to hear that. Being 17, a clusterhead and then loaded with the grief of your father and sister on top of your own - it is heard to bear.
I am thinking of you real hard.

If there's anything any of us can do for you, these hard times, anything in a practical sense, just ask, you hear!You never know when somebody may be able to help.
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by And on Oct 29th, 2003, 6:04am
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Our deepest sympathy and prayers to you and your family. Andrea :'(
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by suzy617 on Oct 29th, 2003, 6:20am
Dear Cassi,
My deepest sympathy to you and your family.  I lost my Mom a few months ago and although I am much older then you I understand the pain you must be going thru. I believe they are watching over us now, like our guardian angels. No more pain, in peace now and will be there waiting for us one day with open arms.
I pray for you that you will be strong and you will see pf days soon both in your heart and your head.

Suzy
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by sandie99 on Oct 29th, 2003, 6:54am
Hi Cassi...

I am so sorry for your loss... :(

Losing a parent is hard, I know it myself. I lost my dad when I was also 17, back in 1997. He had brain cancer.  :'(

I am happy that you were there when it happened and got the chance to say goodbye. It helps. Time does make things easier,  so let yourself have that. I still cry at times when I think of my dad.

I'll send a prayer for you. I wish you streght to deal with it all! :)


Best wishes,
sandie99
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by Jimmy_B on Oct 29th, 2003, 7:20am
No amount of words can erase the loss of one's Mother...but let it be known that there are a lot of people who have experienced this pain, even at such a young age...& it does get easier to grieve and remember the good times you have shared. You never, ever forget, but it does get easier to face. :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(

Jim
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by Nadia on Oct 29th, 2003, 8:01am

Heart-felt sympathy.
Your mum will be inside your heart forever.
Our prayers are with you and your family.
Be strong.

Nadia and Zaira :'(
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by ShariRae on Oct 29th, 2003, 8:30am
oh sweetheart.. I am so sorry to hear this. I know things are difficult for you right now, just know we are all here for you...anytime. Remember to take time for you hon...to cry..to smile...to remember.
Love & prayers to you & your family.
Shari
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by Ann on Oct 29th, 2003, 10:55am
I'm very sorry for your loss...I can't possibly imagine what you are going through.

I'll be thinking of your sister, father and you in the days to come.

hugs
Ann
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by maggie_may on Oct 29th, 2003, 11:06am
Sorry to read about the loss of your mother, Cassi.  I'll be keeping you and your family in my prayers.

[smiley=hug.gif]
maggie
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by Leesa on Oct 29th, 2003, 5:08pm
Im so very sorry to hear this news  :'(  I have you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. I too lost my mother when I was only 12 but not due to cancer that got my father in 95. We are all here if you need us or want to talk dear. Your mom (just like both of my parents) will be with you forever. You will carry her in your heart for the rest of your days and that my dear nothing nor anyone can ever take away!
With love and prayers,
Leesa
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by ZAIRA on Oct 29th, 2003, 5:17pm

Sorry to hear about your loss. Our Condolences and Prayers go out to you and your family. God Bless. Zaira  :'(
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by cathy on Oct 29th, 2003, 5:20pm
Cassi, Im so sorry to hear of your loss, I lost my mum a few years ago I know what your feeling, the time heals the pain, and your left with the memories....hang in there. Prayers and thoughts with you and your family.  :'(

Cathy
Title: Re: Sad News
Post by Tim_w on Oct 29th, 2003, 10:07pm
Cassi
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and yours
Timw :'(


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