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(Message started by: lgodm on Oct 23^rd, 2006, 11:46pm)

Title: Odd Observation... Thoughts Welcome!
Post by lgodm on Oct 23^rd, 2006, 11:46pm

This comes from a totally odd premise, but bare with me.

I am one of those crazies that believe in the total mind-body approach to health, i.e. more stressed a person is, more likely to get sick, that many of our disease may be related to a mental state...

Now that many of you may be laughing at me, I noticed something when looking at those with myspace pages, certain topics, etc.

It seems that many that get cluster headaches are the type of people who like taking care of others, love to go out of their way to help those in need and end up the "Caretaker" in their circle of family and friends.

I was curious how many of you would describe yourself as having the "knight in shining armor" complex. I know I do! My entire life I've always been in the role of helping any one around, whether as therapist, parental figure, so on and so forth.

Whether you match this or this completely does not describe you, I'd like to know.

Title: Re: Odd Observation... Thoughts Welcome!
Post by Turts on Oct 23^rd, 2006, 11:50pm

Im only a knight in shining armour when there is a cute damsel in distress.

i do do things for others but not enought to say that it is a personality trait.

Turts

Title: Re: Odd Observation... Thoughts Welcome!
Post by Charlotte on Oct 23^rd, 2006, 11:54pm

I'm more of the big sister, oldest cousin type. I'm very impulsive and wear my heart on my sleeve.

However, I don't think this made my hypothalamous go out of wack. My husband now keeps his ear open for anything on tv or radio about hypothalamous and what it affects, and he always thinks it applies to me.

Charlotte

Title: Re: Odd Observation... Thoughts Welcome!
Post by Barry_T_Coles on Oct 24^th, 2006, 1:02am

I think you will find that it's the ones who do care are the one's that stay here.
The one's that couldn't give a shite don't.

Cheers
Barry

Title: Re: Odd Observation... Thoughts Welcome!
Post by BB on Oct 24^th, 2006, 5:21am

Uh oh ... if this theory is correct then I am going to get CH sooner or later :P

I care a lot but I am a supporter , and I dont have CH, or so I hope ...

Annette

Title: Re: Odd Observation... Thoughts Welcome!
Post by chopmyheadoff on Oct 24^th, 2006, 5:26am

just a little off topic here but who's in the picture annette ?? :)

BTW i do give a sh1t !! i hope thats not why i get CH . . . .

coz i can stop if it wants me too !!

Title: Re: Odd Observation... Thoughts Welcome!
Post by BarbaraD on Oct 24^th, 2006, 5:50am

Most (not all) of us do not have CH when we're really stressed. It's when we relax that we get hit.

It's just all in our heads... :)

Hugs BD

Title: Re: Odd Observation... Thoughts Welcome!
Post by pattik on Oct 24^th, 2006, 8:30am

on 10/24/06 at 01:02:11, Barry_T_Coles wrote:

I think you will find that it's the ones who do care are the one's that stay here.
The one's that couldn't give a shite don't.

Cheers
Barry

I couldn't agree more. I also think that experienceing CH, either directly or as a supporter may very well cause people to be more empathetic in general, not the other way around.

Title: Re: Odd Observation... Thoughts Welcome!
Post by TxBasslady on Oct 24^th, 2006, 2:51pm

Well, I don't have anything on "my space", but I do have CH.

I do support...but it's because I know how bad this pain is, and how bad it can get for others.

To say any of us are "knights in shining armors" doesn't seem to apply, just MHO.

Those who are here have become family to me. As a family, we share in supporting each other. This is done out of love, and not for a "role". We share in each others pain, and sometimes we help some on a more personal level, whenever we feel it's needed, and can really make a difference to that person.

Many here support, and they've never had CH. They support and they don't even have a spouse or regular family member with CH. Somehow, someway...they came here...and they've stayed. Then we have those who support because they do have a spouse or regular family member with CH. These supporter's are as much a part of this family as those of us who suffer.

"Angels".....is a much better description.

Jean

Title: Re: Odd Observation... Thoughts Welcome!
Post by Sandy_C on Oct 24^th, 2006, 4:49pm

Jean, that was an awesome response. It describes this website and the people who stick around here, whether a clusterhead in cycle, or out of cycle, or a supporter of a clusterhead, or, as you mentioned, someone who has no connection whatsoever with CH, but supports anyway.

I don't think anyone here, who either suffers from CH, supports someone with CH, or who just supports ,is here to gain a title like Knight in Shining Armor! I like your "angels" much better.

None of us are looking for a pat on the back or an "atta boy".

We are all here simply because we care.

Sandy

Title: Re: Odd Observation... Thoughts Welcome!
Post by Richr8 on Oct 24^th, 2006, 5:26pm

on 10/23/06 at 23:46:59, lgodm wrote:

"knight in shining armor"

ROFLMAO

Yeah! That describes everyone here. ;;D

Title: Re: Odd Observation... Thoughts Welcome!
Post by JeffB on Oct 24^th, 2006, 5:47pm

Hell of a way to introduce yourself. Are you writing a book or something?

Title: Re: Odd Observation... Thoughts Welcome!
Post by starlight on Oct 25^th, 2006, 5:54pm

Yes I am definitely the caretaker type of personality. Star

Title: Re: Odd Observation... Thoughts Welcome!
Post by SophiaK on Oct 25^th, 2006, 6:55pm

Oldest sister, took care of younger siblings, had to pull back years ago, still love being with grandchildren.

Title: Re: Odd Observation... Thoughts Welcome!
Post by HEY BAILEY on Oct 26^th, 2006, 11:09pm

Goodness, sometimes I think CareTaker is my middle name!! [smiley=laugh.gif]

But I have to disagree with whomever said that we don't get CH when we're stressed but it's after we relax that they come....At least for me the opposite has been true.....
Time to move to a deserted island and f@&k the time clock!
Bailey

Title: Re: Odd Observation... Thoughts Welcome!
Post by yikes-another-one on Oct 28^th, 2006, 11:43am

well, that stressed thing worked for me
i was a daycar teacher for a while...
would get a headache first thing inthe am...
but when the kids arrived, the beast went and hid...
about the time they settled for naps...watch out...winks.
he'd wake up and beat me up...
then as the kids woke back up....he'd slink away...
until they went home then I'd be in full battle mode
until blessed passing out...after 11pm....still in pain...

NEVER RELAX-
to quote one of my mentors....

hugs,
Tammy