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(Message started by: Redd715 on May 30^th, 2006, 10:54am)

Title: Educating the stubborn?
Post by Redd715 on May 30^th, 2006, 10:54am

Meg and Dyl informed me last week that they think their Dad is headed back into cycle. He told me he skipped his cycle last year, and from what he had said to me, they come every two years.

Even though he and I don't get along otherwise, I can't in good conscience not attempt to help him if possible, and so I asked him last night if this was accurate and he indeed is back in cycle.

He said there is no pattern to the attacks right now, and that the Excedrine Migraine and an ice pack appears to abort the attacks in a little over an hour. I tried to explain to him the nature of this disease, that the attack is running it's course and it's not the Excedrine and he refused to listen. He's been to the ER and had imitrex administered there, and I mentioned I have some here and would help out if need be. He again said the Excedrine is good enough.

Fine....suffer....as much as it pains me to say it. You can lead a hourse to water but..... No one deserves this hell, not even the idiot of an ex husband.

I guess there are things that will never change..... :-/

Title: Re: Educating the stubborn?
Post by Mattrf on May 30^th, 2006, 2:35pm

Does he know about this site?

He is probably like the rest of us who just get tired of all the people thinking they can help and have an idea of what we go through. I know I get irritated very fast at people suggesting treatments like acupuncture and yoga and other things, my canned response is always I would ware bananas on my head if I thought it would help but as we all know there are only a few things that do help and they don’t work for everyone so it is always a crapshoot.

Sounds like you have done what you can to help him so maybe it is just karma that is making him not except the help and instead to suffer?
[smiley=pokeeye.gif]

Title: Re: Educating the stubborn?
Post by Redd715 on May 30^th, 2006, 2:47pm

I was suffering when we were married. Not properly Dx at the time, and he rushed me to the ER on many occasions. The beast didn't find him till after we were divorced for about 6-7 years. During that time he would belittle me, be frustrated with the late night trips to the ER. Called me a whimp. When I was Dx two year ago, I immaturely threw it back in his face and asked him if I was still a whimp? He said sometimes it takes a while to lean from one's mistakes. (or something to that effect.)

Meg and Dyl have told him about the site, but he's too stubborn I guess, or the pain just isn't that bad. Maybe he's here and just lurking. If he won't listen to me, I at least hope to all the Powers that Be he'll read and help himself. We may not get along, but he is the father of my children, and no one deserves this sort of pain. Not even him.

Title: Re: Educating the stubborn?
Post by Mattrf on May 30^th, 2006, 2:53pm

I hear you, I have some people that I truly hate and I would still not wish this kind of suffering on them.
Karma is an interesting thing and I don’t think anyone is immune from it coming back to get to visit them, good or bad. All you can do is try and help if he chooses to ignore that help then that is his choice and he has to live with it. I will be the first to admit a Man can be a very stubborn thing.
8)

Title: Re: Educating the stubborn?
Post by Redd715 on May 30^th, 2006, 2:56pm

on 05/30/06 at 14:53:12, Mattrf wrote:

I will be the first to admit a Man can be a very stubborn thing.
8)

As far as he's ever been concerned I've never had an intelligent thing to say anyway. [smiley=laugh.gif]

Hence the reason I wrote at first....

Quote:

I guess there are things that will never change..... :-/

Title: Re: Educating the stubborn?
Post by Charlotte on May 30^th, 2006, 3:13pm

Redd, he can't be that smart or he would never have let you go.

We know that we can't fix anyone. I am sorry that his pain is causing you suffering.

I know that I like to tough things out - more often than is wise. I have to assume that if he is able to tough it out, he will. If he ever needs help and wants it, well, he knows where to look.

Charlotte

Title: Re: Educating the stubborn?
Post by Tom K on May 30^th, 2006, 5:50pm

Redd, I say this in all sinsarity(sp)...F'ck 'em. If someone doesn't want to listen, nothing is going to help them. You could give him O2 and 'trex injection and it would "just be the ha running it's course". Can't fix stupid or stubborn. Sorry, the blunt gene is coming to surface again...damn it!