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(Message started by: carriefu on Jan 27^th, 2006, 9:43am)

Title: independence lost??
Post by carriefu on Jan 27^th, 2006, 9:43am

has anyone in here felt like their spouse is so afraid to set them off that they start taking care of EVERYTHING????

im trying to be grateful...but, its getting on that very sensitive last nerve!!!!

Title: Re: independence lost??
Post by marlinsfan on Jan 27^th, 2006, 10:22am

Not here! Mine knows that when I'm cyle, if I relax I get hammered. SO..... she makes ME do everything!!

Title: Re: independence lost??
Post by carriefu on Jan 27^th, 2006, 10:23am

thanks for understanding...to me normalcy is EVERYTHING!!!!its bad enough having to look like an invalid let alone be treated like one

Title: I hear ya, but..
Post by Richr8 on Jan 27^th, 2006, 10:38am

I eventually get to a point that I am so sleep deprived and mediacted I become pretty helpless sometimes. The only diffference is, there is no one here to help, so no problem.

Title: Re: independence lost??
Post by carriefu on Jan 27^th, 2006, 10:42am

well,he hasnt been here for 10 days and i think he feels guilty, so im usually alone also

Title: Re: independence lost??
Post by Guiseppi on Jan 27^th, 2006, 12:31pm

I hate to brag, but I have an awesome supporter. She found the web site for me, read up on how to treat me, and does a great job of being near or staying away. Get the spouse to peruse the board a bit. Education is everything. I would say "Go Yankees" to cheer you up but I fear my daughter would dis own me!

Guiseppi

Title: Re: independence lost??
Post by carriefu on Jan 27^th, 2006, 12:34pm

oh im fine!!!just ready to stop looking like popeye.husband wants to try to get away for the w/e.but i just have no ummmph, little league tryouts tomorrow, and the boys are raring to go(future yankee players by the way)

go yankees and pf days by the season

Title: Re: independence lost??
Post by chewy on Jan 27^th, 2006, 2:41pm

Quote:

has anyone in here felt like their spouse is so afraid to set them off that they start taking care of EVERYTHING????

I could only hope.

Title: Re: independence lost??
Post by Karla on Jan 27^th, 2006, 2:50pm

My husband and 3 teenage boys do everything! cook, clean, laundry, etc. when I am getting hit. Before my preventative came along I was getting hit 8x day each lasting 2 hours. Plus shadows. UG Plus chronic for several years. I had no preventative that worked for many years. So my family took over runing things. I thank God for them. Even now that I am better the only thing that they make me do is cook and dishes. Not bad!

Title: Re: independence lost??
Post by carriefu on Jan 27^th, 2006, 3:11pm

im used to doing everything for the family

we have a 12 y/o who has aspegers syndrome,an11y/o who is gifted stinky is 8 and a 2 month old..all boys......

making our own baseball team ...one by one................

so, i cant be out of commission too long

Title: Re: independence lost??
Post by FramCire on Jan 27^th, 2006, 4:54pm

My wife is a saint. She works tons of hours, tries to help around the house, and she is always thinking of me. Honestly, she does so much I am begining to feel quite worthless and a complete leetch on her. It's awesome to have a great supporter but sucks to feel like you are a massive burden.

Anyway, I feel like I have lost all my independence and I have become worthless. My only hope is that I am not chronic and thus will have some PF months to become productive again. Otherwise I think it would be easier to live alone and not be that burden on her.

Title: Re: independence lost??
Post by BobG on Jan 27^th, 2006, 8:24pm

In our house my wife has to take care of everything.

I'm to busy working on the hot rod.

;;D

Let's all sing along..........

"Put another log on the fire.
Cook me up some bacon and some beans........."