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Title: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related)... Post by Melissa on Oct 23rd, 2007, 9:38am Sorry for the vent, but I've just been feeling like I'm a cheap, old woman having a baby. :'( I suppose it's really stupid of me to be on a website for pregnant women, but I thought it'd be fun to share in my pregnancy with others. Instead I get cattiness, lectures on old furniture (I bought a 30 yr old Lullabye crib for $15 from a lady nearby for Ava) and bragging about all the new expensive things they bought for their babies ($70 freaking dollars for a diaper bag! :o and the lady said it was a "reasonable" price!). I thought I was doing a great job, getting good deals (bought 95% of the stuff I need off eBay), and I would never put my baby in danger from a crib (the recalls are insane lately, as in why the older crib appealed to me). Maybe I'm just not cut out for this anymore... :'( I'm sure this is a very selfish post to be writing here, but my hormones are very wacky and I cry at least twice a day due to it. You guys are the most like-minded, laid back people I know. I need to be with my own kind, this is where I belong. Pregnant or not. lyg, mel |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch... Post by sandie99 on Oct 23rd, 2007, 9:59am Oh Mel... [smiley=hug.gif] You ARE doing a great job! :) Don't let those others make you feel rotten about your choices (I know it's not easy...). I bet that some of those mums-to-be are young and don't have the experice on their side like you do and the rest just don't have any excuse than being mean. You did the right thing when you came here. Venting is allowed! :) Lots of [smiley=hug.gif], Sanna |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch... Post by George_J on Oct 23rd, 2007, 10:02am Yep, the whole baby-stuff market is nuts. If a person paid much mind to the folks selling baby stuff, and the frantic consumers buying it, you would think it took as much equipment to have a baby as it took to mount a nineteenth-century expedition to Central Africa. In truth, of course, babies don't need much. They just need food, love, dry diapers, clean clothes, and a safe, warm place to sleep. Anything else is just gilding the lily. If we really needed to haul all that junk to have a baby around, we'd never have made it past the Pleistocene. Heck with 'em, Mel. You're doing great. Best wishes, George [smiley=hug.gif] |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch... Post by 2late on Oct 23rd, 2007, 10:03am on 10/23/07 at 09:38:22, Melissa wrote:
not sure why you feel this way, I have 4 kids so i know from my wife about hormons out of control, these feelings will pass hang in there, positive Pittsburgh vibes heading your way |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch... Post by LeLimey on Oct 23rd, 2007, 10:03am I'm not pregnant but according to some of you I eat weird shit so does that count Melly?! ;;D An old cot but with a new mattress would be exactly what I would want, There is nothing wrong with older stuff and to be honest, most of mine did for three kids anyway! The only thing I would buy brand new if I didn't have one would be a car seat as you need to know that hasn't been dropped or walloped about. You still don't need to spend a fortune though. Some people are insane about spending money. Full stop. If they weren't up the duff they'd be spending it on beany babies or "the cutest little doggie coat for Fang" - they just have to fill their empty brainless mindless thoughtless lives with Stuff because they know the price of everything but the value of nothing at all. You carry on your own sweet way Mel, you'll be a far better mum, who does things that count with her kids than any of these trophy mothers ever will. You're raising a family. All they are raising is their tax bracket. Mummy Melly ROCKS and don't you forget it! My friend Mel who is a very beautiful woman in her own right and is resourceful and creative to boot is someone I'm very proud to know too. [smiley=hug.gif] lots of love Helen xxx |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Paul98 on Oct 23rd, 2007, 10:20am Mel, think of it this way...Perhaps some people throw money away and it makes them think they are a better parent. Perhaps their excessive spending is to compensate for other parental deficiencies. As long as your family is healthy then I wouldn't worry what others think or do. ;) -P. |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by MR_FLOOR on Oct 23rd, 2007, 10:24am First off Mel please don't say your old, cause if you are I'm prehistoric, your not even in the high risk range yet. Secondly all Ava needs is mamas love, screw all that material stuff. Your looking at it the wrong way,you should be saying what an not a very nice person for buying a $70 diaper bag. To me thats just a round about way of bragging. I think theres a time when all mothers question there parenting abilities,well at least my wife did. Like you said thats the hormones talking,you will be fine,it's like riding a bike you never forget how to do it. Good luck hun. Remember we are all here for ya. Dave |
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Title: e: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related). Post by Melissa on Oct 23rd, 2007, 10:36am God, I love you guys so much!!!!! [smiley=bigcry.gif] [smiley=hug.gif] I went back out to the garage to look again at the crib (where it's been since last Monday when I picked it up). And you know what? I just love it! Jesse said it's exactly like the one his mom had for him, which makes it all that more special. Even though the mattress is a little old, it's in spectacular shape except for a couple cuts on the underside (which always seems to happen with crib mattresses) that the woman's husband put duct tape over. Here's a pic... http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v708/mfiltz/DSC05426.jpg ;;D You guys are the greatest. I feel loads better and I think I'm going to disappear off that website... All it's doing is making me question my own judgement, which hasn't failed me yet! |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by sandie99 on Oct 23rd, 2007, 10:48am I'm so glad that you're feeling better already, Mel! :) And that crib looks georgeous! I love that shade of wood. One lucky baby... :) Hugs, Sanna |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Rosybabe on Oct 23rd, 2007, 10:55am Dear Mel, I bet the crib is beautiful! don't worry about those ladies, you are going to do what is right for you and your family. There is nothing wrong with trying to save money on baby stuff, the baby will outgrow everything and you will be stuck with things you will not need anymore. Save that money for diapers and formula, you are going to need it. A $70 diaper bag is such a waste of money, I rather spend that much on quality Bottles that will last longer and give me a lot more help than a diaper bag, you get one for free at the hospital. Or a good car seat that will grow with the baby and you can get a lot more use out of it. You are not old and I promise you look beautiful pregnant because you are going to be the Mommy of a beautiful baby. Keep that in mind and try to stay away from all those good for nothing pregnant boards...they are not of real help anyway ;)... Hugs Rosy. |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Mosaicwench on Oct 23rd, 2007, 11:01am I tell people who ask about weddings and marriage to spend the most time and money on the "ever after" . . .the wedding is simply the day it starts, NOT the most important day of the marriage. Same with pregnancy and childbirth. Childbirth is simply the day the IMPORTANT stuff starts. Spend your time and energy and money the way YOU see fit and spend your love allowance every day. And cry like a banshee any old time you want to!!! Pregnancy is the only time women can be completely irrational and get away with it . . . .or is that menopause?? I'll get back to you on that part. . . .http://img40.imageshack.us/img40/3444/crazy1no.gif |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by cash5542 on Oct 23rd, 2007, 11:04am I used a crib my aunt gave me that she used with her 5 kids. It was free! My diaper table was a toy chest that I grew up with and we made adjustments to it. The diaper bag was one too many beach bags I had. My kids are in their twenties now and they made it fine without all of the new stuff. Those first few years go so fast and before you know it you'll need a big girl/boy bed! We put extra money into college accounts and new baby checkups. Check the slats and be sure it meets the regulation sizes. That was the only real issue to buying used furniture. Enjoy your remaining months! When is your due date?? Charlotte |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by LeLimey on Oct 23rd, 2007, 11:04am Mel, if you remember nothing else remember this.. For the first 12 hours or so after the baby is born ALL NAPPIES ARE JESSE'S TO CHANGE. Got that? Crystal clear?!! Good! Once he's dealt with that stickier than sticky meconium yuk then every other nappy will be a doddle :) Daddyhood - It's all in the training y'know! LOL Tell Jesse I love him really [smiley=laugh.gif] |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Melissa on Oct 23rd, 2007, 11:11am Pat- I guess we're allowed it more than once in life then, eh? lol Charlotte- I'm due March 2nd, but this is my 3rd and am preparing in case she comes early.:) on 10/23/07 at 11:04:32, LeLimey wrote:
LMAO Helen! You do know tho, that he changed 5 of his siblings diapers and has NO qualms about it at all. I've never once heard him complain with Lily or Eli either. He's a definate diamond in a world full of granite! ;;D |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by LeLimey on Oct 23rd, 2007, 11:18am I'll agree with you there Mel, Jessie is a lovely, lovely man and I'm so very glad I got to meet him last year.. just wish I'd got to meet you both again this year but - there will be other times and I'll have a new mini-mel to snuggle with next time too! We definitely have to get Brid and Lily along with Jasper and Eli together - let the rioting begin ;;D |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Melissa on Oct 23rd, 2007, 11:49am on 10/23/07 at 11:04:32, cash5542 wrote:
Well, now I'm freaking out again! The regulation is supposed to be no wider than 2 3/8" and my crib is approx. 3 1/8" wide. A difference of 3/4". :-/ Ohforpetesake! Ava will be in her bassinet till she no longer fits in it and THEN she'll go into the crib. Cripes, why do things have to be so damn difficult nowdays??? |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by LeLimey on Oct 23rd, 2007, 11:54am Don't worry Mel, just move them closer and add a couple of extra slats. The most you'll need to do is buy some new webbing to hold them together if you can't reuse the stuff holding them together now :) |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by seasonalboomer on Oct 23rd, 2007, 11:56am on 10/23/07 at 11:49:12, Melissa wrote:
Problem solved: Make the infant where a bike helmet. 1.) can't put its head through the slatswith it on, 2.) can't hurt its head with a helmet on. Maybe use 1" bubble wrap as carpeting in the room. |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Melissa on Oct 23rd, 2007, 12:03pm on 10/23/07 at 11:56:53, seasonalboomer wrote:
OMG, I'm laughing so hard I'm crying!...again! [smiley=laugh.gif] Ok, THANK YOU for that wake up SB! I've got to remember, I've done this twice before, once was 13 yrs ago and I'm sure I didn't have a "regulation" crib back then either. ::) I will now take a deep breath and relax! ;;D :-* |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Rosybabe on Oct 23rd, 2007, 12:13pm you can always buy fishnet in a beautiful pastel color and cover all the sides of the crib, you just tie it securely to all sides of the crib with matching laces and maybe even attach some pretty butterflies...lots of possibilities...with the fishnet there is no way the baby head can be trap in the slots. |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Jimi on Oct 23rd, 2007, 12:30pm By the time she gets out of the crib, her head will be big enough that it won't matter. That info is just for if you were putting a new baby in it. That crib is beautiful and unless you are planning on having an open house to show all the people in town all of your expensive gadgets that you bought for this one, don't worry about it. And get off that board. If you need to know anything, we'll handle it from here. :-* |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by DennisM1045 on Oct 23rd, 2007, 12:37pm I've never seen another site on the Internet where people are more down to earth than this one. What you saw on the other site is what I'm used to seeing; materialistic, shallow competition between people that are missing the whole point. You are having a Baby! It can be a most wonderful and life changing experience. These other idiots are lost in "things" and "being the best" and are not enjoying the truth: they are bringing another human being into existence. Someone who, God willing, will be with them and enrich them for the rest of their lives. You just want to yell out "It's about family stupid!". Mel, you have your priorities straight. You're doing a great job of making sure your new addition will have everything they need when the time comes. Most of all, this little one get to be born to a Mom who has her head on straight. That's more than can be said for a lot of kids. Good luck and don't let anyone ever make you feel bad about your approach to Motherhood. -Dennis- |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Bethany1 on Oct 23rd, 2007, 12:38pm That crib is the coolest! Ya know Mel, I get it all the time because I am a first time (new) mom and everyone has to give me their opinion on everything. If I listened to them all I would go insane. Sometimes I feel bad because I'm not a stay at home mom because we can't afford it... so be it. I love my son, and I take hand me downs with a big ol smile on my face... sure I can't afford the $1000 strollers all the celebrities have.. but who cares? As long as he is comfy and so am I than so be it. Frig em all. And those women that are braggin about all the crap they are buying probably have a miserable life and thats what they do to make up for it. Buy expensive crap so they look good... when in all reality, they look foolish. |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by barry_sword on Oct 23rd, 2007, 12:39pm Mel, the hell what the others say about buying top of the line stuff. I love the crib you bought. It is way nicer than that over priced crap you buy new from wherever. Here is a hug for you. [smiley=hug.gif] Take care. |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Mrs Deej on Oct 23rd, 2007, 12:39pm Mel!!!!!!! You know better than that!!! It's YOUR baby, and if you are comfortable with what you are doing...SO BE IT!!!! You aren't going to put your baby at risk for ANY reason...we all know this. When I was pregnant with Conner, we didn't have a ton of money, 99.9% of all his clothes came from garage sales. Please.....I am NOT going to pay $30 for an outfit they are going to be in for less than two weeks!! Sorry, but I wasn't blessed with a tree in our backyard that dollar bills fell from. I kept all of his nicer clothes and that is what Brandon has been wearing...we had som any that we didn't even register for clothes. I've already had to put clothes back in boxes because he grew too fast to wear some of them!!! The crib thing...Cat gave us her convertable crib that her children used...they certainly aren't babies anymore (aging the crib) and all we had to do was change a cew hinges because of rust...and we bought a new mattress. PERFECT...saved us probably $500!!! (plus it's really special because it was from Cat) Babies are very expensive...they have gotten even worse, but don't EVER feel guilty because you are cutting costs. Just think of it this way, the more money you save now, the more you can put back for that $500,000 college bill you're gonna get!! ;) Remember the days when they didn't have seat belts...lead base paint...drinks for the hose... You are a wonderful set of parents!!! Hand-me downs are just wonderful. Screw those caddi womens...call or write Aunt Steph...she won't give you a hard time!!! :-* :-* :-* |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by George_J on Oct 23rd, 2007, 12:44pm Before you know it, she won't need all that stuff anyway. She'll be a mobile hazard, endangering herself moment by moment just by perootin' around. Best, George |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Melissa on Oct 23rd, 2007, 12:47pm You know, when thinking back to my 2000 cycle, when all I would do is cry out "why me?" while getting hit and then going online and finding ch.com... I think I finally have the answer now. It's because someone (or something) thought I deserved friends like you all. That is "why me". I've never in my life, nor have I in anyone else's, found such friendship, love, caring and support like I have in you. My children are my joy in my life, no matter how hard it gets sometimes. This pregnancy, my last child, is an emotional one. I'm so grateful to be going through it with all of you. Dammit, Deej needs to add a smiling crying smiley to the smiley list! ;) |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by E-Double on Oct 23rd, 2007, 1:39pm check out this website www.lifamilies.com It's a message board like this and has been a great resource to Joanna and myself. Anywhere ya go there will be BS from people. just like here. take what ya want and leave the rest. :-* |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Linda_Howell on Oct 23rd, 2007, 1:45pm Mel...what everyone above said. Step away from the keyboard and go log out of that stupid pregnancy site. Forever Linda |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by kayarr on Oct 23rd, 2007, 2:22pm You are doing a great job and don't you forget it! I am so glad the "keeping up with the Jones" version of having a baby wasn't so prevelent when mine were born. Remember that the ones who are so caught up in material things have that running like a theme throughout their lives. They have a hard time realising it's just stuff. It's important to learn to be happy in all conditions. Life changes. Enjoy yourself! Be Happy! Breath! (((Hugs))) |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by lionsound on Oct 23rd, 2007, 2:23pm mel, It is kind of an interesting perspective when your third pregnancy is so far from your first. my oldest were 11 and 7 when Zeke came along. Compared to when I had my oldest, i agree that things have gotten way out of hand...you don't need any fancy gadgets.. the baby's two favorite things will be Eli and Lily who are priceless...so no worries :) |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Melissa on Oct 23rd, 2007, 2:27pm Linda, I will stop reading and posting to the other boards there, but I will still keep posting to the buddygroup I belong to. The girls are nice on there and we're all having #3 (actually, 2 ladies are having twins and one lady is having quads :o) and we're all due in March. There's 9 of us total and one mom REALLY needs the support cause her hubby is in Iraq and she'll have to give birth without him. :( They've been mostly supportive and I just don't want to disappear for them, ya know? But I promise I'll stop obsessing over things and just try to relax and know that I'm a good mom. ok? :) love u! edited to add: Thanks to you also kayarr & Rori :-* |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Emily on Oct 23rd, 2007, 2:30pm Hey Mel, These folks are so right... My sister was only 19 when she fell pregnant with my nephew. She took a year out and then went back to uni when he was a year old. My parents and lots of his dad's relatives looked after him and we had him every second weekend (all weekend!) so she could study and get her social life back a bit. Her and her 3 month old baby lived in a flat above an alcoholic woman who caused them lots of grief and they had no money - she still doesn't. But she didn't want to stay at home with my parents - she wanted them to have their own life. He's now 3. My sis saved a little bit of cash up and they've just bought a 2 bed basement apartment. Again, not great. It's got damp, the electrics are dodgy and it needs a fair bit of work. But it's theirs. Do you think he has suffered? NO! Now, I'm not saying he hasn't had anything new (he's the apple of my eye and as his Aunt, it's my job to spoil him) but my sis spent so little money on clothes from eBay - things that he would wear just to puke on! What is the point in spending, spending, spending especially as for the first few months, they'll live in their little all in ones (easy to wash! She then didn't feel so bad when she did all those other expectant mothers a favour by putting them back onto eBay when he outgrew them - making a bit of cash for herself! It's common sense. What these people are talking about is insanity. I love the crib. It's beautiful. I'm sure little Ava will be snug as a bug (as we say here). Em PS - Baby's head getting stuck in the bars is a GREAT excuse to call the hunky firemen to come rescue her! Plus it'll make for some great photos to display/embarrass her with on her 18th birthday or first boyfriend moments. I'll always find the positives in things [smiley=laugh.gif] |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Melissa on Oct 23rd, 2007, 2:33pm on 10/23/07 at 14:30:10, Emily wrote:
LOL! Only a clusterhead! [smiley=laugh.gif] |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Brewcrew on Oct 23rd, 2007, 4:03pm I remember when Roy was around a year old, his door would be mostly closed for nap time. Pat and I would sneak up to his door when we heard him stirring, then slowly push it open. There he was standing in the crib grabbing ahold of the end, nukkie planted in his mouth. His eyes would just light up when he saw us and he'd start giggling and jumping up and down. God, that seems like a hundred years ago. Oh, and by the way, Rori - baby's two favorite things will be right boobie and left boobie. At least at first. But you knew that. ;) |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Grandma_Sweet_Boy on Oct 23rd, 2007, 5:43pm Melly - read your email ;) You're doing fine, little one. Hugs Carol |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by alchemy on Oct 23rd, 2007, 6:03pm Mel, i'm getting on this kind of late (cover the baby's ears) but fuckem. i knew on couple who spent 400 bucks on a stroller. the kid was already walking. I improvised with my kids. got a second hand crib. and for a stroller i did what the indians did and tied two sticks together threw a blanket in the middle and dragged them. except for having flat asses they are fine. |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Jimi on Oct 23rd, 2007, 6:06pm Quote:
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Melissa on Oct 23rd, 2007, 6:09pm on 10/23/07 at 18:03:07, alchemy wrote:
omg, LMAO, I just love it!!! [smiley=laugh.gif] Thank you hon! ;;D |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by LeLimey on Oct 23rd, 2007, 6:29pm on 10/23/07 at 18:06:04, Jimi wrote:
Are ANY of us meester Jimi?! |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Annette on Oct 23rd, 2007, 6:31pm Dear Melissa, I am sorry to hear that the other mothers on that pregnancy website were giving you a hard time. Ignore them Mel, they were just trying to make themselves feel good by trying to belittle you. Reality is, apart from some warm clothes what a newborn baby really needs is your breast milk and your wonderfully loving arms to sleep on. Most of the commercial stuff are aimed at making the parents feel better about themselves than for the baby. Ava wont care if she sleeps in a $2000 crib or a $15 crib. All she will care about is that you will be right there to feed her, cuddle her and change her nappy :) I was born during the Vietnam war, there was no crib, no cot, no nothing ..... I spent the first 8 months of my life living in bomb shelters sleeping either on someone arms or on a mattress on the floor. There was no powder milk either and my mother didnt have much milk. I was fed rice congee. Still I think I grew up OK 8) One thing I did learn about life growing up in a very poor country is that I dont need material things to make me a better person, its what in my heart that does. Ava will grow up in your loving arms and loving heart. She will be nurtured and surrounded by a great family with a loving mother, a great father and 2 wonderful sibblings. She wont need anything else. HUGS |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Melissa on Oct 23rd, 2007, 6:58pm You know Annette, I was just thinking this afternoon about how many women all over the world don't even HAVE a crib to put their babies into. Made me really think as to why in the world am I fretting about mine? Really puts things into perspective. |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by cash5542 on Oct 23rd, 2007, 7:09pm I forgot my best crib story! I was the 3rd of 4 girls and a really busy baby. My mom had all of us in a 6 yr span. I lived in Ethiopia when I was a baby (army brat) and bounced in my crib so hard I ruined it. When my little sister was born my parents thought this would be the last and skipped buying something. She slept in a dresser drawer! We do what we have to do and it works! You are beinb practical and logical unlike some other people. Charlotte |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Annette on Oct 23rd, 2007, 7:24pm on 10/23/07 at 18:58:36, Melissa wrote:
Dear Melly As a mother I know why you fretted about the crib. All loving, caring mothers want to do the best for their children. That is natural and that is also very noble. The question is WHAT is best for your child? Deep down we all know what is best for a child and its certainly not expensive furnitures or clothings. However, while we cope with the ups and downs of pregnancy hormones we tend to be swayed by what others say or what the commercial ads say. We start to doubt ourselves and our judgements. When we get bombarded with messages aimed at making us feel bad about ourselves unless we throw money into the wind, we start to feel that maybe we werent doing the best for our child. I understand perfectly why you were upset the way you were. However, my dear friend, take a step back and a deep breath and look at the whole situation again. You are a mother, and a mother always knows what is best for her child. Be proud in your judgement as a mother! You are doing just fine. If anyone tries to tell you otherwise, smile and walk off. Personally, I think you are one of the greatest moms in the world, because what you posted showed how much you love and care for Ava. She sure is a lucky girl ! :-* |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by DennisM1045 on Oct 23rd, 2007, 8:02pm on 10/23/07 at 18:58:36, Melissa wrote:
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Paula on Oct 23rd, 2007, 8:36pm Brewcrew, Babies and MEN, all they think about are right boobs and left boobs. :o Mel, I have one word for you, BRITNEY SPEARS! OK, two words. Oh, how I remember the hormons........ Have a good cry and a good laugh, then sleep well and things will look better soon. I just LOVE babies. Remember your first look at them? And how good they smell, and how they snuggle up to you. You have so much to look forward to, try to consentrate on that. I know, easier said than done. But you can always come here when you need a pick me up or feel like sharing a happy moment. Family=clusterheadaches.com ! Love Paula (Don't tell anyone but I was 36 when I had my daughter, SSSSH, Don't tell) |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Not4Hire on Oct 23rd, 2007, 9:21pm I haven't even READ this thread, but I'm sure y'all will look back at it and LAFF YER ASS OFF.... in about 18 years..... 8) |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by kayarr on Oct 23rd, 2007, 9:28pm on 10/23/07 at 18:03:07, alchemy wrote:
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Sean_C on Oct 23rd, 2007, 10:19pm Mel, I'm not a mom, I'm a dad, so I think the way I think. Whats a diaper bag thingy. So what I really think is that your an awesome mom, and I hope you never change, so keep smilin ;;D Huge hugs comin at ya [smiley=hug.gif] Sean................................. ;;D |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Charlie on Oct 24th, 2007, 12:07am I like that crib too. Good idea, ebay too. Now that I'm so old that forgot how babies are made, I like 'em. Other kids too. It ain't fair. I have an aunt who is a retired nurse. She always said that she thought there is nothing sillier than baby shoes. They used to bronze the things of course... Do they still do that? I haven't paid attention. Okay, I'll shut up. Nice going Mel. Charlie |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Smurfysmurff on Oct 24th, 2007, 4:30am About a week after my nephew was born, it was decided that as a full time aunt, part-time babysitter, and the only person in a ten mile radius that was able to get the colicy little brat to sleep (he seemed to have an affinity to using my breasts as pillows) that a cribe was needed at Aunt rane's house. So what did we do, we paid a women from church $10 for a 30+ year old mattress from when she had kids. And that crib lasted longer than the $250 one my sister bought off of ebay. The crib you bought looks beautiful, and if he gets his head stuck in the slats, it's really not that big of deal, my nephew got his head stuck in the stair slats when he was about 10 months old, he didn't even cry, he just kinda looked at us like "umm, i think i'm stuck." So don't worry about how much you spend on the things you buy, except for a car seat like someone said earlier, most people just don't understand what a difference a GOOD carseat is compared to an OKAY one is. So do splurge on that, and ofcourse make sure to know what the laws are concerning car seats in your state, and possibly go to one of those car seat demos that the police normally hold every now and then. And like someone said earlier, let the daddy change the first poopie diaper, i saw my nephews first poop and in all my 21 years of life, i have never seen anything more disgusting that the that diaper of black goo. So Melly, good luck, and have fun! PFD, Rane |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by JenniferD on Oct 24th, 2007, 5:31pm Mrs. Melly Mommy Mudflaps, you listen up girlie. I don't care if your diaper bag reads: Food Lion or Walmart, or if you crip is stamped on the side with: This End Up. You've got more knowledge and practical know-how than ANY of those 20somethings who have NO CLUE what they're about to face. They probably more concerned about having their makeup bag all packed and ready for the delivery room so they can look good on camera! So I say, go on that website one more time ONLY ONE THOUGH, read their stupid, inane, arrogant posts, then laugh a good long laugh. You know what you're doing, so don't let a bunch of clueless Barbies who plan on handing baby off to the nearest nanny get to you. One more thing: go to the nearest mirror, look at yourself and say I AM BEAUTIFUL. Repeat. [smiley=hug.gif] Jen |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by purpleydog on Oct 24th, 2007, 7:01pm Mel. you've got experience, and I bet those new mom's on that website have maxed out credit cards. ::) You know what you're doing, so keep doing it. There's nothing wrong with getting a great deal on a crib, which looks really nice, BTW. Nor on clothes or a diaper bag. It sounds like you are doing real well, so don't worry about what the mom's-to-be say, you are way ahead of them. :) Just concentrate on staying a healthy mom, you are and will be the best ever! |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Melissa on Oct 24th, 2007, 7:20pm Thanks so much ladies. You guys are great!! :-* :-* :-* |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Tiannia on Oct 25th, 2007, 12:58pm on 10/23/07 at 11:11:12, Melissa wrote:
ok Mel, First I will tell you a story to make you laugh. I was on bed rest for 6 month before I had my daughter and then I was in back labor for 3 days before I ended up in the hospital to have her. When we got her home, I was exhausted. Shaun told me to take a nap. About 2 hours after I fell alseep, I wake up to hear my ex-army nurse husband cussing up a storm. I walked into the living room to see him sitting ont he floor changing Shara's diaper.... Well kind of. She was laying there with a diaper under her butt and 20 dirty diapers scattered around the 2 of them. He was trying to be helpful and decided to change her as soon as she started to go, and every time he put a clean one under her, she would go just a little but more. "Shaun, what are you doing?" He looks at me and throws his hands up and says, "She is 9 lbs, how in the hell can this much shit come out of such a little thing?" I was lauging so hard I was crying. Mel, as far as these boardsa nd the pissy ass women on them, tell them to f-off. Everything I bought for my daughter was 2nd hand. ANd after I had her, I was told never to get preg aagin, so we got rid of all of it. Then 4 1/2 yrs later I got preg again with my son. A friend of mine ran a day care and one fo the gals that had kids there was selling all her baby stuff. I bought my crib, changing table (which I never had one with Shara), Jonny jump up (oh my god my kids loved those), diaper pails, sheets, damn everything for $100. My sons room was completly furnished and there was not anything I needed to buy him at all. The only thing we bought was a car seat new. Anything else I got new was from the snooty sales agents that worked for the home builder and they made more money then God. Add they where horrified that I bought stuff 2nd hand. When we put the crib together Shaun sat on the mattress. I told them that if my 200 lbs husband has sit and bounce on it, that I seriously doubt that my son will be able to do anything to it that will get him hurt. You are a mom, you know what your kids need and what you need. What makes it easier for you and what works for you. Screw everyone else. They are being led by the nose being told that they need this that and whatever. For my daughter, we had a craddel that my dad build for me before I was born. I know I rammbled a lot, but I hope you know that you are a great mom and this little one, is going to be very happy and loved, just like your other kids. Tia |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Melissa on Oct 25th, 2007, 3:19pm Oh Tia, thank you hon!! And I absolutely LOVE the diaper story!!! [smiley=laugh.gif] I can imagine it and would just about die of laughter. ;;D *hugs* BTW, I have, as of today, deleted myself from my buddygroup and the whole website. I am just getting to stressed out and for some stupid reason that thread that got me going keeps getting added to. ::) Of course there just HAS to be comments about the "old" cribs too. Fuck em all. :P |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by midwestbeth on Oct 25th, 2007, 3:25pm Mel, Don't let those snippy bitches on the mom to be board get to you. Sounds like they have too much money and no class... The only thing you need is lots of love and I don't think thats going to be a problem. Your a great mommy. Beth |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Tiannia on Oct 25th, 2007, 3:38pm on 10/25/07 at 15:19:53, Melissa wrote:
There we go that is the Mel we all know and love. He was trying so hard. but it is still one of the funniest things I have ever seen. I told me husband that we could not afford for him to change diapers. [smiley=laugh.gif] |
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Title: Re: I feel so aged and out of touch (baby related) Post by Sean_C on Oct 25th, 2007, 7:53pm on 10/25/07 at 15:19:53, Melissa wrote:
Bingo ;;D ;;D ;;D |
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