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Title: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by JenniferD on Oct 16th, 2007, 6:42pm The topic of way too many convos at home has been that men and women CANNOT be "just friends". Not my perspective, but the spouse's. Example given: the recent incident with the old guy. Remember that? He says: "We're GUYS. That's what we think about!. We'll be friends, but if we think we can knock the bottom outta that thing, we're gonna go for it" and, "Look at US. We were best friends, but........." ::) I TOTALLY disagree. I have several male friends and its nothing more than that. His response?: "Well, thats what YOU'RE thinking" arrrgggghhhhh Please provide some "sides" to this issue. Its a constant topic of discussion. What say you? |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Jonny on Oct 16th, 2007, 6:54pm 99% will go for it if they think they have a chance......about 50% will not if they have no sign that your intrested. Me?.....I would never try on a married chick and would never pick some chick in a bar, any skank that would go with someone they dont know is just that! I dont fuck, I make love, and for that to happen I have to know you. Thats probably why im in the postion im in......LOL ;;D |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Rosybabe on Oct 16th, 2007, 6:54pm http://i46.photobucket.com/albums/f106/scotiapryncess/canws.gif I personally think I can have male friends and just be friends. I went to college and spent five years with a group of 59 men, and we were only 3 girls in the class. I have to tell you, I was only friend with the guys, the other 2 girls were B*&^%.... I never got along with them... Yeah I dated a couple of the guys but the others were just friend material more like brothers ;;D |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by purpleydog on Oct 16th, 2007, 6:57pm I believe men and women can be friends. I think, IMO, it really comes down to mutual respect, any guy who is only interested in getting into your pants isn't/ couldn't be a friend. I have several male friends, and it's great. Having conversations, sharing, going out for a beer, doing things that friends do is the same as having friends of the same gender. I don't spend a whole lot of time with the male friends I have, and haven't seen some in a long time, but we pick up right where we left off, when we can get together. Or keep track by email. And my significant other doesn't mind. There are no threats (maturity on his part). In fact, our relationship started off as a friendship that grew into more, and we are now best friends. If a husband can't handle it, he feels threatened for some reason. I always wondered why married men felt that way, you picked him, right? How can there be any doubt? I don't know, JMHO. |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Sean_C on Oct 16th, 2007, 7:07pm on 10/16/07 at 18:54:44, Jonny wrote:
Same here.............................I'm a huge cuddler before and after. I also have a come switch witch enables me to wait until you are in that state of aura, you know the one where they get that stupid look in there eyes. ;;D In all seriousness, it don't matter what gender anyone is, its all about drive. If your an overly horny person your gonna be weak, its that simple. Cheers, Sean...................................... |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by George_J on Oct 16th, 2007, 7:07pm Sure--I think--in fact I KNOW that men and women can be friends and nothing more. There's a woman I've been friends with for thirty years--since college. Boinkage? :P I don't think so. That would rank as one of the worst ideas I can think of. She cracks me up, and I like the way she thinks, but one of the best and most comfortable things about knowing her is that there is ZERO man/woman stuff in the atmosphere, and we both know it. EJ has several male friends--people she's worked with over the years, and so forth--that she sees for lunch and at social occasions. No big deal. I've heard this kind of thing before--"men and women can't just be friends"--and I just don't buy it. It depends on the man and woman. Best, George |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Guiseppi on Oct 16th, 2007, 7:09pm A very interesting article in Mens Health last month on this very topic. The fact is, the vast majority of these relationships, if they go long term, go sexual. I won't even try to condense the article in a single post but it was a very good read. It approached it from several different angles, the advantages to having opposite sex friends to better understand people you loved etc.. Funny that so far only women have said they could have an opposite sex friend an nothing would ever happen.......I couldn't decide for sure what Jonny meant......remember my rule number one Jenn????? Men are pigs ;;D ;;D It's our nature!! Guiseppi |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Jonny on Oct 16th, 2007, 7:24pm on 10/16/07 at 19:09:22, Guiseppi wrote:
Then let me make it easy for you.......a long time emotional friend that you tell all your marital problems to will end up fucking you in most cases. Who better to bang than the dude telling you all the right things that are wrong with your marrige? Yes, men are pigs,,,,,but not this one when it comes to that! |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Melly_Mudflaps on Oct 16th, 2007, 7:24pm I agree with George. I have male friends who I can tell intimate things to but would never think about having sex with. Of course, I don't know if it's the same way with them, but honestly, I would never want to know. That'd just make the whole situation awkward and the relationship would never the same again. :-/ |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by nani on Oct 16th, 2007, 7:32pm I think it's possible, but boundaries are needed from the beginning. I think women shouldn't talk about their marital problems to men, that's why we have girlfriends. And vice versa. I have lots of men friends, and my hubby has lots of female friends... but I think we're clear about things with our friends, so there's no point in someone staying friends with us if friendship isn't their intention. When I was young (even when I was a kid) I was kind of a tomboy and always had more male friends. And about half of them thought they could get in my pants. :-/ |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by LeLimey on Oct 16th, 2007, 7:32pm I have a lot of male friends who I don't think even realise I AM a girl! They are good friends and I love having them in my life and I'm quite confident that they aren't attracted to me any more than I am to them. They're worse than crap when it comes to shoe shopping though I have to say. That is definitely a girls only pastime! ;;D |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Sean_C on Oct 16th, 2007, 8:15pm on 10/16/07 at 18:42:19, JenniferD wrote:
Ok I'm going to give what I would do in "my" case scenario. I have been with my wife since 89, and we are best friends still. Now I do have women who I know from working, old girlfriends, friends etc etc, however, if my wife was uncomfortable with my even having a friendship with a woman, I would out of respect for her let that friendship go, as would she do for me. I do have some absolutletly beloved friends who I phone talk to on this board, Nan, Jeanie, Maa, all of who I love with all my heart and as my mother used to say, "always say you love someone you love, before you say goodbye, you may never get the chance again" and I am not afraid to tell any of them just that with my wife beside me, and she knows its not the sex love I'm loving, its from the heart. Thats my honest 2 cents Jen. Cheers, Sean....................................... |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by chewy on Oct 16th, 2007, 8:24pm on 10/16/07 at 18:54:44, Jonny wrote:
Well OK but we dont have to "talk" and "communicate" and shit like that afterwards do we? |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Jonny on Oct 16th, 2007, 8:26pm It all comes down to trust, if you aint got that nove on! |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by chewy on Oct 16th, 2007, 8:30pm on 10/16/07 at 20:26:44, Jonny wrote:
Yup. No doubt about it. That means you want to "talk" and "communicate". I'm outta here. |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Jonny on Oct 16th, 2007, 8:32pm on 10/16/07 at 20:24:45, chewy wrote:
I do in Phoenix; ::D |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by chewy on Oct 16th, 2007, 8:33pm By the time I get to Phoenix........... |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by jimmers on Oct 16th, 2007, 8:40pm One word sums it up: "Insecurity" Jimmers |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by ClusterChris on Oct 16th, 2007, 8:41pm I don't think there is a real good answer for that. IMO if theres mutual physical attraction, more then likely shit is going to happen. No attraction, friends for life! :-[ Chris |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Ray on Oct 16th, 2007, 9:10pm Jenn: It depends upon the people involved. I get along with women better then men. Sorry guys. I am happily married and would not get into the whole "mentally undressing" my friends, that would be gross. I have a rather "Christian" perspective, and don't tend to commit adultery in my mind. If there were some undue attraction or attention, I would break it off. JMHO Ray |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by john_d on Oct 16th, 2007, 9:37pm For me, if I have a friend and she is in a relationship or she trusts me to just be friend in general, I see it as just that I am not going to be hitting on her. Otherwise, you just gonna end up with neither. For an oddball like me, good friends are so valuable when I find them i would not risk that just to get some, no way. |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by DennisM1045 on Oct 16th, 2007, 9:49pm I'm no help on this one Jen. It's been so long since I could look at another women and not think "can she affort the child support?" that I have no frame of reference ;;D Let me tell ya, if all you can see is the $$$ it would cost no women looks that good. I've been married since I was 19 and Andrea was 16. Hell, the wife and I literally grew up together. We're completely inseparable. All the other women I know are just friends and none of them are very close. But then I guess I judge close by what I have with my true best friend. -Dennis- |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Charlie on Oct 16th, 2007, 10:54pm It's easier if it has to do with humor. If someone cracks me up, it's easier to be just friends. What it is, is safe of course. Charlie |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by sandie99 on Oct 17th, 2007, 4:16am I've always wanted to believe that it's possible, but, naturally, depending on the people in question. A cousin of mine had a male best friend for years, but only when she got engaged she found out that her best friend was in love with her. He said that he coudn't attend her wedding, because he doesn't want to sit there and watch when she says "I do" to someone else. And I... I don't have much male friends, which is kind of sad. I thought I had few of them, but they wanted to be more than just friends. One of them actually asked me out without asking me out; he said that he had asked bunch of us to a get together, but actually, it was just me and him. ::) In a way it was sweet, but he was just a friend to me and honestly saying something about it would have been much better. And I have lost male friends when they begun to date someone else. It's complitely understandable, but also unnecessary; had I wanted to more than friends with one of them - I would have said something. ::) I have thought about my reaction if one of Timo's best friends would be a woman. I'm not quite sure how I'd react, to be honest. Sanna |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Wayne on Oct 17th, 2007, 7:07am Oh I certainly believe that its possible. My best friend at the moment is a lady, we have great fun together playing pool and enjoying a few pints but have no intention of taking it any further. We both know that there's a "line in the sand' that, if crossed, will change the whole thing so we just don't cross it. BTW this has been in place for about 18 months now with no shit at all. |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by BarbaraD on Oct 17th, 2007, 8:06am Ya know, I had a man sit in my office one day and tell me that men and women couldn't be "just friends". I looked him straight in the eye and said, "But Kenneth, haven't we been "just friends" for the past 25 years?" He stuttered a little and said, "But that's different!" Duh! Of course men and women can be just friends. Since grade school I've had guys for friends and they're still friends today. I love them dearly and we tell each other so (we're old enough to say it out loud). Frankly, I prefer men as friends - they don't gossip (well not as much as women), they don't pout (well not as much as women) and they can lift a lot more than women. ;;D When Bill and I got married we both had friends and we accepted each others friends. We never had a jealousy problem. I guess we were secure with each other. I had a sister-in-law that thought I was a very *friendly* person-hussy because I didn't disown all my male friends, but Bill and I thought she was a kook anyhow and didn't value her opinion any at all. He had his women friends and I had my male friends and it wasn't any of her business. As far a sex goes with male friends - there have been a a few incidents over the years when someone wanted to be a little more than just friends - my standard comeback on that one was, "when Walmart runs out of batteries!" and that was usually the end of it. It just wasn't worth ruining a friendship - and that will do it. Jen, I have very strong feelings on this subject. Men and women CAN be friends. And jealousy in a marriage is the biggest waste of time there is. I never saw it in my parents marriage and when Bill pulled it about three weeks after we got married, I sat him down, looked him straight in the eye and told him, "Now look Buster, if I'm gonna get the blame, I'm damn sure gonna get the game - so make it easy on yourself!" That was the last time in the 40+ years we ever had a problem. He had a few women actually go "after" him and it scared him to death. I thought it was funny. I guess what I'm trying to say is Bill and I were best friends and being such, we had room for other friends and didn't have to worry about our friendship being tarnished by others. Hugs BD |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Tiannia on Oct 17th, 2007, 12:42pm Men and women can be friends and damn good ones as well. Shaun and I have been together for 13 yrs. ANd when we first got together he was not happy with me having so many guy friends, but for the most part the girls that I knew in college where catty back stabbing bitches and I could not stand them. Hell I was in Theatre, if i wanted to deal with catty, I would just talk to a few of the guy prima donna's that where int eh department. It is difficult at times and you have to be honest with yourself and eachother. One of my dearest friends is a guy. Before Shuan and I even met and Tony met his now wife, there was talk between us, not so much that there was a huge attraction between us, but that we where both same and comfortable being ourselves, with each other. The thing is when Tony called me and told me he met Tina and she is just the most amazing person, I was so happy for him and he felt the same about Shaun. He was protective of me and even told Shaun that if he hurt me Tony would fly out from Georga and hunt him down. Shuan has never had an issue with me telling Tony that I love him. If we wher eon the phone and did not say SHaun would ask me what was wrong. Tonys wife called me out of the blue, about a year ago, because her and Tony where having problems and Tony had closed off and she knew that I was the one person that he would talk to. She asked me to try and get them to the point that could talk. She was uncomfortable when I told her to go hand the phone to Tony, and he was shocked that I was on Tinas phone. But I told him that she was worried about him and as I know him better then anyone in the world, she was hoping that I could help him. When he came to Vegas to see me, we where going to a concert in Vegas and got him anotehr ticket and while Shaun was up at the stage, Tony and I sat around the pool talking. Well Shaun has met Tony once. But Tony is the one who will have custody of my kids if anything happened to us. ANd Shaun agreed to this before he even met him. Because he knows that Tony would do everything in his power to make sure that the kids are taken care of. Now on to other guys. There are other guys that I would meet thru work or whatever. One worked for hte City and my boss, was like take him to lunch. But I felt that he looked to me as more then just a co-worker, so I made one of the other girls from the office go with me, under the pretext that she was a new processor and it would great for the 2 of them to get to know eather other face to face as well. One guy friend that I knew from JH on, stoped talking to me completly when I got married. Talk to your husband. Each friendship takes on a life of its own. Even yours and his. You have to trust each other to know that you are able to handle yourself. I cant tell you that all men and women can just be freinds because that would be a lie. But that is all between you and your friend. ok really much longer then I planned.... Tia |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Callico on Oct 17th, 2007, 10:38pm I would say yes, but it is for most very difficult. I have a couple of female friends that I think the world of, and Linda knows of and/or knows them as well. I make sure that she knows about it whenever I talk with them so that there is never any question of something going on. I don't have to, but I do it out of respect and love for her as well as a point of accountability for myself. Frankly, I don't trust myself. I would NEVER do anytning to hinder my relationship with my wife, but I know from experience and many years of working with other couples how easy it is to slip in an unguarded moment. Jerry |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Ree on Oct 17th, 2007, 11:46pm I have a lot of male friends... I don't know if they think of me that way but, I can be friends with men without sleeping with them... I can see where it can happen when you are vulnerable though and in my younger day I would fall for a guy if he said the right things while I was in that abusive marriage. My brother Buddy thinks that every girl Sean walks in the house with he is "Poking" and Sean has a lot of friends that are female. I know for a fact that a few of these girls are just his friends. A few I'm not sure! very interesting topic... Ree |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Jonny on Oct 18th, 2007, 12:05am on 10/17/07 at 23:46:26, Ree wrote:
[smiley=wave.gif]...I think of you that way, Ree.....but your my CH buddy and would never cross that line! Its called respect!, but I can think about it.....LOL ;) |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Smurfysmurff on Oct 18th, 2007, 6:30am I believe it can happen, but there are other outside factors that can affect the "friendship". In my case, I was friends with a girl all through grade school, set her up with a male friend of mine, my and the male were really close, and had a brother/sister relationship. Until SHE got jealous, thought he was cheating on her with me, told him to never talk to me again. And the whipped little wussy boy agreed with her, and we haven't seen/spoken in 3 years. But yes, I believe that men and women can just be friends ...... although there might be a drunken mistake thrown in there. |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Brewcrew on Oct 18th, 2007, 7:30am To a certain extent, we cannot control what thoughts occur to us. But we can control how we act upon them. Therefore, if a man and woman who are friends each have low impulse control, it's bound to happen. But if they can control how they act, they can have a very successful friendship. Morality isn't about how we think - it's about how we behave. |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by JenniferD on Oct 18th, 2007, 11:06am on 10/18/07 at 07:30:18, Brewcrew wrote:
You summed it up pretty well Bill. Quite honestly, I have no girl friends (other than online) because I find a lot of women are catty backstabbing bitches and I HATE THAT CRAP. Men are just easier to get along with and be myself with. It all does come down to how one behaves and just because guys might think about that, it doesn't mean its gonna happen. Like Darryl said initially, "if we think we can ..." With the old guy, I made it clear that nothing was going to happen EVER, but Darryl seems to think that I was responsible for the situation because all guys are like that. I still think that men and women CAN be friends and that men/women friendships are healthy. I can see this "discussion" at home will continue for a long time LOL Thanks for your thoughts on this :) Jen |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by cynjeep89 on Oct 18th, 2007, 7:21pm The majority of my good friends are males. When John and I first got together, he knew that most of my friends were men and, in fact, knew most of them. I have never gone out with any of these guys because they seem more like brothers to me than dating material. I know I can depend on them and they feel the same way. Some are single, some are married.....one thing I make sure of, I always respect their girlfriends and/or wives. If John felt uncomfortable with any of my friends or acquaintances, I wouldn't put my relationship with them above my relationship with John. It's not worth it. If the shoe was on the other foot, and I felt uncomfortable with one of his female friends, I would hope he would do the same for me. Guess it's just a matter of respect for me. |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Sean_C on Oct 18th, 2007, 8:16pm I might want to change my answer. Does my friend look like her ;;D I could have a weak moment here ;;D http://rds.yahoo.com/_ylt=A9iby4cb9xdHSXIAS3GjzbkF/SIG=11u3v3nad/EXP=1192839323/**http%3A//www.davidfish.com/images/jw/JW1.jpg J/K ;;D |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Annette on Oct 18th, 2007, 10:10pm I think it depends on what signals you send out to the world, and non verbal signals are much more powerful than verbal ones. If I am going to walk around dressing like the woman Sean posted and giving men that sort of look, I can protest till the cows come home that all I want from the men around me is their friendships, no one would believe me, and no one should either! Behave respectively and you will get respect back. True friendship needs mutual respect to survive. |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Jonny on Oct 18th, 2007, 10:34pm on 10/18/07 at 11:06:21, JenniferD wrote:
Best quote of this thread! The ony flaw with it is "What the chick thinks" |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Annette on Oct 18th, 2007, 10:40pm The chicks think we can flaunt our wares and drive the guys crazy, absolutely enjoy the attention, then innocently protest that all we want is your friendship 8) ;;D J/K Edited to add " and get away with it ! " ;) |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by ClusterChuck on Oct 19th, 2007, 12:07am I guess my answer would not be valid .. After denying my sexuality for so many years, and trying to live as a straight person, and now openly out, many would view my female friends as non-threats ... BUT, while I was married, my wife and I both had/have friends of the opposite sex, and had no problems ... But then again, we fully trusted each other ... Chuck |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Jonny on Oct 19th, 2007, 12:30am on 10/19/07 at 00:07:37, ClusterChuck wrote:
You never had a wide stance, Chuck....LOL? |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by nani on Oct 19th, 2007, 1:15am on 10/18/07 at 22:40:25, Annette wrote:
Um, that would make them lousy friends. Fucking with someone's head to meet your own needs is just wrong. Count this chick out of that generalization. |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by sandie99 on Oct 19th, 2007, 3:35am Honestly is important quality in a friend. Ok, I admit, I don't prefer brutal honesty, but it's better than playing mind games and leading someone on. I can understand that it's possible to lead someone on without realizing it (miscommunication does take place sometimes), but doing that on purpose is just wrong. I don't say "I love you" unless I mean it, I don't make promises I don't tend to keep. But we're all different. I bet that there are bad friends at both ends. |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by JenniferD on Oct 19th, 2007, 6:07am on 10/19/07 at 01:15:05, nani wrote:
Me too! But you are absolutely right Annette! That goes back to, "if a guy thinks he can,..he's gonna try" Some guys are just plain idiots and believe they are God's gift to the world, and because THEY are thinking it, then she must want it too. WRONG. But I really believe (unlike my spouse who believes all men are pigs) that most men are decent guys who take "friends" for what it is. |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by sandie99 on Oct 19th, 2007, 9:38am Jen, you're not the only one who is wondering this topic right now. Finnish women's weekly magazine Anna devoted 6 pages to "Can men and women be just friends?"- topic. Intrestingly, they had 3 example cases: gay man - streight woman (she wanted more, but they stayed as friends), dance partners (he was married but wanted to be with her and she switched partner) and people, who had known each other since childhood (ended up having sex twice and decided to be just friends). Aguess finding man and woman who are just friends without any hassle was a mission impossible.... |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Ghost on Oct 19th, 2007, 10:30am Ok now for the Goat opinion. My best friend is my wife and we can talk for years and never worry about 5ex. seriously some of my fav people in the world are my CHenz here and I that is ME would never do anything to ruin the friendships I have here by even trying to hit on my friends. Even my female friends away from here I could never trash a friendship by trying anything. 5ex is but a moment in time but Friends are a lifetime event. Mike |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Brewcrew on Oct 19th, 2007, 10:35am on 10/19/07 at 10:30:49, Ghost wrote:
More proof that it's not about how we think, it's about how we behave. Good on ya, goat-boy. |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Sean_C on Oct 19th, 2007, 4:01pm on 10/19/07 at 10:30:49, Ghost wrote:
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Paul98 on Oct 19th, 2007, 4:09pm on 10/19/07 at 10:30:49, Ghost wrote:
You poor bastaad if it was a typo...and if you don't have to worry about the 5 ex's.... I guess you are lucky. LOL -P. |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by LeLimey on Oct 19th, 2007, 4:28pm Goat you flippin' crackpot - only you honeybun!!! only you!! LMAO I don't care what anyone says, I know I can have male friends who are bloody good friends. If they have ever thought about sex then I'm sure the shit I come out with has cured them of it, they've certainly never made me aware of it. Like my mate Brew says, actions speak louder than words. I love having friends of either sex, I love spending time with my girlfriends but I enjoy time with male friends too (except Ting Tong of course, thats more endurance than enjoyment but I suffer in silence 'cos he doesn't get out much!) I have different expectations of friendships, there are different rules as to what I'll discuss with men and women and maybe that's why it works for me at any rate. |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by Ghost on Oct 19th, 2007, 4:38pm OOOPS was I having an Al Bundy moment again? AWWW Peg is it your birthday again it seemed like it was only last year! [smiley=laugh.gif] [smiley=laugh.gif] [smiley=laugh.gif] [smiley=laugh.gif] [smiley=laugh.gif] 5ex, 5ex you want 5ex then shut up and ill be f'n happy! ;;D ;;D ;;D ;;D Mike |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by KJ on Oct 19th, 2007, 7:16pm Men and women can be 'just friends', in my opinion....looks like there is unanimous agreement on that from the posters here. Let's throw another can of worms inside this can of worms. The younger generation these days have a deal called 'friends with benefits'(man, where was this thing when I was in college!). The premise is....we are just friends....if you are unattached at the moment, and I am unattached at the moment....and the mood strikes us, or we are lonely, or whatever, then we can hook up. Tomorrow, we are just friends again, that's all. Is this arrangement gonna work? Just reminding you, I didn't make it up. :) |
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Title: Re: ok, opening a can of worms here ;) Post by George_J on Oct 19th, 2007, 8:16pm Nice new can of worms, KJ. ;) I guess we'll have to see how FWB works out for them. It doesn't strike me as an inherently stable relationship, given the nature of human--specifically testosterone-driven jealousy, but what do I know? Not much. It reminds me a little of what Anais Nin said about married people--that they should live down the street from each other, and visit once in awhile. FWB wasn't a defined boomer concept, although I suppose there were plenty of individual examples of something like it. Not that I'd know firsthand--I've been married since the Pleistocene. Best, George |
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