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Title: Looks like the end of the road Post by MR_FLOOR on Jul 23rd, 2007, 4:32pm Hey all, While I was at the party in the park I boarded my sick dog at my vets office and asked him to do some blood work on her.Well I just received the call shes not good.Her white blood count is off the charts low.Bottom line is shes not going to make it.I think I will tell my daughter that Jade is going to a house that has a doctor that can look after her,there is no reason to tell her anything else.Don't you agree?So I'm going there to say good buy and maybe hold her while the doctor does his thing tonight.While writing this I'm holding back the tears.I love that mut.She will be greatly missed. [smiley=bigcry.gif] [smiley=bigcry.gif] Dave |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by Mosaicwench on Jul 23rd, 2007, 4:35pm Aw Dave, I'm so sorry. |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by echo on Jul 23rd, 2007, 4:36pm Sorry to read that you need to do this. Losing a long loved pet is always a hard thing to do. As far as your question: you know your home situation and potential emotional strain. Your call. |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by Brewcrew on Jul 23rd, 2007, 4:38pm on 07/23/07 at 16:32:40, MR_FLOOR wrote:
Dave - While it sucks, I think you need to find a way to tell her the truth. In a way a little girl understands. This might help: Rainbow Bridge Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge. When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable. All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind. They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster. You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart. Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together.... Author unknown... |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by aubmari on Jul 23rd, 2007, 4:40pm I am sorry to hear that. Losing a pet can be like losing a member of the family. :'( How old is your daughter? Sometimes it is better to be honest with them and tell them what is going on. My daughter is 4 and I have always been open with her about death. You would be amazed at how well they can do with it. Case by case though I am sure. My heart goes out to you and your family. |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by MR_FLOOR on Jul 23rd, 2007, 5:45pm Thanks for all your warm thoughts and words. Brew thanks for the advise and the story it was very moving I am going to seriously consider it.It's just that she keeps asking me wheres Jade and I'm not sure how to answer her.She looks at me so seriously.Well I will play it by ear and ease her into it.My 17 year old is going to come with me tonight that will be some comfort for me at least and I will be some comfort for her.She is very upset as well. Dave |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by alienspacebabe on Jul 23rd, 2007, 6:00pm [smiley=hug.gif] |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by Jackie on Jul 23rd, 2007, 6:28pm I'm so sorry, Dave......my heart aches for you and your family. The loss of a beloved pet is so very difficult. Jackie :'( |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by chewy on Jul 23rd, 2007, 6:37pm Dont hold back the tears bud. Its your dog. Maybe tell her the angels needed a puppy for a present for God and Jade was the best one out there so she went with the angels. Then get her, and you, a new puppy. |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by JenniferD on Jul 23rd, 2007, 6:39pm :'( I'm so sorry Dave. |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by Grandma_Sweet_Boy on Jul 23rd, 2007, 7:23pm on 07/23/07 at 18:37:42, chewy wrote:
That's pretty good advice that Don has given you. It's truthful but in a gentle fashion. Kids are a whole lot more clever than we sometimes think they are and they can actually handle bad news when it's presented to them by people they love and trust. Of course she'll cry and be upset and we all hate that for our little ones, but better the truth than for her to find out later that you once lied to her about something very important. It speaks to an issue of trust. I'm sorry you and your family are having to go through this. Sending hugs Carol |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by ShariRae on Jul 23rd, 2007, 9:35pm Aww Dave I am so sorry..this is such a hard time for you & your family.I have to agree with chewy's advice too..it's a great way to gently tell her while still showing her how important Jade is. Much Love Shari |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by minnie on Jul 23rd, 2007, 10:01pm not knowing the age of your daughter is hard but I asked an 8 and 10 year old.They both went with honesty.They both liked Dons explanation as do I.She also said that if she thought the dog was at a doctors she would always want to see her.she also said it would be hard to think the dog is sick and they can't help it so it has to stay with a doctor she doesn't know.kindly truethful.just don't say stuff like she just went to sleep and didn't wake up.too scary for kids who also have to go to sleep every night.maybe she can write something and keep it with a picture of Jade so she can look back and remember her beloved Jade. sorry for your loss, :'( [smiley=hug.gif] Minnie |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by cosmicfunkfather on Jul 23rd, 2007, 10:02pm Sorry too here about your pet Dave. Be strong BRO for your family. James [smiley=frown.gif] |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by BlueMeanie on Jul 23rd, 2007, 10:23pm Sorry for your loss Dave. Its' not easy loosing a pet as they are family too. |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by MR_FLOOR on Jul 23rd, 2007, 10:31pm Well the deed is done.Everybody keeps telling me I did the right thing so then why do I feel like the executioner my 17 year old Alisha and I where balling our eyes out as she went. I mis spoke earlier when I said her blood count was low it was off the charts high it was 61000 ths it is supposed to be 15000.My vet said in 40 years of being a vet he has never seen it that high.He also said that the specialist that did the blood work said if they would have opened her up she would have been loaded with tumors. God she looked so helpless.I sorry I'm rambling on.Thanks for your eyes and ears. P.S. Brew I took your advise and the advise of all who said to tell Trina the truth.Your all right the truth is the only way.And for all wondered about Trinas age shes 4 Dave |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by cynjeep89 on Jul 23rd, 2007, 10:44pm Having been thru the same thing a couple of times, I know all too well about feeling like the executioner. I found myself second guessing my decision but each time I did, I came to the same conclusion. It had to be done because my beloved pets were suffering and I would have been selfish to have tried to keep them with me any longer. From the information that the vet relayed to you, there was nothing else you could have done. I hate the fact that our pets don't live longer. Just doesn't seem fair does it but knowing we gave them the best lives, tons of love and affection will hopefully ease the pain. It hurts like hell to lose our buddies and even though the pain never really goes away, it will subside with time. I wish there was more that I could do or say but please know that we understand and feel for you and your family. |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by Brewcrew on Jul 23rd, 2007, 10:49pm You're a caring and compassionate man, Dave (as I wipe a few tears from eyes). You did for Jade what she couldn't do for herself, and you are a hero in my eyes. Coincidentally, we found a 3-week-old kitten living in our woodpile this evening, and I took him to the humane society. Once they nurse him back to health, they told me he is prime adoption material. The circle of life. You and your family will be in our thoughts and prayers. Bill |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by MR_FLOOR on Jul 23rd, 2007, 10:49pm on 07/23/07 at 22:44:53, cynjeep89 wrote:
It makes me not want to have any more pets |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by 1stdonna on Jul 23rd, 2007, 11:00pm You did the kindest thing that you could have done for your beloved pet. They can't tell us when they hurt, but we know that if Jade was full of tumors, the pain was soon to get bad. Honesty with children is always right.....just be sure not to offer more than they ask. This is such a difficult time for you and your family...I'm so sorry. Hugs, DonnaHar |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by MR_FLOOR on Jul 23rd, 2007, 11:07pm This is the most supportive group of people on the planet.I love you all. Dave |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by artonio7 on Jul 23rd, 2007, 11:13pm Aww Dave, It breaks my heart you and your family are going through this. Loss really hurts, especially when it's a beloved pet. You will all be in my thoughts and prayers and I'm sure you will find a way to let your youngest daughter know that she was not abandoned by Jade, and that Jade would still be with you if she could. with warm regards, Tony |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by BarbaraD on Jul 24th, 2007, 7:26am on 07/23/07 at 18:37:42, chewy wrote:
This is some really good advice. Give her the time to cry - you too. Hugs BD |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by Jackie on Jul 24th, 2007, 8:22am I had to make the same decision for my beloved Rocky back in Feb. Believe me...I feel your pain, Sweetie. I was told by a dear friend..."It's one of the hardest decisions you will ever make but, also, one of the kindest." I'm so very sorry :'( Love to you, Jackie |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by nani on Jul 24th, 2007, 9:32am :'( [smiley=hug.gif] Sorry, Dave. You did the right thing, but it's still so hard. I liked chewy's advice, a 4 year old needs the truth, but in the kindest, most gentle way. My condolences to all of you. hugs, nani |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by LadyElaine1 on Jul 24th, 2007, 10:39am I am so sorry. Our pets are our children. JD was a little over 2 when Taco died. We had to tell him the truth. I am glad we did. He is 6 now and still talks about her. I don't think he has any memory of her, just her picture. They have a way of understanding it, and holding up, really better than we do. You did the right thing all the way around. |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by rickyshot on Jul 24th, 2007, 2:10pm To me there is something wrong with people who don't like animals. We were even moved when our little hermit crab died, never mind the rest of them. My heart goes out to you. and I love Brew and Don's advice. |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by Rosybabe on Jul 24th, 2007, 2:38pm on 07/23/07 at 22:49:51, MR_FLOOR wrote:
I think we need pets as much as they need someone to love...you will not stop loving and animal because he gives back so much, the look on those eyes when they greet you is full of inconditional love... You did right on letting your little girl know the truth, I rather have my daughter know that when someone dies it is not the end of the world and we will be together again somewhere else... She deserves another chance to love a pet as much as you do ;) |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by Sandy_C on Jul 24th, 2007, 5:18pm I know how hard this was for you. All my life, since childhood, I have had a beloved dog, and later in my life, beloved cats. I have had to put down 6 dogs, bury one cat, and give away 9 kittens. Having to ask my vet to put down my loved dogs, was the hardest thing I have done. I was there each time, and gave my beloved buddy pieces of cheese while the needle was injected. I left in sobs every time. I loved each and every one of my dogs, they were part of my family. At the age of 61, I now have one dog and one cat. I know that when Boots, my dog, who is getting old, no longer has quality if life, I will once again make that hard choice, and I will have his life ended. I also know that when Charlie, my beloved calico cat reaches that point, I will have her put to rest. Neither will be easy. I keep telling myself that Boots will be the last dog I will ever have in my life. Maybe, maybe not??? I also know that Charlie will absoutely not be the last cat in my life. There is something about cats???? You absolutely did the right thing. It's not easy, it hurts. But your loved pet is no longer suffering. Love and Hugs to you and your family Sandy |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by Charlie on Jul 24th, 2007, 7:31pm Sorry for all this Dave. One thing is that kids handle death better than we expect most of the time. They handle it as well as those around them. Lots of good advice here too. Charlie |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by purpleydog on Jul 24th, 2007, 8:16pm Dave, I understand exactly what you are going through. I had to put both my dogs down last year, 6 months apart. Maggi, the weimey was "my" dog, and it was especially hard, she had been in so much pain, and the narcotics weren't helping anymore. I took her to the vet in the morning, refused more testing, and after work, I went there. When she heard my voice, she buried her head in my arms, where she felt safe. All the vets, and all the vet techs we had known throughout their lives came and said their goodbyes. I held her while they gave her the shot, talking quietly to her. She was such a good dog, and I miss both of them terribly. I would get another dog, but I'm not in a position to have one now. Remember the good times. Go and get another dog, it will help you remember the good times, and dogs love us so much. It's great. I know, the time flies by... mine were both 11 1/2. I will get another dog (s), when the time is right. Hang in there, my friend. All dogs go to heaven. |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by barry_sword on Jul 24th, 2007, 8:52pm Dave, I am so sorry. Our thought's and prayer's heading your way for you and the family. :'( Barry&Angie |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by cathip on Jul 24th, 2007, 9:10pm Dave, 2 years ago, I was the proud mama of 5 wonderful cats. Companions to each other as well as my husband and myself. I found myself down to just 2 cats when my mother died earlier this month, so we took her cat in. Now, one more is ill. Nothing we can do, nothing we could've prevented, the cats are all about the same age. Thank heaven my Mom's cat is here to ease the pain, coz I know, it's just days before we will have to make the decision to hold my sweet Pepperkittie while the vet gently ends his life. In 34 yrs of marriage, Gil and I have had only 1 dog. Noone could've replaced our Hawkeye. That was 14 yrs ago, and I find myself crying even now when I think of him. We will be down to 2 cats again soon, and I will remember with love all the animals who have gone before them. Each one holds a piece of my heart. Chewy, your words were beautiful........ And, Dave, it would be nice if our furry friends could live as long as we do, but maybe this is how we learn to let go. I dunno, coz it sucks every single time......... but the joy of loving them far outweighs a life where we live sterile, insulating us from such emotion. Healing hugs going out to your family, Cathi :-/ |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by sandie99 on Jul 25th, 2007, 2:30am Dave, losing a pet is heart-breaking. I'm so sorry for your loss. [smiley=hug.gif] Hugs, Sanna |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by kayarr on Jul 25th, 2007, 8:43am [smiley=hug.gif] |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by MR_FLOOR on Jul 25th, 2007, 8:42pm Jades sister(not by blood) was howling last night for like 10 minutes.Usually she would howl if a fire truck or a police car with there siren is going but it was quiet as a mouse out.The only thing I could think of is that Xena was missing her sister.So I gave her lotts of loving and took her for a walk.I felt bad for her.Now she don't have Jade to play with anymore.They have been together for about 8 years. :'( Dave |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by cash5542 on Jul 26th, 2007, 7:56pm I hope each day becomes a bit easier for you. I still feel the pain of our loss from this past March. We did get a puppy right away and although she will NEVER replace Emily, she does fill the gap and helps us to laugh again. I remember going to bed the first night, feeling like my heart was ripped out and never wanting to be so vulnerbale again. For some a puppy right away is great but not others. The vet told us about 50% of families jump right back into it.You didn't execute your dog, you gave her peace, comfort and serenity. Hugs and prayers to you and your family! |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by George_J on Jul 26th, 2007, 11:19pm This morning, we had to make the choice to put our beloved old cat, Fitzwilly, to rest. He fought a short and unsuccessful battle with Chronic Feline Kidney Failure. Ellen's sixteen, so we had a family meeting early this morning so that all of us could decide what was best done. And we agreed--there was really no other possible decision. I took him to the vet for the last time. I guess that's one of the things I think Dads are for--to do the difficult things. I stayed with Fitz at the end. I didn't want him to be frightened. I don't believe he was. He gave me one final "head bump" before he was gone. Ellen's pretty okay. Fitz has been a presence here since she was very small, and she was, understandably, very upset. But she's a pragmatic and mature person, and she knows it was the right decision. One she agreed with. It's a good sign, I think, that she's already talking about adopting another cat. I'm sure it will happen. It seems to be what we do. :) Best wishes to all of you, George |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by Brewcrew on Jul 26th, 2007, 11:31pm George - You seem like a great dad. Just make sure Ellen knows that it's okay to hurt, too. I'm sure you already have. |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by MR_FLOOR on Jul 27th, 2007, 1:45am on 07/26/07 at 23:19:06, George_J wrote:
I'm truly sorry for your loss George. The final head but thing brought a tear to my eye.Isn't it amazing how fast they go once they put that shot in?I made the decision,but I didn't think it would be that fast.She was just gone.I don't think I was prepared for it.Seeing her laying there was devastating to me and my daughter.Just like that is was over.I love that big galoot.I still have a rottweiller,and I love her just as much,but Jade was truly a perfect specimen,she probably could have won a dog show she was so beautiful.I'm going to try to post a picture of her if I can figure it out. |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by Jackie on Jul 27th, 2007, 5:31am So sorry, George...... :'( The loss of a beloved pet really feels bad....a new kitty may just be good medicine.... Jackie |
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Title: Re: Looks like the end of the road Post by barry_sword on Jul 27th, 2007, 5:58am Very sorry George, from another cat owner. :'( Barry |
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