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Title: We have hit bottom... Post by Mark C on Jun 6th, 2007, 1:24pm My Dear Clusterfamily, I am going to be away for a while, see I have hit bottom. Through the last year many events have happened to get me and my kids to a point where it looks like I am going to have to go to a shelter. My resources have been exhausted. I have no family to help me anymore. Last year I had the best job I have ever had and life was doing OK, now it looks very bad. My wife and I closed down our house and moved up here to help her parents who were gravely ill. November I got laid off after seven years. I got another job (through a temp) December and was laid off (released) because another company bought out where I was working and used another service. This same month the engine in my car blew up, bad oil pump. February I broke my foot, March my wife’s father died after a lengthy illness. We had to pay for the funeral and he had no insurance. April 14tH Mamaw passed again no insurance and now my wife is in the hospital for depression. I am not able to keep the utilities going much longer, I have no transportation and I am even having trouble feeding us……I have never been in such a bad shape in my life. I am told that God will not put no more on us than we can handle but I am beginning to wonder….. I guess I need someone to talk to, I am afraid and so ashamed that I cannot hardly see to type between tears. I am supposed to be the man, the provider and I cant even feed my kids…..what the fuck? I can get back on my feet with some help but this is the darkest time in my life. Please pray for my family. I love you guys, Ashamed and embarressed, Mark |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by sldrswyfe on Jun 6th, 2007, 1:36pm Mark, I am so, so very sorry. I completely understand. I have been there. Up until the past seven and half months...I lived it. Hang on. Sherri |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by Margi on Jun 6th, 2007, 1:37pm Done, Mark - prayer sent up for you and your family. Nothing to be ashamed and embarassed about, ok? We are all exactly where we are meant to be at any given point in time. Not an easy concept to accept but this is when faith really comes into play. I got an email yesterday from a friend that was called 'The Rope'. It was the story of a mountain climber who got into trouble and fell. He hung suspended there in the dark and cold for hours and hours. He prayed aloud to God for help. He soon heard a voice that said 'just cut the rope and have faith'. He didn't let go because he was afraid. Rescuers found him the next morning, frozen to death. 10 feet above the ground. I'm not sure why I felt I needed to tell you that - it's not a very happy ending and I'm sure you really don't need any more bad news at this point. But, for some reason, it's really stuck with me and I guess I'm trying to urge you not to lose faith. Hang in there, friend - know that we are with you and praying for you. Margi |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by sandie99 on Jun 6th, 2007, 1:37pm Mark, lots of vibes & prayers are on their way to you and your family from mine. I know that it may sound utterly silly to you right now, but I do believe that better times are headed your way. Hugs, Sanna |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by marlinsfan on Jun 6th, 2007, 1:40pm Don't be ashamed nor embarrased, you've done the best you could through this most difficult of times. Be strong for your wife who needs you now. I'm sure soon you'll be back on your feet, and stronger than ever having put this behind you. |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by ClusterChuck on Jun 6th, 2007, 1:59pm OMG, Mark! I had no idea ..... DAYUM!!! PLEASE don't feel embarassed! You have done the best that you can, and things WILL get better! Do what you have to do. We care and pray for you an yours. I wish I lived closer, so that I could do something. Chuck |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by Lobster on Jun 6th, 2007, 2:23pm What is the best way to get coin to you? PayPal? Western Union? |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by ClusterChuck on Jun 6th, 2007, 2:25pm on 06/06/07 at 14:23:26, Lobster wrote:
Hear HEAR!!! I'll join THAT band wagon!! Chuck |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by BlueMeanie on Jun 6th, 2007, 3:11pm Sorry to hear of your misfortunes Mark. I'm not good at researching, but maybe someone can provide you with some links for government assistance until you can get back on your feet. Do you have a paypal account ? If not, will you sign up for one and provide a link. I don't have alot, but will be happy to help out with what I can. Hang in there bud, things will improve. |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by JDH on Jun 6th, 2007, 3:33pm on 06/06/07 at 15:11:08, BlueMeanie wrote:
A big HUGE ditto on that! And in the meantime keep fighting the good fight Mark. Jim |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by Grandma_Sweet_Boy on Jun 6th, 2007, 4:26pm Mark - if you've truly hit bottom, then the only way left is back up again. There are many good folks here who are willing to lend a hand right now. You just have to provide some details to us. You gave me a phone # a week or so ago but when I tried it today - it's apparently not working. C'mon buddy - hang in there. Help is on the way but you have to help us to help you. Hugs Carol |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by ClusterChuck on Jun 6th, 2007, 4:29pm I used Western Union ... It can be done on-line ... Chuck |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by Charlie on Jun 6th, 2007, 7:43pm Mark: So sorry about this but not everything is your fault and you need a break.....lots of breaks. The thing is that you are thinking and doing. That's a big part and I know that things will look better again. No need to worry about asking for help. I had to for medical and perhaps more. I don't like it but damn it, I'm lost without it. I feel that NYS owes me for not letting me drive for the last 48 years and firing me from my one State job in 6 days because I had a seizure in 1968. Screw 'em. They owe me for not taking them to court back then. Do us and youself a favor and keep posting. You should be able to use a library if nothing else. I have. Charlie |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by Jonny on Jun 6th, 2007, 8:51pm Let me know the name of the shelter, bro....I may join you. The payroll company I gave $46,000 to never gave it to the IRS and the IRS wants it, again, from me! I dont have it, so I may have to sell my house, I say you do the same just to keep afloat for awhile. Aint life fucking grand on top of clusters? |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by Lobster on Jun 6th, 2007, 9:04pm Aye Chuck... Western Union is the ticket. I wish the fees were not so high, but oh well... the price we pay for such conveniences. WU transfer done. Sent you the control number, Mark. Jonny... you can move into Chewy's mom's basement. Most of his furniture should still be there, as she just kicked him out last year. |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by BlueMeanie on Jun 6th, 2007, 9:28pm Too bad Western Union took a bunch of it, but there's more waiting for you Mark. Great talking to you again. Sounds like you're heading in the right direction. Keep the faith and don't be a stranger to the boards o.k. If anyone else would like to help out, send him an I.M. for info. |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by Mark C on Jun 6th, 2007, 10:47pm I am humbled at your responses. We have food in the fridge. We still have a way to go but the immediate emergency has been handled. I am at a loss as what to say but thank you all so much. My kids wanted me to tell you thank you also! Today has been a very moving experience for me. I feel energized to carry through with this task ahead. I called the shelter and have made arraingments and have also made arraingments to store my stuff while we are there. I intend to only use public assistance till I am back on my feet which wont be long. You folks are fantastic!!! Very grateful, very humbled, very determined, Mark |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by MR_FLOOR on Jun 6th, 2007, 11:47pm How did you guys give Mark the money I would like to help also. Mark hang in there buddy your kids need you to keep your head up, you will get through this we will not let your family go hungry.Your kids should have some kind of insurance through there school (check it out ).Good luck and keep us posted. Dave |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by Linda_Howell on Jun 7th, 2007, 1:17am I have his address folks. Now all I need is an o.k.from him, to give it out to his "FAMILY" here. Mark? |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by Grandma_Sweet_Boy on Jun 7th, 2007, 6:19am on 06/06/07 at 23:47:30, MR_FLOOR wrote:
Western Union is one option, Dave. |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by Maffumatt on Jun 7th, 2007, 9:03am Keep your head high and back straight, things have a way of working out, we are all behind you. |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by aprilbee on Jun 7th, 2007, 9:47am I'm in a VERY similar situation Mark....you have my utmost sympathy and prayers for strength and understanding....God does not and will not give you more than you can handle....prayers and vibes for you and your family... :-* remember tomorrow is another day, a fresh start, a new beginning, I wake up thankful I can sit up and get out of my bed, right now its about all I have going for me...things will turn around...Karma is always watching and will reward you... ;) |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by Ray on Jun 7th, 2007, 12:37pm I, too am in a similar situation brother. Keep the faith, keep praying, and may God richly bless you! Ray |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by ClusterChuck on Jun 8th, 2007, 12:30am Hey Mark, how did today go? Are all things set up to go? Let me know how you and the kids are, buddy! I, like many others, CARE! Chuck |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by kimmiedawn81 on Jun 8th, 2007, 10:56am Mark, I hope things get better for you soon, as I'm sure they will. Take care and keep us posted. I will be praying for you! |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by Mark C on Jun 8th, 2007, 5:49pm We are overwhelmed by the outpouring of email, messages calls and money aid we have recieved. You angels have helped more than you will know. I received not one but two certified letters to confirm we are being being evicted, I knew this was coming but it is still sad. We still have a long way to go but the recovery has started. I still have much guilt and shame but this is not about me. In time I hope to have a more accurate view of this whole scenario. Packing to go to the shelter has started. we can only take what we can carry in as far as I know at this time. The kids are having to choose a few select toys and I am trying to take other items like pillows and blankets and pictures to make them feel more at home in the shelter. We will be going in Sunday afternoon so I may be in town Monday AM to start the aid process. I am afraid.....but God and you folks and empowered me to see this through. I have and will continue to keep the kids welfare first. I must take better care of myself too...being a marytr is not a good thing. My needs must be met to meet the needs of the children. I am working on that. We intend to seek some family counseling to help with this transition, I do worry about the effect this has on the kids. They are in very good spirits today and seem to be OK. I have told them everything that is going on without the brutal details of course. I thought it better to inform them than allow their imaginations to fill in any gaps. Yesterday was a magic day....we went to Fountain City Park and then ate at the Waffle House, Christian had three(!) orders of hash browns, guess he was hungry. We used to go to the park about once a week but this is the first time this year I think. I took my camera so I could share some of the good things you folks are responsible for. I can never express my gratitude to those who have helped.....I can only say thank you so much....this is amazing to me and the kids. As I was taking these pics I cried because you made this possible. Never again will I take a single moment with my children for granted. Please enjoy the pics of happy children at play, you made it happen. Thank you all so much, God Bless You! Mark, Christian and Jessie http://aycu34.webshots.com/image/17953/2000445729542359431_rs.jpg http://aycu19.webshots.com/image/15698/2000434235503239621_rs.jpg http://aycu09.webshots.com/image/17608/2000447316388759625_rs.jpg http://aycu37.webshots.com/image/18796/2000411680835978930_rs.jpg http://aycu27.webshots.com/image/16866/2000448160265660634_rs.jpg http://aycu38.webshots.com/image/16717/2000484265316067688_rs.jpg |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by Linda_Howell on Jun 8th, 2007, 7:10pm Mark, kids are very adaptable and resiliant. As long as you are strong and maybe even make an adventure out of this.... they will be just fine. Don't know if you will lose your internet, but I suspect you will, so keep us informed as long as you can. You have my number if you need to talk again. :) |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by Charlie on Jun 8th, 2007, 7:39pm Nice going Mark. Kids are wonderful. They tend to believe that if it happens to mom and dad, it ain't the worst thing in the world. They do that with pain as well. Hang on and keep posting. Charlie |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by Ray on Jun 8th, 2007, 9:46pm My prayers are still with you, until you tell me to stop. Bless you and your family, Ray |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by UN solved on Jun 8th, 2007, 10:40pm Goodluck Mark ! Better days have got to be ahead ! Wish I could do more PF Wishes UNsolved |
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Title: Re: We have hit bottom... Post by sandie99 on Jun 9th, 2007, 3:16am Mark, you and your family are in my prayers. The better things are on their way, I'm sure of that! Hugs, Sanna |
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