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(Message started by: alienspacebabe on May 24^th, 2007, 2:50am)

Title: It takes time
Post by alienspacebabe on May 24^th, 2007, 2:50am

I know it takes time. Keep being reminded of that.

I miss Dad.

Every little thing we would have done together reminds me he's not here.

I miss the support during rough times, when he would take over trying to reason with Mike.

How will mini-golfing be fun again?

I miss his total acceptance - when I told him I was moving, and why, all the details.... he said - which car are you taking?

Rarely did I realize how much I relied on him. He was my "backup brain" for when mine didn't work the way it needed to. He was my eyes, after the fire when I couldn't see. He was the one who held me up - through my marriage, my divorce, my world.... When I wasn't sure I could get a Masters', he pushed me to try, and told me I definitely could succeed at it.

He worked so hard to make sure me and my sister and brother knew that our family's depression, for generations back and for our generations, is purely chemical.

I have memories. Wonderful memories! But we won't be making any more memories.

I don't have this anymore. I don't have his unending fatherly love. I am now without a man who truly loves me unconditionally.

I'm a strong woman - I'll get through this. Not sure how yet, but I will, eventually.

Title: Re: It takes time
Post by sandie99 on May 24^th, 2007, 2:57am

Lizzie, that was so beautiful... [smiley=hug.gif][smiley=hug.gif][smiley=hug.gif]

Your father sounds like one wonderful father and man. :)

I bet that your dad saw that and loves it. And I'm sure that he'll be right there with you, no matter what, in every situation in your life.

Lots of hugs,
Sanna

Title: Re: It takes time
Post by LadyElaine1 on May 24^th, 2007, 7:22am

That is beautiful Liz. Time does help, but you never stop missing your Dad. I lost Dad in 2005 and I miss him to this day.
Tears still come. I still feel my dad with me.

You will make it, cause he is still with you, he is still supporting you.

Title: Re: It takes time
Post by Mosaicwench on May 24^th, 2007, 7:30am

Aw Lizzie . . . .

I didn't have the same type of dad you had, but I miss mine too (today would have been his 82nd birthday).

Father's Day is gonna be rough this year - first one where Brew is the reigning father in our family.

Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Title: Re: It takes time
Post by kimmiedawn81 on May 24^th, 2007, 9:34am

Lizzie, I wish that there was something I could do, but unfortunately like you said, it takes time.

Those memories that you made with your dad cannot be taken away from you. You may not be making any new memories, but the ones you have are so precious. And he hasn't left you. He's still with you through everything you do.

Title: Re: It takes time
Post by taraann on May 24^th, 2007, 9:55am

It does take time Lizzie. My mom's been gone 6 yrs now and most of the time I can remember her without that all consuming ache and we can reminsce with laughter. But there are still those times I miss her terribly. Sounds like you are working through your grief very well. Big hugs Liz. I'm so sad for your loss. Its beyond hard I know.

Title: Re: It takes time
Post by Jackie on May 24^th, 2007, 10:05am

Oh Lizzie....bless your heart.

Hold him close in your heart....he's with you always.
It does take time. I lost my Daddy in 2001 and still miss him every single day. Talk to your Daddy....he'll hear you. He taught you well....you'll find the answers.

Love to you, Sweetie...
Jackie

Title: Re: It takes time
Post by midwestbeth on May 24^th, 2007, 10:23am

Lizzie,

Your dad sounds like a real gem. Remember he will always be with you. Because of the relationship you shared, he made you who you are today. Treasure the memories.

Beth

Title: Re: It takes time
Post by B14CK5H33P on May 24^th, 2007, 6:09pm

People often say that time heals all wounds, but years and years have passed since both mom and dad and though some wounds never heal, time provides a sort of cushion.

Big hugs, and hang tough.
Carl

Title: Re: It takes time
Post by Guiseppi on May 24^th, 2007, 6:46pm

Liz that's not a road I've had to walk yet, dad's 79 and I think about it a lot. If it helps, just think about how sad it would be if you didn't miss the hell out of him! ;) Love ya!

Guiseppi

Title: Re: It takes time
Post by Lotus on May 24^th, 2007, 7:31pm

I miss my dad too and he had been gone for 23 years.

The pain has eased, there is now comfort in the memories and in the knowledge that I had the opportunity to get to know my dad well before cancer took him from us.

Hugs to you Liz.

Annette

Title: Re: It takes time
Post by Linda_Howell on May 24^th, 2007, 7:53pm

Quote:

If it helps, just think about how sad it would be if you didn't miss the hell out of him!

Words of wisdom Joe. Words of wisdom.

Title: Re: It takes time
Post by broomhilda on May 24^th, 2007, 9:04pm

Big [smiley=hug.gif]'s on over Elizabeth...

Title: Re: It takes time
Post by Grandma_Sweet_Boy on May 24^th, 2007, 9:09pm

Liz - I'm so sorry. It is tough, I know that but you've been given some wonderful words of wisdom here.

Hang in there. It doesn't ever go away but time does have a way of providing us with a cushion. You were truly blessed to have such a wonderful relationship with your Dad. Hold tight to those memories.

Hugs
Carol

Title: Re: It takes time
Post by Maffumatt on May 24^th, 2007, 9:10pm

:'(
With Love Liz........

Title: Re: It takes time
Post by tanner on May 24^th, 2007, 9:19pm

Lizzie, you stay strong and lean when you must. Lin and I are just getting started with the process and we will be sending you love and vibes for as long as it takes :-*

.....Tim

Title: Re: It takes time
Post by Jonny on May 24^th, 2007, 9:21pm

My father in law died on the 9th of this month, his funeral was the day before Mothers day. My Dad died 11 years ago on the 14th of this month. My wedding anniversary was on the 11th of this month. I dont like this month!

Liz, the hurt never leaves but it lessen's in time :'(

Title: Re: It takes time
Post by Brewcrew on May 24^th, 2007, 10:46pm

on 05/24/07 at 02:50:27, alienspacebabe wrote:

I am now without a man who truly loves me unconditionally.

If it helps, I know a few dozen of 'em around here who do - present company included.

It'll be 2 years on Sunday that my dad dropped dead at his sister-in-law's funeral, which is fuckin' hilarious when you think about it. I know he would have appreciated the irony.

I miss my dad every day.

Life will never be the same, my friend. But don't you feel privileged to have been able to call him your daddy?

We love you, Lizzie. Just keep doin' what made your dad so proud of you. That way he lives on in you.

Bill

Title: Re: It takes time
Post by lionsound on May 24^th, 2007, 10:50pm

[smiley=hug.gif]

Title: Re: It takes time
Post by nani on May 24^th, 2007, 10:55pm

[smiley=hug.gif] :)