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(Message started by: Ree on May 12^th, 2007, 11:52pm)

Title: Happy Mother's Day
Post by Ree on May 12^th, 2007, 11:52pm

It's just Ree... me... Tomorrow I will be celebrating my second Mother's day without a Mother. Is time running by or what? I went to their grave today to put some flowers there... Have I been numb for the past year and a half? I sat and cried as if it happened yesterday and wonder when is the promise of time that is supposed to heal the wound? I hate Mothers day now... I am a Mother that cannot see her grandkids because I am separated by the almighty buck, a war, and the fact that they are in Hawaii...a mother hoping my 13 year old won't be having a hormonal crisis tomorrow (having recently exclaimed loudly how much she hates me)A mother hoping for a little bit of serenity... Sean is cool but he is so busy with his new life and new girl friend to remember its Mother's day... It was always my day to be with my Mom and I never mattered. I don't want to matter now and it seems like a day to notice that I don't matter .

Sounds like me feeling sorry for myself..........ya well it is.
Happy Mother's day to all
Ree

Title: Re: Happy Mother's Day
Post by kayarr on May 13^th, 2007, 1:00am

Ree ((((hugs)))),
it is ok to say even Happy f*&#@ing Mothers day.
I think that time at least mellows most things.
I am thinking about you.
Kimberly

Title: Re: Happy Mother's Day
Post by Linda_Howell on May 13^th, 2007, 4:26am

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having recently exclaimed loudly how much she hates me

Ree honey....when a child says she/he hates you , you are supposed to say ." Then I have done my job as a parent very well then"

Please don't let that get to you like it did to me the first I heard that from the son who caused me 14 hours of labor. By the time I heard it from the next child and the next and the next....I had it figured out.

It means you are doing your job. They don't hate you. They're just trying to get a reaction.

You are a great fantastic Mom, wife and person and don't you ever forget that. >:( You hear me?

Linda

Title: Re: Happy Mother's Day
Post by Jackie on May 13^th, 2007, 7:01am

Bless your heart, Ree......

Some years a better than others...trust me.

Loss takes time, Sweetie...it will get better.

How's this....treat yourself today. The nurseries are full of beautiful spring flowers. Go buy yourself some and plant them. Then sit back and admire.... :)

Love & Hugs,
Jacks 8)

Title: Re: Happy Mother's Day
Post by barry_sword on May 13^th, 2007, 9:04am

Happy Mothers Day to all the Moms out there and hope you have a special day. :)

Barry

Title: Re: Happy Mother's Day
Post by Redd on May 13^th, 2007, 9:11am

Ree,

I miss my Mom today too. My brother and I had wanted to start a tradition where we met at the restaruant we all shared Mom's last Mothers day at, set her a place and leave a glass of wine for her as we all ate and reminiced over our memories.

Is it possible for you and your family to do something like this? Go to a Mothersday brunch, invite your parents to join you in that way and just enjoy the meal, with no dishes to clean up?

Oh...and listen to Linda....it's ususaly the girls who will toss that little "I hate you"..out there. It's all part of growing up and spreding their wings of independance. Means you have done your job as a Mom very well.

Love you Ree, and Happy Mothers Day.

Title: Re: Happy Mother's Day
Post by deltadarlin on May 13^th, 2007, 9:28am

Ree,
Some years it will be easier and some years it will be harder. My mama died 31 years ago this year on May 2 (yeah, I had to deal with this while Mother's day was in full swing, cards everywhere and here I was burying my mother). Some years it's easier and some years its not. So far this morning, I've cried for my mama, cried for my mother-in-law and then cried over the beautiful letter that my daughter wrote me telling me how much she loves me (think my tear ducts have decided to work over time this morning).

And when your 13 year old pulls her crap, jsut look at her and say, "well, honey, that's okay, because no matter what, I still love you" and if that doesn't work, look at her and tell her, "I brought you into this world, I can take you out of this world" [smiley=laugh.gif].

'darlin

Title: Re: Happy Mother's Day
Post by Angie on May 13^th, 2007, 11:15am

This is my third mother's day without my mom. I miss her so much, she was my best friend.

This mother's day is just as hard as the first, I was not blessed with children, but my sister has five so I will give her a big hug and kisses for mother's day.

I will visit my mothers grave today and tell her how much I love her.

Everyone have a great mother's day.

Angie

Title: Re: Happy Mother's Day
Post by Rosybabe on May 13^th, 2007, 11:55am

Ree

your Mom is not gone, She lives in your heart and as long as you remember her She will be there forever.. don't forget one day you will be reunited.

Happy Mother's Day Ree!

Title: Re: Happy Mother's Day
Post by Ree on May 14^th, 2007, 9:12pm

You have no idea how much you have all helped me... Gods love to you all... Ree
(I ended up having a pretty good day after all... I made a planter for the grave... went to lunch with Dave and Breezy... went to see Dave's Mom at the nursing home... and then Sean and Marsha came for desert... I was getting ready for bed and the phone rang...it was Scott so the day was complete... even Breezy was nice)

Title: Re: Happy Mother's Day
Post by kayarr on May 14^th, 2007, 9:43pm

That sounds like a marvelous day! I am so glad it ended up being good!

Hugs,
Kimberly