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(Message started by: Gator on Apr 17^th, 2007, 2:36pm)

Title: For the newbies
Post by Gator on Apr 17^th, 2007, 2:36pm

There are a few things to keep in mind when participating in an environment like ours.

1. These people do not know you and with the exception of the few you meet at various conventions or meet & greets, will probably never meet you in life.

2. At any given time, many people here will be hurting from ch or life in general and may lash out when they normally would not.

3. There are some people who are just mean/nasty/contrary/whatever. You didn't cause it and you can't change it. The best thing to do is ignore them.

4. You have to have thick skin to participate in a message board. If you are going to publicly ask a question or put forth an opinion, be prepared to hear an answer you don't like or an opposing opinion. If either are going to ruin your day, it may be better to just not post the question or opinion.

5. Things get a little heated sometimes. It's just a fact of life on a message board. CH.com on it's worst days is more civil by far than some message boards on their best days. There are some places I've been to that were a radical, racial, rude and crude 24/7 flamefest. This place is a cakewalk.

The best rule for about 99% of what you read here is "Don't Take It Personally." I probably wouldn't invest a whole lot of my happiness and emotional stability in the other 1%, either.

Title: Re: For the newbies
Post by Guiseppi on Apr 17^th, 2007, 2:56pm

I'm glad someone has the literary gift Gator. I've been wanting to post something like this but knew I'd screw it up and really stir it up! ;;Dvery well written and some great advice!

Guiseppi

Title: Re: For the newbies
Post by midwestbeth on Apr 17^th, 2007, 3:00pm

Words of wisdom. For this board and everyday life in general too.

Thanks Gator

Beth

Title: Re: For the newbies
Post by JeffB on Apr 17^th, 2007, 8:21pm

I really don't know what he's talking about. But it is Tuesday, and thats ball shaving night before "Idol".

;;D

Title: Re: For the newbies
Post by Brewcrew on Apr 17^th, 2007, 8:26pm

on 04/17/07 at 14:36:08, Gator wrote:

Aaahhhh, stuff it.

;;D I joas keedeen.

Title: Re: For the newbies
Post by andrewjb on Apr 17^th, 2007, 8:30pm

:). wise words gator, thankyou. andrew.

Title: Re: For the newbies
Post by sldrswyfe on Apr 17^th, 2007, 8:54pm

Thanks Gator...

That should be a standard posting.

I know you guy tell me it's really calm here at Sunnyville Farm...but guys...when you don't understand yet...it's hurtful and discouraging.

I could understand sites that debate,etc...But when a person afflicted with this...and many, including me...never even have spoke with someone like theirselfves...find out about a place for support after so many years of isolation...I just wanted to run into your arms...talk to you...anything.

And to be met by sarcasm...being doubted...challenged...well, it hurt and discouraged me at first. And I felt even more alone and hopeless.

But Ill give credit where it's due....there were extremely kind individuals who filled me in and told me to hang in there...so glad I have. And I do understand, now, you have had problems with imposters.

That concept is so difficult for me to believe...who the hell would pretend to have CH's?? And what;s the benefit for them if they did...the whole attraction is knowing you're interracting with people who get you...who understand an unspeakable part of your life...one , until now, you couldnt explain to anyone.

I don't know. That is only my thoughts.....Thanks, Sherri

Title: Re: For the newbies
Post by JeffB on Apr 17^th, 2007, 9:42pm

Stick around and read more. It's not all sarcasm, but you have to understand that this is a family. Sometimes it takes someone like an in-law to get adjusted and get comfortable. But don't come here with some kind of "cure" and not expect some crap.

BTW, I wanna have Linda H's baby! ;;D

Title: Re: For the newbies
Post by Angie on Apr 17^th, 2007, 10:02pm

Thank You Gator :)

Title: Re: For the newbies
Post by Charlie on Apr 18^th, 2007, 1:36am

Yes. Pay attention.

Gator is still one of the best writers on the board.

Charlie

Title: Re: For the newbies
Post by sldrswyfe on Apr 18^th, 2007, 8:20am

Iwouldn't dare even attempt to try and tell anyone with this any kind of cure...I have gotten so angry at the years of "My cousin has bad headaches..."..."Have you tried....""You know what WORKS...." blah, blah, blah.

I have not responded to anything...yet. And I going on fourteen years chronic.

I NOW know it's family...and have a great time with you guys...but you don't know that when you firsts get here.

Just a friendly format for newbies would be nice...then they would know from the door that this is family...and being ribbed is all in good fun. Had I known..it would've spared me some tears..and the feeling I'll never be understood...if these people don't accept me...well...

Try to remember when you were new...convinced it was hopeless...

And in no way would I ever want this site to be somber and whining, etc. I had said before I got here that I hoped they liked to joke around, laugh about it...etc.

But there still are some somber moments...as long as their moments and not months and years...I think we'll all be ok. Sherri

Title: Re: For the newbies
Post by sldrswyfe on Apr 18^th, 2007, 8:25am

And that guy came out fighting...he was itching for a fight. And not just on CH.com...in general.

He was being offensive...and yes, you better be ready, in any situation , if you present yourself like THAT...for a dispute.

That was just plain wrong of him.

Title: Re: For the newbies
Post by TonyG1 on Apr 19^th, 2007, 7:52pm

Thanks Gator !

Title: Re: For the newbies
Post by Jonny on Apr 19^th, 2007, 8:01pm

Great post, Gator, but, you for got two.

#6 Never fuck with the man that has the most posts, because this will lead to your deletion ;;D

#7 Fuck with the family and I WILL FIND YOU! ;)

Title: Re: For the newbies
Post by BB on Apr 19^th, 2007, 8:38pm

on 04/17/07 at 20:54:15, sldrswyfe wrote:

That concept is so difficult for me to believe...who the hell would pretend to have CH's?? And what;s the benefit for them if they did...

Only those who dont really have CH or dont have a loved one with CH ( ie have no idea what CH really is like ) would want to pretend that they have them. Experience CH once in your life and you will know its not something to be taken lightly.

The ones who pretend to have CH are the attention seekers. They enjoy the emotional reactions they can provoke in people. Best to just ignore them.

Just my 2 cents.

Annette

Title: Re: For the newbies
Post by chewy on Apr 19^th, 2007, 8:45pm

Quote:

Try to remember when you were new...convinced it was hopeless...

I remember.

Around my third post I got into a board fight with some tattoed freak who just happens to live up the road from me now. I knew right away I found a home.

We have been lovers now for 4 or 5 years.

Seriously, one more addition. Dont leave the board when you become pain free. Those that are not PF need the same support you recieved.

Title: Re: For the newbies
Post by JeffB on Apr 19^th, 2007, 8:50pm

"Seriously, one more addition. Dont leave the board when you become pain free. Those that are not PF need the same support you recieved."

Thank you Captain Chewy, You're inked lubber has said that as long as I've been here! Some folks have forgotten that.

Just to add from what I posted earlier...... I think the boys have razor rash. Chicken skin can be so fickle.

Title: Re: For the newbies
Post by sldrswyfe on Apr 20^th, 2007, 9:23am

Anette,

I appreciate your input...it just is crazy. Im getting the concept of people trying to sell "cures"...I wouldn't have even thought of that either.

But I am learning. And Im not going anywhere...if I am fortunate enough to either slow down or just suddenly not have CH's...how could I ever forget...it would be impossible. Thanks everyone! Sherri

Title: Re: For the newbies
Post by clusterwife on Apr 21^st, 2007, 7:57am

Thanks Gator, great post. Helps to know all this. How was your day yesterday? Leah.

Title: Re: For the newbies
Post by Sandy_C on Apr 21^st, 2007, 9:38am

Great post, Mike. Thanks.

Sandy

Title: Re: For the newbies
Post by boonie on Apr 21^st, 2007, 10:15am

thanks for the post Mike

boonie

Title: Re: For the newbies
Post by ahhpoop on Apr 21^st, 2007, 2:42pm

*stands up on a box and waves*

i R nOOb.

[smiley=headbanger.gif]

holla, home-slice gee-moneyies.

fer shizzle.

*falls off box*

Title: Re: For the newbies
Post by Rosybabe on Apr 21^st, 2007, 3:16pm

Good Mike, very good!!!