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(Message started by: ClusterChuck on Mar 29th, 2007, 9:04am)
Title: ASB's Dad
Post by ClusterChuck on Mar 29th, 2007, 9:04am
Our dear ASB's dad has passed.

She informed Svenn this morning that he passed.

He is no longer suffering.  It is very bad to lose a parent, but I am glad it didn't drag out a long time.

Last night in chat she was telling us that he was still alert and had his great sense of humor.  He was even teasing ASB.

Lizzie, I am so sorry for your loss.  You have my phone number if you need to talk.  I am glad you had that quality time you did have.

[smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif]

Chuck
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by BarbaraD on Mar 29th, 2007, 9:09am
Prayers and deepest sympathy to ASB and her family.

BD
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by sandie99 on Mar 29th, 2007, 9:12am
Lizzie,

My deepest condolences... [smiley=hug.gif]

You and your family will be on my thoughts and prayers,
Sanna
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by The mad viking on Mar 29th, 2007, 9:13am
Dont know what to say dear friend


Prayers and deepest sympathies to you and your family from me and Bente


Svenn
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by Gator on Mar 29th, 2007, 9:17am
Deepest sympathies from Jane and me, Liz.  We are very sorry for your loss.



Mike & Jane
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by Kevin_M on Mar 29th, 2007, 9:21am
My condolences to to you and your family, Liz.  
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by kimmiedawn81 on Mar 29th, 2007, 9:32am
I'm so sorry Lizzie.  My thoughts and prayers going out to you and your family.
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by ShariRae on Mar 29th, 2007, 9:44am
Heartfelt condolences to you & your family Lizzie..
You are in my thoughts and prayers..
Much Love
Shari
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by Jackie on Mar 29th, 2007, 9:49am
Oh Liz.....we are so very sorry.  Please accept our deepest sympathies.  

This is a painful time for you and your family.  Some day this horrid pain will be replaced with warm feelings and gently smiles when you think of your Dad.

You have many friends here who love you dearly.  Please, if there is anything we can do for you just ask.

Sending much love and healing vibes to you and your family.

Jackie & Blake
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by jimmers on Mar 29th, 2007, 9:49am
Our Condolences Liz to you and your Family.

Jim and Barb
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by seasonalboomer on Mar 29th, 2007, 9:58am
My condolences Lizzie, so sorry to hear of your loss.

Much love,

Scott
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by LeLimey on Mar 29th, 2007, 9:59am
With love from my house to yours Liz
Helen xxx
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by Guiseppi on Mar 29th, 2007, 9:59am
That's a deep hurt Liz, we'll all love you through it.

Guiseppi
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by Sean_C on Mar 29th, 2007, 10:16am
My sincerest condolences to you and your family Liz  :'(

Sean..................................
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by Mosaicwench on Mar 29th, 2007, 10:32am
Our time with our loved ones is so short.

Rest in peace dear man, and may God grant Lizzie and her family peace.
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by thomas on Mar 29th, 2007, 10:43am
My thoughts are with you Liz.  So sorry. :'(
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by nani on Mar 29th, 2007, 10:58am
:'(

[smiley=hug.gif]

My thoughts and prayers are will all of you, Liz.
Lots of love, nani
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by LadyElaine1 on Mar 29th, 2007, 11:05am
Liz you have such a big heart. I know it is breaking right now.
My love, my heart and prayers go out to you. No words will make it easier, but I hope our love will.
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by Margi on Mar 29th, 2007, 11:41am
Our prayers are with you and your family now, Liz.  Hearts breaking for you.   :'(

Margi & Mike
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by lionsound on Mar 29th, 2007, 11:53am
Lizzie,
I am so sorry.



[smiley=hug.gif]
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by artonio7 on Mar 29th, 2007, 12:35pm
Lizzie,

Words can not express my sorrow for your loss. Ben and I wish to convey our sympathy to you and your family. He loved you very much Liz and you are so very lucky to experience that kind of relationship with your dad. He's now at rest and in peace and will always be with you, looking after you with love and admiration.

with warm regards,
Tony
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by tanner on Mar 29th, 2007, 12:40pm

 Lizzie,

You and yours are in our thoughts and prayers.

Warm wishes from Tim and Linda :-*
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by taraann on Mar 29th, 2007, 12:49pm
Aw Liz I am so sorry.  Prayers that you have all the strength you need right now.

I'll never forget this poem that was given to me when I lost my mother.........

Do Not Stand By My Grave And Weep
- Unknown Author

Do not stand at my grave and weep;

I am not there. I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow.

I am the diamond glints on snow;

I am the sunlight on ripened grain;

I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning’s hush

I am the swift uplifting rush

Of quiet birds in circled flight.

I am the soft stars that shine at night.

Do not stand at my grave and cry;

I am not there. I did not die.

 

(our lost one's aren't really lost, they are forever in our hearts and memories)
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by Cathi04 on Mar 29th, 2007, 12:50pm
Oh, Liz, My very deepest sympathy to you and the kids. I know firsthand how hard a loss like this is, and my heart goes out to all of you, your mother as well.
Lean on each other as much as you can right now. Try to remember the best memories of your father, and take some comfort in the fact that he is out of pain. I won't tell you getting used to life without him will be easy, but, in time, some of the sadness will be filled with those special memories, and you'll know, he's still with you, in your heart.
Here if I can help.
Cathi

Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by cynjeep89 on Mar 29th, 2007, 12:58pm
Liz and Teresa....hugs and love are heading north to you and your family.  I am so, so sorry for your loss.
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by Mastifflvr28 on Mar 29th, 2007, 1:08pm
My deepest condolences to you Liz, Teresa and Mike.
Take care, love ya's
Mast
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by Woobie on Mar 29th, 2007, 1:48pm
OH lizzie..
i'm so sorry!

[smiley=hug.gif]
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by Lizzie2 on Mar 29th, 2007, 2:26pm
:'( :'( :'(

Lizzie...I'm so sorry.  Love and prayers heading to you and your family....  May your dad rest in peace and may you all be comforted by his memory...

Love,
Carrie (Lizzie2)  :-*
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by JeffB on Mar 29th, 2007, 2:44pm
I'm so sorry, babydoll. You're in my thoughts and prayers!
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by alienspacebabe on Mar 29th, 2007, 2:54pm
I have no regrets. Nothing was left unsaid.

I know how very much he loves me, and he knows how very much I love him. I'm wearing his 'miraculous medal'.

Thank you for all this.
I will post service details when I know more.



<edited for medal name>
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by alienspacebabe on Mar 29th, 2007, 3:36pm
This is what I know:

Tuesday, April 3, 2007
10:00am visitation
11:00am memorial mass

at Lumen Christi church in Thiensville, WI (the one on Buntrock Rd.)


There will be a lunch thing after the mass.

Probably will have an 'in lieu of flowers' - not sure what charity/charities yet.
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by catlind on Mar 29th, 2007, 3:45pm
Liz you have my deepest sympathies, reach out anytime you need.

*hugs* Cat



Death is nothing at all.  It doesn't count,
I have only slipped away into the next room,
Nothing has happened.
Everything remains exactly as it was,
I am I, and you are you, and the old life
we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged.
Wahtever we were to each other, that we are still.
Call me by the old familiar name,
Speak of me in the easy way which you always used,
Put no difference into your tone,
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow,
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed, together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was,
Let it be spoken without the ghost of a shadow upon it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was, There is absolute adn unbroken continuity.
What is this deat but a negligable accident.
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight
I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner.  All is Well.

Excerpt, Rosomunde Pilcher
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by ClusterChuck on Mar 29th, 2007, 3:46pm

on 03/29/07 at 14:54:39, alienspacebabe wrote:
I have no regrets. Nothing was left unsaid.

I know how very much he loves me, and he knows how very much I love him. I'm wearing his medal, St Christopher I think.

Thank you for all this.
I will post service details when I know more.

I am so proud of you!

This is the exact attitude you need, and I am sure the one your Dad would want you to have.

Yes it hurts, but you ARE gonna make it through.  Be there for Teresa and Mike.  They need you.

You have my number, if you need it.

You already have my condolences and prayers ... And there are plenty more for you heading out, too.

Chuck
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by Jimi on Mar 29th, 2007, 3:54pm
Lizzie and Teresa.....I have been out of town and just read this. I am so sorry to hear that he passed. You both have our condolences. And I was glad to hear you say that nothing was left unsaid. :'(
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by Sandy_C on Mar 29th, 2007, 5:05pm
I am so sorry, Liz.  My heartfelt sympathies to you and your family on your loss.

Let us know if we can help you in any way.

Love and hugs

Sandy
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by Mosaicwench on Mar 29th, 2007, 6:27pm
Having recently gone through this, I can honestly say that the bright side of death is just what Lizzie mentioned.

Nothing left unsaid, no questions of love . . . .

If we must lose our loved ones this is the way for it to happen.  I'm glad that the experience was everything that you needed and wanted, Lizzie.

The next few days will be tough but with such a positive end it will be easier to continue on after the hussle and bustle has passed.

Your dad raised a great daughter and he's proud of you.

I'll see you Tuesday.
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by lashultz on Mar 29th, 2007, 6:39pm
Lizzie our thoughts and prayers.



                         Lee
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by M.R. on Mar 29th, 2007, 6:44pm
Liz

   Thoughts and prayers to you and your family. So sorry to hear.  :'(

Mike
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by broomhilda on Mar 29th, 2007, 9:04pm
:'( Elizabeth, I am so sorry, my deepest condolences to you and your family. I am so glad you had time together the past few days and the laughs together...

Big hugs and prayers to all of you

Andrea
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by minnie on Mar 29th, 2007, 9:33pm
Liz,teresa,mike and family,
     I am so sorry for your loss.You have a good handle on this .You will all stay in my thoughts and prayers.
 a poem by,
Nicholas Gordon

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I Need to Say Goodbye Although You're with Me

I need to say goodbye although you're with me.
I stand beside your grave, yet you are here.
I miss you terribly and hope you miss me,
But when I turn to you, you're always near.
I talk to you as though you lived within me,
Not changed but simply moved in from outside.
I know each day you must a little leave me,
But here, as always, you must be my guide.
You were and are and will be, just as ever,
In many minds and hearts, not only mine.
No physical event can such love sever;
Death is a dimension, not a line.
And so goodbye does not mean you are gone:
So long as I still love you, you live on.
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Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by Opus on Mar 29th, 2007, 10:31pm
(((((Lizzie))))), I wish I could say something to make this time a little easier.

Paul
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by barry_sword on Mar 29th, 2007, 10:47pm
Our deepest condolences,

 Barry&Angela Sword
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by Charlie on Mar 29th, 2007, 11:46pm
I'm sorry Liz.

You are one tough little broad too.

Charlie
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by Charlotte on Mar 30th, 2007, 12:37am
Lizzie, I'm so sorry.  (((((Liz)))))).

love, Charlotte
Title: Re: ASB's Dad's Obit
Post by Mosaicwench on Mar 31st, 2007, 8:16am
Goodman, John Comte  Of Mequon passed away on March 29, 2007 at the age of 72, after a brief illness. A lifelong Wisconsinite, he graduated from St. Ann's Grade School, Marquette University High School, and Marquette University, where he earned a Bachelor's Degree in Electrical Engineering. Following service in the United States Marine Corps, he had a long and distinguished professional career, including positions of increasing responsibility with Stanford Research Institute, Wisconsin Bell Telephone Company, American Appraisal Inc, and AUS Consultants. Over the years he volunteered his time and skills to numerous civic and social service organizations, most recently the Mequon Board of Review and Literacy Services of Wisconsin. Preceded in death by his sister Barbara Ehl and nieces Annie and Eileen Ehl, John was the cherished husband of Nancy (nee Durkin); the beloved father of Timothy (Mark Wilson), Elizabeth, and Jennifer (Thomas) Athingyer, and grandfather of Michael, Teresa, Alexander, Abigail, and Gabriel; and dear brother of Sister Francine Goodman, O.S.F. He was also loved by brother-in-law Frank Ehl and niece Mary Ehl. John's outstanding virtues and exemplary life earned him the love of many and respect of all who knew him. In a decision that exemplified the selflessness which he practiced throughout life, John donated his mortal remains to the Medical College of Wisconsin to advance medical research and education. A Memorial Mass will be held at Lumen Christi Catholic Church, 138 Buntrock Avenue, Thiensville, Wisconsin, 53092, at 11 a.m. on Tuesday, April 3, 2007, with visitation starting at 10 a.m. In lieu of flowers, donations may be sent to The American Cancer Society (www.cancer.org).

Guestbook link is:
http://www.legacy.com/JSOnline/GB/GuestbookView.aspx?PersonId=87001663
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by ClusterChuck on Mar 31st, 2007, 12:42pm
Please, any that put entries into the guest book, include condolences to the whole family not just Liz.  After all, he was also a husband, brother, and father to others.

Chuck
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by Mosaicwench on Mar 31st, 2007, 2:43pm
Good point Chuck, thanks for bringing it up.
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by ClusterChuck on Mar 31st, 2007, 5:46pm
HEY!!!  And I don't want any of you klepto's trying to walk off with the pen, at the guest book, when you enter your comments!  It is a nice looking pen, but leave it for the next person to use!

Chuck
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by eyes_afire on Apr 1st, 2007, 11:04am
Liz,

I'm sorry for your loss.  Please accept my condolences.

--- Steve
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by TonyG1 on Apr 1st, 2007, 12:15pm
I'm not sure there are any words to bring you comfort in this time; however, I am so very sorry for your loss!   :'(
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by alienspacebabe on Apr 1st, 2007, 4:16pm
This has to get easier....

Only 3 days since he died, 7 since he got sick. Sometimes I'm fine; sometimes most definitely not fine.

Many of you have been through this recently - gives me hope that it will get easier, or at least hurt less often.

Today what won't leave my head: I had three men who loved me unconditionally; now I have none.

just venting....
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by georgej on Apr 1st, 2007, 4:29pm
I'm sorry for your loss, Liz.

I lost my father three years ago this past January.  I think about him every day.

Best always,

George  
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by Brewcrew on Apr 1st, 2007, 5:37pm
I don't know if it ever really gets better. Easier perhaps, as the bad memories of the last week will fade and be replaced by the fond ones of days gone by. It's been almost 2 years since my dad passed, and about 4 months since Pat's dad passed, and there's not a day goes by that I don't think about both of them. But when I think of them now, it's with my acceptance goggles on.

You're grieving right now. Allow yourself to do that. Feel it deeply. If you do, you will eventually get to the point where you will treasure the fond memories you have of the wonderful times you spent together. Right now all you do is miss him, and that's perfectly normal. Let it hurt. Your heart is building up some scar tissue.

It seems I never stop missing my dad. We didn't leave anything unsaid (well, okay, he never said he knew that I put that scratch on his car, but I suspect he did), and he knew that I loved him and I knew that he loved me. It's hard not to miss that.
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by Leesa on Apr 1st, 2007, 8:12pm
My heart goes out to you ASB, BTDT with my dad too, my prayers are with you gal.
Leesa
Title: Re: ASB's Dad
Post by gore2424 on Apr 2nd, 2007, 12:34am
my condolences to you Liz and yours
"I had three men who loved me unconditionally; now I have none." BUT you have many many great friends on here who do love you unconditionally Terry


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