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Title: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by UN solved on Mar 22nd, 2007, 9:19pm I've been single every since I started posting on this board. I've kind of enjoyed it too. I get to do whatever I want, whenever I want, with whom ever I want. Well ... I got an e-mail from an X flame. She was pretty much my first real love. ( We stayed together for about 5 years. That was a long, long time ago. ) so anyways, we had lunch the other day in Louisville. She wants to go out again tomorrow. I'm a little nervous. ( I've been single for so long ) I don't even know what we're going to do tomorrow night. I think I have a new girlfriend !! 8) UNsolved Any romance tips from you ladies ? ( you guys don't know what I mean, I know ... it's okay ::) ) |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by georgej on Mar 22nd, 2007, 9:25pm on 03/22/07 at 21:19:20, UN solved wrote:
Good call. I sure as heck won't do you any good in the advice department. I've been married since g*d was in the first grade. Best, George |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by BarbaraD on Mar 22nd, 2007, 9:39pm Be yourself and be her friend. I don't really know how old you are (and am too lazy to go look it up), but a lot of times friendship is better than romance, especially when you've known someone that long. Oh yeah -- and be sure to open doors and pick up the tab. :D Girls like that. Hugs BD |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by UN solved on Mar 22nd, 2007, 9:45pm Thanks Barb. BTW ... I'm 37 and I did pick up the tab for our lunch. Haven't had the chance to open any doors yet though. UNsolved |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by DonnaHar on Mar 22nd, 2007, 10:48pm Do not under any circumstances mention any other relationships, when you first had sex and with whom or anything that pertains to your previous love life. Just relax and enjoy the company and ask questions about her. If you find that you are, show that you are interested in getting to know what she's all about. |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by nani on Mar 22nd, 2007, 10:52pm on 03/22/07 at 21:19:20, UN solved wrote:
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by Redd on Mar 22nd, 2007, 10:58pm Donna, as a single woman I disagree with you. Always always always tell the truth. No matter the question, tell the truth, because if the relation takes off well, it will come to light at some time if you've lied and then you'll be in a position to start another line of lies to cover up the first ones. It becomes a viscious cycle. Don't go there. Be honest to her and yourself. Nothing good ever comes from deciept. |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by DonnaHar on Mar 22nd, 2007, 11:05pm I think you might have misunderstood me. I didn't say to lie, I just said don't bring it up. I've had someone I really could have cared for talk excessivly about past relationships, how he young he was when his familys houskeeper seduced him, etc. and it was an immediate turn off. No, I don't believe in lying.....I just think it is not productive to talk about past relationships. |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by Lobster on Mar 22nd, 2007, 11:09pm on 03/22/07 at 22:52:11, nani wrote:
Yeah, lie your ass off to her. ;;D So how does she look? Little different or lots different? |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by Redd on Mar 22nd, 2007, 11:10pm Yes I see your point...but if a direct question is asked my policy is pure truth. That eliminates the the speculation over fact dilemah. (sp) |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by nani on Mar 22nd, 2007, 11:11pm on 03/22/07 at 23:09:12, Lobster wrote:
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by Sean_C on Mar 22nd, 2007, 11:17pm Be yourself bro, make no changes and see where it goes ;) Thats my best advise, take it or leave it 8) Cheers, Sean....................................... |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by UN solved on Mar 22nd, 2007, 11:28pm on 03/22/07 at 23:09:12, Lobster wrote:
She looks great ! Better than I expected ! She looked very professional too ! :P UNsolved |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by BB on Mar 23rd, 2007, 12:13am Dear Unsolved, First of all congratulations :) , its nice to have a bit of romance in life to spice things up, the things that make your heart go flip flop can brighten the whole outlook. The fact that she emailed you first for a date then wanting to go out again TOMORROW means that she thinks you are pretty cool and good looking too 8) So relax, be yourself, have fun. A confident, funny and genuine guy is extremely sexy to any woman :) . Just have fun and enjoy the company, enjoy the things you will do together, no matter what it is. However, if things are going to be serious then think first about whether or not you are willing to let go of your freedom as a bachelor and then what it was that caused the rift between you and her all those years ago, to make sure that its not still there. In the meantime, be yourself and she wont be able to resist your charm :) Good luck with it all. Annette |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by Charlie on Mar 23rd, 2007, 1:28am Pretty much the same advice from me. One of my best friend gets along so well with everybody and it's because he asks lots of questions and accepts help when it's needed. People love to be needed. Good luck. Charlie |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by Superpain on Mar 23rd, 2007, 4:26am I think I see a correlation. Might be that spending 8 hrs a day on this board doesn't do much for your social life. And as much fun as it is for us, most chicks probably don't think it's quite as cool as we do... So your romance advice is to step away from the computer for a while! ;) [smiley=laugh.gif] |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by LeLimey on Mar 23rd, 2007, 4:47am Just be yourself - for me thats the only thing I want from a man, no false expectations, no doing stuff he won't keep up, just letting me see him as he is and that havin the confidence to be yourself with no "gimmicks" is very sexy! Nothing is nicer than being with people who are comfortable in their own skin Now have a wonderful day! |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by JenniferD on Mar 23rd, 2007, 5:15am on 03/23/07 at 04:47:14, LeLimey wrote:
I agree here. Confidence IS very sexy, and a genuine guy makes us want to be around him more. But remember: no gross guy stuff. There is seeing you as you are, and seeing you as you are around the guys. Remember your manners! Congrats and have fun! Jen P.S. that high school love.... I married mine 26 years later :) |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by Jonny on Mar 23rd, 2007, 5:35am http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZAMlJr4J7sE |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by ClusterChuck on Mar 23rd, 2007, 6:39am Or, then there is this clip. http://www.i-am-bored.com/bored_link.cfm?link_id=22490 I wonder which is the true Unsolved? Chuck |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by E-Double on Mar 23rd, 2007, 7:01am on 03/22/07 at 23:17:25, Sean_C wrote:
Once again.........a wise MAN ;) Be yourself, enjoy the ride and go with the flow. Enjoy that giddy feeling you guys will nodoubt have that seems to bring you back to HS. Sweet! E-don't mention-Double-teaming ;;D |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by UN solved on Mar 23rd, 2007, 7:04am Thanks guys and gals for sharing your wisdom. :) And Chuck ... that was too funny [smiley=laugh.gif] lol UNsolved |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by chewy on Mar 23rd, 2007, 7:07am Dont forget to mention your stint in the Navy Seals and excuse yourself for a few minutes to take that call from your old buddy Rumsfeld. |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by UN solved on Mar 23rd, 2007, 7:11am lol Don ... [smiley=laugh.gif] oops ... gotta go ... Eddie Van Halen is wanting some more guitar lessons ::) UNsolved |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by imnotbub on Mar 23rd, 2007, 2:18pm This is a biggy, Let her do as much of the talking as you can. Women LOVE to talk about themselves, and letting them shows your interested in what she has to say. [smiley=sleep.gif] Steve |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by Mr. Happy on Mar 23rd, 2007, 2:51pm Nail her ASAP (with HER enthusiastic permission.) Request mutual STD tests. It shows maturity and responsibility. Once you both clear the air of all that pheromone laden sexual tension, THEN go out and see if you can both handle a nights worth of conversation and personal interest. Nothing worse than spending Months working up to the Big Moment, only to discover the Ultimate Goal ain't whatcha thunk. Sex is only 5% of a relationship, until you have to do without it. Then it becomes 95%. Get a good Root out of the way. You have MUCH more important stuff to worry about in the long term. (Especially at Your age.) Ahhhhh-yup. RJ |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by kimmiedawn81 on Mar 24th, 2007, 7:41pm So, how did it go? We want details!!! |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by UN solved on Mar 24th, 2007, 8:43pm It didn't go so well folks. :-/ I found out early that some things came up and I had to stick around the house so I called her early in the day to let her know what had happened and I invited her to my house ... she understood and accepted the invite to come over. She was late ... very late. I ended up giving up on her thinking she was mad at me and she didn't understand what had happened (or didn't care). BUT .. she did show up .... at 3:30 am drunk as hell. She puked outside before coming in. Then she was all over me ... I had to 'beat her off with a stick'. Then she passed out in my bed. She got up early, gave me a kiss on the cheek and left. I just got an email a little bit ago asking if I 'still respected' her. I'm turned off. I don't need a drunk ::) I got enough to deal with. UNsolved PS. She still wants to go out with me badly. What say you ? |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by Redd on Mar 24th, 2007, 8:55pm Poor behavior is going to be expected at some time during a realationship. But the first time? Huge Red Flag!!! My advice? As another single person in this forsaken world.... RUN do not walk to the nearest exit and don't you DARE look back. This is an exersize in "what not to do". Please my dear dont go there ok? |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by E-Double on Mar 24th, 2007, 8:59pm bummer |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by barry_sword on Mar 24th, 2007, 9:01pm Her loss buddy, don't look back!! Barry ;) |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by Paul98 on Mar 24th, 2007, 9:02pm on 03/24/07 at 20:43:00, UN solved wrote:
At least she didn't ralph in your bed ;;D I guess I'd give it 1 more chance and if she gets/shows up drunk say see ya later. -P. |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by Kevin_M on Mar 24th, 2007, 9:02pm on 03/24/07 at 20:43:00, UN solved wrote:
I must have missed that part. j/k ;) Sounds like she's got a life she ain't leaving, think you can fit right in Mike? ;;D "It was good to see you again!" 8) ;;D |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by Redd on Mar 24th, 2007, 9:08pm Can we say masocist? You are the desperate sod. Sorry not in a mood to be politically correct tonight...so shoot me. not really.....welll maybe...nah ....this is an amazing maze. |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by BB on Mar 24th, 2007, 9:11pm Someone who cant respect themselves will not be able to respect anyone else. He performance was totally unacceptable given the circumstances. She obviously has major major issues, not just with alcohol and self respect but a lot of things much deeper and more serious. Unless you want to be her therapist, dont take her on. You deserve someone better. Just my 2c. Annette |
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Title: Re: We Were High School Sweethearts Post by alienspacebabe on Mar 24th, 2007, 9:27pm First, think it through and possibly give her another chance. You don't know what was going through her head, why she showed up in that state. It wasn't so much a 'first date' as it was a first re-date. Things happen - give her a chance to explain, and to show you the real her. That said, if things go the same, time to move on - you deserve better. on 03/23/07 at 14:51:39, Mr. Happy wrote:
Second, never ever use the term "nail" with a woman you'd like to nail. "Have sex" "fuck" even "screw" are better then "nail". Saying "I'd love to nail you" is objectifying; "fuck me" can be rather sexy coming from the right man. jmho, Lizzie |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by Kevin_M on Mar 24th, 2007, 9:33pm "There was an earthquake, I had a flat tire, locusts!!" I was laughing too hard Mike, remembering the decade that was me showing up at 3:00am, sometime that week, with another girl. |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by Linda_Howell on Mar 24th, 2007, 10:08pm Mike I sincerely don't think you need our advice here. This person said it all with her behavior. What a first(second or third ) impression... ::) Jeeze! |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by chewy on Mar 24th, 2007, 10:55pm Quote:
Fuck. I strive for those results. Give her my number. |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by Cathi04 on Mar 24th, 2007, 11:12pm I can be pretty direct, just ask my old Jr High School boyfriend....if it were me, I'd probably ask where she was at a more appropriate time, and how it was she arrived so polluted? It could open a great dialogue, then again, it just might be the nail that shuts that coffin for good. I'd like to know you've found Ms Right.........but if it's Ms Wrong, run like the wind! You have too much going for you, Michael! Plenty of fish in the sea............ cathi ::) |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by Sean_C on Mar 25th, 2007, 12:05am on 03/24/07 at 22:55:09, chewy wrote:
ROTFLMMFAO ;;D |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by Jonny on Mar 25th, 2007, 3:59am You dont need a drunk on top of CH,dude! |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by artonio7 on Mar 25th, 2007, 4:32am Do you have caller ID? I would use it. Sadly she knows where you live. You might consider moving, changing your name, having cosmetic surgery and/or a sex change..... anything but a life with this impending nightmare. Unless of course you are addicted to drama, and disappointment... then by all means pursue her. Then perhaps if you don't kill each other you can enjoy the bliss of therapy and giving away half of everything you own... and then more therapy. Oh... yeah... I'd have her agree to showing you the results of her latest STD tests. with warm regards, Tony |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by UN solved on Mar 25th, 2007, 5:56am I'm through with her. I don't need the drama. I do deserve better than that. I already had (and got rid of) one drunk, I don't need another. Now all I have to do is tell her (nicely) to get lost. She has e-mailed me twice today but I haven't e-mailed or called her back. I gotta come up with some (nice) words that says " C-YA". It's too bad she's not the girl I fell in love with long ago! STILL SINGLE - STILL LOVIN IT 8) Thanks everybody :) Michael |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by ClusterChuck on Mar 25th, 2007, 6:26am Yup. the right move, Michael! The right one is out there. Chuck |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by kimmiedawn81 on Mar 25th, 2007, 9:09am Good for you! You definitely don't deserve that! |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by JeffB on Mar 25th, 2007, 11:50am Since this was the first time, maybe a second chance is in order. Maybe she's reaching out (falling down could be a sign). After all, she was drunk and she came to your house, I imagine she could've been moggin root on someone where she got toasted. ;;D |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by georgej on Mar 25th, 2007, 1:14pm MRA, Michael. Sorry it didn't work out. Best, George |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by LeLimey on Mar 25th, 2007, 1:30pm I don't agree with those that are saying give her a second chance - if this was me for instance and some bloke had turned up blind drunk to see me you'd all be screaming at me to run - it shouldn't be different 'cos it's a woman who's the drunk. Michael you've done the right thing hon, as for replying to her emails I'd be very bluntly honest as to why I didn't want to see her again - anything less is like leaving a door open and it sounds like you don't want to. Helen |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by BMoneeTheMoneeMan on Mar 25th, 2007, 1:36pm Bro, if she is cool, I would give her another chance. Granted, showing up drunk and puking for a date is pretty bad. As a matter of fact, its outright fucked up, probly means she is a bunny boiler. On second thought, run for the hills, bro, lest you'll wind up like that dude who had his bloody penis thrown into a field and needed hound dogs to track it down. If anyone ever shows up drunk and puking at my house at 3:30am, including the wife, they would be in tears by 3:31 and back outside the house by 3:32. Course, thats just me. |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by artonio7 on Mar 26th, 2007, 4:38am on 03/25/07 at 11:50:42, JeffB wrote:
JeffB what is "Moggin root"? I can only find a reference to it in Brer Rabbit and I've never heard the expression before. with warm regards, Tony |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by Cathi04 on Mar 26th, 2007, 7:24am Tony, I don't understand it either................ But, If Jeff said it, he's gotta be talkin' trash again! :o " You got a lot a 'splainin' to do, Lucy! Cathi :-* |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by JeffB on Mar 26th, 2007, 10:00am Moggin Root = Blow Job. ;;D |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by chewy on Mar 26th, 2007, 10:18am Quote:
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by JeffB on Mar 26th, 2007, 11:18am Forgot about "slarvin dobe" ;;D |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by rickyshot on Mar 26th, 2007, 11:42am I agree with the majority. Run don't walk and no second chance. She is showing you who she is. Usually people are on their best behaviour at the beginning. If this is her best I can't wait to see what is down the road. She sounds like a head case. Good for you backing down. Not too many men would back down from free sex or taking advantage of the situation. |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by fubar on Mar 26th, 2007, 12:19pm Take this with a grain of salt since I am recently divorced from a nightmare 15-year marriage to a drunkard wife... You don't need nice words to tell her anything. Being polite at this point simply sends confusing messages, as in "I don't want you, but I might want you so I don't want to piss you off, so please don't be mad at me... blah blah blah. You could be more direct (and save yourself a lot of pain) by saying "I don't date drunks." and trust me, she will be running away. |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by Rosybabe on Mar 26th, 2007, 1:32pm Man, you said you are 37 and she went HS with you that means she should be very close in age to you... WTF is a 37 years old grown up woman drunk to the point of puking??????!!! she has heavy issues...one is out of control drinking and second very low self respect.. I would never dare to let my romantic prospect to see me in that condition... Don't even look back!! you are way to young and have plenty of time to find the right woman for you. Nice way to say goodbye?? tell her she is not what you are looking for.period. If you try to be nice chances are she will want to stick around longer...because you are such a nice person...tell her ADIOS!! Fast!!! :o ;;D |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by seasonalboomer on Mar 26th, 2007, 1:37pm on 03/26/07 at 13:32:18, Rosybabe wrote:
....then again....shit happens and you're not getting any younger either......how did she look? ... i mean outside of the fact that she was puking.... 8) :o [smiley=laugh.gif] [smiley=laugh.gif] |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by JeffB on Mar 26th, 2007, 5:34pm I'd nail her. It's not like you're planning a family with the woman. Nail her dude! Be sure to put a helmet on your soldier! |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by LeLimey on Mar 26th, 2007, 5:36pm So "skank" is your type of woman huh Jeff?! I'll be sure and remember that LOL |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by JeffB on Mar 26th, 2007, 5:45pm You should be proud my lass. I always pick up women and get them drunk, once at home and in the sack I rubber band a picture of you around their heads and go to town shouting "Remember the war of 1812" over and over before droppin loads. ;;D :-* |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by ClusterChuck on Mar 26th, 2007, 5:51pm on 03/26/07 at 17:45:35, JeffB wrote:
TMI ... TMI ... LOL Chuck |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by LeLimey on Mar 26th, 2007, 5:52pm Hmm.. lets see what we have learned from this. Jeffie has to get a woman drunk to get her home with him ... He has to cover her face so she can't see who she is with.... Sounds about right to me! So lets see Jeff, what you need from life is a drunken old slapper who needs glasses?! ;;D |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by JeffB on Mar 26th, 2007, 6:00pm Well, I was a sailor. ;;D |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by LeLimey on Mar 26th, 2007, 6:03pm Seaman Staines by the sound of it ::) |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by ClusterChuck on Mar 26th, 2007, 6:20pm on 03/26/07 at 18:00:22, JeffB wrote:
Say, sailor .... <wink wink> (thinking of |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by JeffB on Mar 26th, 2007, 6:21pm Printing off a new pic of Helen, then heading off to the bars. I think I'll wear the tight plaid pants tonight to show off my bulges. Niiice! ;;D |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by JeffB on Mar 26th, 2007, 6:25pm Fuckin Chuck, you crack me up dude. I've Been on this site since 04' and barley a peep out of you. In the last few weeks you've floored me left and right with your posts. Too funny, dude! ;;D |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by LeLimey on Mar 26th, 2007, 6:28pm on 03/26/07 at 18:21:40, JeffB wrote:
I think the Death Watch tartan would be appropriate :-* |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by ClusterChuck on Mar 26th, 2007, 6:50pm on 03/26/07 at 18:21:40, JeffB wrote:
Mmmmmm ... NICE basket, there, buddy.... In case you have trouble finding a picture of Helen, here is one for you .... http://i170.photobucket.com/albums/u266/ClusterChuck/Helen1.jpg?t=1174949216 Chuck |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by Charlie on Mar 26th, 2007, 8:18pm :o Rule Britannia Charlie |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by chewy on Mar 26th, 2007, 8:23pm Quote:
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by Linda_Howell on Mar 26th, 2007, 8:25pm It was a pleasure knowing ya Chuck. ::) Any special place you'd like your ashes spread? |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by Rosybabe on Mar 26th, 2007, 9:39pm [smiley=nono.gif] Bad Chuck Bad [smiley=nono.gif] |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by Linda_Howell on Mar 26th, 2007, 10:09pm I'm not even going to open this thread tommorow when the other side of the pond wakes up to see this. It will not be pretty. How about a little piece of you in every state? I'll personally strew my part down the Sacramento river for you. Cathi, Kirk and Brian can drop a few of your ashes out to the Pacific Ocean in Oregon. I'm certain BobG will place a few ounces in sin city somewhere of your choice..under the slot machine at the Luxor maybe.? |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by Jimi on Mar 26th, 2007, 11:15pm I don't know Linda......looks pretty good to me. Put ole dad down for a mess of that. |
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Title: Re: High School Sweethearts (updated) Post by LeLimey on Mar 27th, 2007, 2:26am Chuck you ass - I didn't have a reduction and no one told me did I?! :P |
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