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Title: What is it with.... Post by alienspacebabe on Mar 15th, 2007, 10:00pm What is it with "friends" who blatantly tell you lies? and friends who, when you're having a really bad day, say they'll call you back and don't? or friends who put you on hold for 'just a sec' and don't come back? or people you trust completely, with every bit of your being, who oh-so-sincerely tell you conflicting things? Lies; the disrespect of being so obviously forgotten. I don't get it.... |
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Title: Re: What is it with.... Post by AussieBrian on Mar 15th, 2007, 10:04pm I'll get back to you on that. |
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Title: Re: What is it with.... Post by UN solved on Mar 15th, 2007, 10:04pm I don't have any 'friends' like that. fuggem' UNsolved |
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Title: Re: What is it with.... Post by thebbz on Mar 15th, 2007, 10:05pm It's simple ASB, they are acquaintances and not friends. Friends don't do these things. Some peoples kids. >:( all the best, and don't let it bother you. jb |
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Title: Re: What is it with.... Post by Kirk on Mar 15th, 2007, 10:36pm Scroooem. I hope it gets better for ya. [smiley=smokin.gif] |
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Title: Re: What is it with.... Post by Callico_Kid on Mar 15th, 2007, 11:33pm Sorry Lizzie. they are not friends, they are just shallow insigificant people without the backbone to stand up and say what they are thinking. If a person has five real friends in a lifetime they are wealthy. (I don't remember who said that, so I'll take the credit until shown otherwise. [smiley=laugh.gif]) Jerry |
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Title: Re: What is it with.... Post by Charlie on Mar 15th, 2007, 11:46pm Things will get better Cuddlepumpkin. Trust me...... http://www.netsync.net/users/charlies/gifs/cheesyrotfm.gif Charlie |
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Title: Re: What is it with.... Post by ClusterChuck on Mar 16th, 2007, 12:02am Geeze ... I guess I really screwed up this time ... I'm sorry, babe ... I promise ... I won't do it again ... Modified to add: Guess my sick sense of humor didn't work .. I put this up in an attempt to put a smile on ASB's face ... pretending that I was the one she was talking about ... Guess it was too much of a stretch ... STFU, Chuck .... |
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Title: Re: What is it with.... Post by taraann on Mar 16th, 2007, 3:53am That's when the statement that there are very few "real" friends and more often acquantences is so true. I recently gave up on a 20+ yr "friendship" cause of betrayal, selfishness and lies. She was like a sis, but I just couldn't give anymore. Big hugs Liz I'm sorry you are feeling so hurt. |
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Title: Re: What is it with.... Post by sandie99 on Mar 16th, 2007, 4:29am Lizzie, I'm sorry that you've come across people like that. [smiley=hug.gif] I don't have people like that in my life - anymore. My life is too short and my time is too precious for caring about people like that. BUT I do have relatives who are like that. I try not to get upset, but it's not easy. And I know people who expect you to give them things and time but when you'd need them... they're not giving anything in return. One of my dearest friends has a father, who didn't call her back when she had the worst time of her life and she had took several days to get enough of courage to tell him the truth (that she needed his help) and he simply just said that he'd call her back in twenty minutes. >:( I would understand that bit better from a friend, but a parent...? Sanna |
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Title: Re: What is it with.... Post by LeLimey on Mar 16th, 2007, 5:48am Lizzie you know you deserve better than that. [smiley=hug.gif] lots of love Helen xxx |
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Title: Re: What is it with.... Post by The mad viking on Mar 16th, 2007, 6:48am My definition of friends does definatly NOT fit that describtion Lizz Lots of love from Svenn & Bente |
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Title: Re: What is it with.... Post by Brewcrew on Mar 16th, 2007, 7:20am I've only had one true friend in my 46+ years on God's green earth. But one is infinitely more than none. I'll take what I can get. |
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Title: Re: What is it with.... Post by BarbaraD on Mar 16th, 2007, 7:29am on 03/15/07 at 22:00:24, alienspacebabe wrote:
that's NO friend.... That's just a People in your life (and a not too nice one at that). I've learned over the years that "they" only come around seriously when THEY need help. Hugs BD |
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Title: Re: What is it with.... Post by Redd on Mar 16th, 2007, 1:23pm Liz, you know I've been there myself recently and it is difficult to understand all the hows and whats and why's. All we can do is pick ourselves up and dust off and move forward. But through it all, one universal truth keeps proving itself true. "The only thing that stays the same is change." Be it people, situations or circumstances, over years months or minutes, change is inevitable. |
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Title: Re: What is it with.... Post by Sandy_C on Mar 16th, 2007, 2:08pm Liz, you know that there are occasions when even a "true" friend may put you on hold, say they will call you back, but then doesn't because in their situation, at that particular time, they couldn't. But, a "really true" friend will call you as soon as they can to apologize and explain why. If someone has done this to you frequently, they are not a "really true" friend. I had what I thought was a really true friend for over 18 years. She was like the sister I never had. I held her and her 5 children at the death of her husband - she was only 37 years old. I collected fund from her many, many other friends because his insurance hadn't paid off, and she couldn't make the house payment. I rejoiced with her when she met another man a few years later, who loved her, and was willing to take on 5 children not his own. Everyone liked him, even her kids. It was a two-way street. She was always there for me when I needed her. She helped me through surgeries, through our children's sports, spats and trials and tribulations. She helped me when I wanted to leave my husband, and convinced me to stick it out (it worked - I'm still with him) She came to me needing money again. I didn't ask why, I just gave her the loan - and yes, it was a signed loan. That's the last time she ever came to me, called me, nothing. I then learned that she had also gone to many of our other friends and "borrowed" from them as well, as had her husband. She lied to me and to everyone. She has now alienated all of her friends, and four of her children! I don't even know where she is now. Something happened in her life for some reason. Probably her new husband most definitely had something to do with it. If she were to contact me now, I would still want to talk with her, and hope that she would be honest with me and tell me what the heck happened to her. In one respect, I want to say screw it. But, on the other hand, I'm worried about her. The moral of this story is, don't automatically write someone off whom you consider to be a true friend. Don't be the one to burn the bridge. You never know, possibly something happened in their lives that has now pushed you out of the picture. But, also don't be a patsy. You've been burned - so keep your guard up. You know the old saying..once burned, twice shy. Maintain contact as much as you are comfortable with. If you get blown off again, speak up. Tell them you are unhappy about the way you have been treated, and you won't tolerate it any longer. The ball is now in their court - either they realize that they've treated you badly, or they don't give a rammy-tam. Either way, you'll know where you stand. Sorry for the shaggy dog story. Hugs Sandy |
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Title: Re: What is it with.... Post by midwestbeth on Mar 16th, 2007, 4:28pm I don't get it either. I don't have people in my life like that anymore. I decided years ago anyone who was a negative drain on me or my family, screw em, I will drop them from my life just like that. I also, so sincerely, not rudely, but directly, call people out on their lies. As I've gotten older my bulls*&% meter runs pretty high and my tolerance for it runs really low. Just remember, your time and who you spend it with is valuable. Beth |
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Title: Re: What is it with.... Post by hikerguy on Mar 16th, 2007, 4:37pm Hey ASB I would have to agree with the BBZ I have only two friends the rest .......who knows day to day..... |
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Title: Re: What is it with.... Post by artonio7 on Mar 16th, 2007, 7:15pm Liz... you do have my phone numbers and you know you can call me. I'm not sure that I can take the place of any of your bestest friends in the whole wide world... but I can give you an ear or two... mine are HUGE!!!!! (see dumbo in the dictionary) with warm regards, Tony |
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Title: Re: What is it with.... Post by alienspacebabe on Mar 17th, 2007, 9:45pm Brian! :-/ LOL Thanks for the sweet replies folks... |
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