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(Message started by: 6al3e on Mar 8^th, 2007, 1:53am)

Title: Need to Vent
Post by 6al3e on Mar 8^th, 2007, 1:53am

:-/This isn't CH related sorry, but i just need some feed back tommorow I'm turning 16, me and my mom arn't rich so instead of a party i want to go to dommo 77( It's awsome me and my family used to go every bday since i was 2-8, It's a chinese restrant where they cook the food infront of you. You should go you'll love it and you get $12 dollars off on your bday.) Well we had it planned for a month, but yesterday night my Aunt calls thinking it was my birthday today, I tell her it's tommorow and then she asks if my mom will call her when she gets home. She does and my aunt asks her to babysitt she says yes becase she can't say no, she's helped us out alot with money, the house, a car, we owe her alot. So now she's babysitting my cousins who i love like sisters, one is being droped off at 4 the other we have to pick up at 8 so it too late to take them to a movie or out to dinner so on my 16th birthday now my choices are staying at home alone or to babysitt with my mom. I either want to cry or get angery. My question is it ok to be angery >:(, I not sure if i should or not if this was any other night fine but it's 16, my 16 birthday I want a nice bday not that it wont be, but :'( i just dont know and i'm not sure if my haircut yeserday had an effect on my mood but the hair dresser messed up and cut 4 extra inches off my hair and it's all uneven and i'm not sure if i should chance trying to get fixed or wait and save up to have it done at a nice place.
Thanks for letting me vent ;;D,
6al3e

Title: Re: Need to Vent
Post by sandie99 on Mar 8^th, 2007, 4:28am

Venting is allowed! [smiley=hug.gif]

We all want our birthdays to be special; I'm turning 27 next and I still think that birthday should be a special day, so I do understand how you feel.

It is ok to be angry. Let yourself have those feelings! It's much better to get them out than keep them hidden inside.

But is it possible that you can still have a great birthday even if you would be alone at home or at your aunt's? I know you want to go to that restaurant, but if that is not possible, what would be the next best thing? Could you have that?

I do hope that you will have a wonderful birthday anyway! [smiley=hug.gif]

Sanna

Title: Re: Need to Vent
Post by Brewcrew on Mar 8^th, 2007, 7:28am

Sometimes the best gifts turn out to be the ones we least expect - like having two cousins who we love as sisters and who need us to take care of them.

Our hopes get dashed sometimes. Part of growing older means learning how to roll with the punches and finding the silver lining in the cloud that has taken position overhead. The restaurant will be there tomorrow and the day after that. Your family might not be. As Jimi says, life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.

Happy Birthday! Make it the best one yet!

Title: Re: Need to Vent
Post by JenniferD on Mar 8^th, 2007, 8:10am

on 03/08/07 at 07:28:07, Brewcrew wrote:

What a great response Brew! He's absolutely 100 % right on this one. MAKE it a great b'day, and celebrate on the weekend.

Happy birthday!
Jen

Title: Re: Need to Vent
Post by Melissa on Mar 8^th, 2007, 8:22am

I would have freaked having a surprise extra 4 inches cut off my hair! It was probably what set the ball rolling for your mood to be down, but look at it this way, your hair will grow back and if she would have lopped off an ear, you would need surgery instead! (ok, bad example)

Anyway, the best thing to do is to live each day with no expectations (that doesn't mean you can't plan things, just be prepared to change them or find a way to work around them). That way when events happen that are to your liking, you will find more joy in it than if you were let down due to expecting them to go a certain way. Get the gist of it?

Happy early Birthday to ya sweets!
;)mel

Title: Re: Need to Vent
Post by Peppermint on Mar 8^th, 2007, 8:57am

Hey its totally understandable that you feel let down, and angry. It's a special birthday after all. (I'm sure the surprise haircut didn't help though.)

Well, being me, I never say die until all options are visited.... would your mom consider hiring a well-trusted babysitter (or askinga friend to do it for free even) for that night only, at your house, so that she could take you out? I'd try that.

It's nice when relatives do us favors but that doesn't mean you have to put your feelings aside.

If it doesn't work out, just make a reservation for sometime this weekend and celebrate as if it were your birthday again! I celebrate mine a whole week long ;;D ;;D

Happy Birthday, enjoy it no matter what happens!
Pep

Title: Re: Need to Vent
Post by Gator on Mar 8^th, 2007, 9:01am

First, let me say Happy Birthday!

Second, I understand that you would be upset. To have your Sweet Sixteen, of all birthdays, messed up just seems wrong. It's okay to be angry and upset. It's normal. I think part of the problem with the world right now is that we don't allow ourselves to feel and work through true emotion. We lock it all up inside then have to take pills to keep it from spilling out. Heaven forbid we express our feelings to anyone but a high paid head shrinker who, in the end, really just listens to you until you solve your own problem. I'm not saying psychologists/psychiatrists don't have their place, just that in a lot of cases a person would be fine if s/he were allowed time to work things out for themselves.

Try this: When no one is at home, lock yourself in your room, lie down on your bed, put your pillow over your face and scream until you are hoarse. Kick your feet and throw a right tantrum if you feel like it. Really wear yourself out. Then get up and make your bed and go to the bathroom and fix your face and get ready to have a great time with the people you love.

Sounds like you know the situation and understand the whys and wherefores. I bet, if you allow yourself to, you will have a good time, but it sounds like you already know that. Maybe once it's all over and everything is calm, you can sit and talk with your mom about how you felt about it. Speaking as a father of three, and OMG :o now a grandfather of three, you might find that it bothered her almost as much as it bothered you.

Happy Birthday, Sweet Sixteen!

Mike

Title: Re: Need to Vent
Post by alienspacebabe on Mar 8^th, 2007, 3:18pm

You have every right to be angry.
It's what actions you take and what words you speak that matter. Take advantage of the opportunity to spend time with your mother and your cousins. And... perhaps plan to go to that restaurant another day soon.

As for your hair - ugh, I know what you mean. I had long curly hair almost to my waist - when I said I wanted it cut 4 inches, she pulled it straight and cut it to where straight hair would hit. The idiot-woman was obviously clueless about curly hair!

Most good/reputable salons will fix your haircut for a reduced price when another place screws it up - it's worth calling around and asking.

Good luck. Happy 16th!!

Lizzie

Title: Re: Need to Vent
Post by Charlie on Mar 9^th, 2007, 1:35am

I'm a little late with this but I understand your feelings.

The thing is to be nice to yourself no matter what you do. Do something you really like, even if alone. You might surprise yourself and also your family which it seems they could use.

Happy Birthday http://www.netsync.net/users/charlies/gifs/DANCE 12.gif

Charlie

Title: Re: Need to Vent
Post by BarbaraD on Mar 9^th, 2007, 9:19am

Happy 16th and many more.

Ok, you've got a negative situation here -- so turn it into a positive..... Tonight enjoy your birthday with your family (bake a cake and blow out the candles - be sure to make a wish) and Tomorrow night go out to the restaurant and enjoy your birthday again.

Since my birthday is Saturday, you can celebrate mine also.... (and I'm a whole lot older than 16 ;;D ).

Hugs BD

Title: Re: Need to Vent
Post by Mac_Muz on Mar 9^th, 2007, 11:44am

I don't recall my 16th, I had left home to live in the streets of Boston at 14. My dad was gone and my mother hung out with wretched wrecks of men who beat her, me and my little brother almost every day...

So I left to live as I chose... I'ld say you got it made, so party at home, and eat out another time..

Title: Re: Need to Vent
Post by barry_sword on Mar 9^th, 2007, 12:25pm

Happy 16th, wow, That was awhile ago for me! :D

This is your day, enjoy it to it's fullest!!

Barry :)