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Title: Opinions Please... Post by Redd on Mar 2nd, 2007, 8:09pm So, I'm in the middle of making dinner, and there is a knock at the door. I go to answer it, and there stands Jody's brother asking about getting Jody's things. Didn't say anything about my stuff, just wanted his brothers things. I told him the truth, that I sent Jody an email this fall requesting we set a time to exchange personal items, and I never heard anything from him. So after more time, I got rid of everything. I didn't owe him anymore free storage space for what few things he had here. Yes he had a good pool stick here too, but like everything else, it's no longer here. After dinner I decided to go out and peek at the truck to make sure it was ok, no baseball bats to the windshield or anything and it's ok. But damn it all anyway...I don't have to keep his shit around here indefinately. I made the attempt to call him prior to the email but his phones went unansered untill they were disconnected altogether. Thats when I sent the email as a final attempt to get our things exchanged. That was back in August. I made all attempts to contact where and how I could. So...am I right or am I wrong? I did all I needed to, and I had the right to finally get rid of his shit. |
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Title: Re: Opinions Please... Post by Jonny on Mar 2nd, 2007, 8:20pm Your right, plain and simple! Hes a douchebag and thats the end of it. |
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Title: Re: Opinions Please... Post by marlinsfan on Mar 2nd, 2007, 8:31pm on 03/02/07 at 20:20:25, Jonny wrote:
Ditto! |
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Title: Re: Opinions Please... Post by Kevin_M on Mar 2nd, 2007, 8:53pm He'll get over it and be big boy. No call first to ask or arrange any swap, just a knock, by someone else. Gotta know not to expect anything when you do that. I've parted with lots of stuff, in fact learned to live with no more than what you can stuff in your car in the middle of the night and leave with when told to "get your shit and get out", oh, over a hundred times. ::) :) |
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Title: Re: Opinions Please... Post by Redd on Mar 2nd, 2007, 9:16pm When I got rid of his shit I wrote my stuff off as a loss. I don't care about it anymore. I just don't want that "wife" or whoever she is going psycho over it. I knew she has a few screws loose before. To think he doesn't have the balls to face me with it himself. Why should he, after all? |
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Title: Re: Opinions Please... Post by Brewcrew on Mar 2nd, 2007, 9:23pm I'd definitely keep a record of the times, dates and methods by which you tried to contact him to arrange to give him his stuff (ahem....even if you have to recreate it). That way, if he ever hires a lawyer to try and get remunerations for his crap that no longer exists, you can have something on which to fall back. |
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Title: Re: Opinions Please... Post by Redd on Mar 2nd, 2007, 9:35pm The email states clearly I tried to call until his phones were disconnected. I had threatened I'd be making a report of theft, but I thought differently later and just tossed the crap and moved forward. That wan't untill Novenber, and I ended the relationship in mid June. That was plenty long enough. |
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Title: Re: Opinions Please... Post by Brewcrew on Mar 2nd, 2007, 9:41pm on 03/02/07 at 21:35:26, Redd wrote:
I agree. Plenty long. All I'm sayin' is make sure you CYA. I'm sure you have. |
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Title: Re: Opinions Please... Post by Redd on Mar 2nd, 2007, 10:04pm I still have a copy of that email...with the attachment of all the things I too wanted back. |
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Title: Re: Opinions Please... Post by Lizzie2 on Mar 3rd, 2007, 12:18am When my ex-boyfriend broke up with me via email after not speaking to me for 3 days (wasn't he a mature 4th year medical student? hmpf...), I decided that if he wanted the couple of things he had here, first he'd have to ask me, and then he'd have to come get them in person. He was such an a$$ to break up with me in an email after we had been together for like 5 months, so I decided that if he wanted it back, then he'd have to face me in person. He never asked for the stuff, and I never mentioned it. I haven't thrown it out, though....one of the things he left was a book about cats that belongs to his best friend - and I know it was a well-loved book. I have kept it in good condition, and I will be more than happy to return it if he asks me. Until then, his loss.... I think you did the right thing!! Hugz, Carrie :) |
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Title: Re: Opinions Please... Post by alienspacebabe on Mar 3rd, 2007, 1:07am You absolutely did the right thing, Pegg! and, on top of that, you would have the right to decline to give Jody's items to his friend (if you still had them). |
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