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(Message started by: cootie on Feb 4^th, 2007, 3:11pm)

Title: every time..............
Post by cootie on Feb 4^th, 2007, 3:11pm

I hear about more friends and family here or at home dieing I sink into a DEEPER depression. Even pet losses sink my ship farther. Why is that......how the hell do ya get over it or stay ahead of it mentally and physically. Alive to die Pam :'(

Title: Re: every time..............
Post by cootie on Feb 4^th, 2007, 3:24pm

THANKS KOP.....all this doom and gloom is screwin up my head......I'm not as strong as I act Pam

Title: Re: every time..............
Post by artonio7 on Feb 4^th, 2007, 3:24pm

Pam... death, pain and suffering are one of those things we will all have to go through eventually. Loss is never easy, but again just one of our realities.

Depression is never any fun, I understand how hearing of loss and suffering can have an affect on you. Are you being treated for depression now?

I don't want to sound calous or uncaring... but it's important that you talk to someone in the medical field if you are depressed. Cognative therapy is also helpful. If you ever need to chat just pm me if you see me online or post a call for a chat >>> http://www.clusterheadaches.com/chat

You're in a good place here with so many caring people. Don't be afraid to ask for help.

You're in my thoughts and prayers.

with warm regards,
Tony

Title: Re: every time..............
Post by alienspacebabe on Feb 4^th, 2007, 3:28pm

[smiley=hug.gif] Check your PMs, Pam. [smiley=hug.gif]

Title: Re: every time..............
Post by Jackie on Feb 4^th, 2007, 3:28pm

I wish I had a magic answer for you, Pam.
This old world is not always kind and living in it is not always easy. I think it's called living the life with the good and the bad. These cold, dark winter days make things more depressing sometimes......look forward to spring and sunshine, Sweetie. Things look better in the bright light....your batteries will get recharged.

Look for something good to focus on.....love on your pets....watch a happy movie.....hell, go shopping and buy yourself some fresh flowers.... ;;D

It will be spring soon..... :)

Love & Hugs,
Jackie

Title: Re: every time..............
Post by Charlie on Feb 4^th, 2007, 10:07pm

I know. It never entirely goes away but it does get a bit easier to deal with over time. It must.

I have an aunt that envies her dogs. She says that it might be nice to live only in the present. I guess we all feel that way in times like this.

Things will get better though. I promise.

Charlie

Title: Re: every time..............
Post by cynjeep89 on Feb 4^th, 2007, 10:36pm

Pam,

It's the circle of life...the good, the bad and the ugly.

At my Step-Dad's funeral, a good friend of his saw how devistated I was and pulled me aside to comfort me. He gave me the biggest hug, wiped away my tears, told me that he understood my loss and then told me to be happy. Of course I looked at him with a totally bewildered look until he explained this to me.

He told me to be happy that I was so lucky to have had such a wonderful and caring man in my life and that not many others in this world were as lucky as I was to be able to say that. It took a while for his words to sink in but eventually they did.

Now when I lose a family member, a friend, a relative or a cherished pet, those words comfort me more than anyone will ever know. Of course I grieve and miss them but they were in my life for a reason.

Title: Re: every time..............
Post by Mattrf on Feb 4^th, 2007, 11:11pm

Pam my hart goes out to you, I was recently in a very deep pit of depression, deeper then I thought I would ever be and am surprised I survived. It got to the point that I was thinking of leaving everything, but then remembered promises I maid to my wife and kids and realized that I had to get myself out of my own depression. I know is easy to say you have to do it yourself, all I can say is I got very pissed at myself for letting myself sink so low and to let the depression kick my ass as it did.
I am much better now only three weeks after having this realization and all I can say is that you have to get really pissed at yourself as pissed as you can get then turn that anger at your depression and use it to kick depressions ass to the curb.
Sorry if this doesn’t make sense or help but it worked for me and I am able to smile again and it had been many months since I was able to do that.
Pam my prayers or with you and I hope you are able to find the path out of the pit you are in as I did.

Matt

Title: Re: every time..............
Post by Peppermint on Feb 4^th, 2007, 11:49pm

Pam,
I didn't like reading "Alive to die - Pam"
That just doesn't sound like you.

I like what Jax and Artonio had to say, because I think a lot of people see these things here and can identify with what you said. You come to care about people, so it just gets you down. It's understandable. This winter doesn't help it any either.

Think of something that made you laugh really hard once. Then say to yourself you'll think of it whenever you start slipping down into that feeling. You might laugh when its inappropriate, but it might help. Might not be scientific of course, but its helped me to do that sometimes.

Tell ole lampshade to get you outta that valley and somewhere warm and sunshiney - might do you both a bit of good :)

Love to you my friend,
Pep