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Title: Just need support : ( Post by Wendy1 on Dec 14th, 2006, 8:00am Ahhh, woke up this a.m. with a 'pull' 'ache' in my eye. Sommething's brewing in there, and it's not going to be good if 'IT' happens; cycle starting that is. I'm in the middle of a nasty divorce ~ 19 yrs, two sassy (15 & 18 ) daughters, no job as of last week (job from hell, so I guess it was a good thing??). Flat broke at xmas, can't even buy groceries, lol. And my ex living with his parents (and making GOOD money) just screwed me out of $500. I can't win. Oh yes, and my heart transplant daughter - 13 yrs with her new heart ~ is falling apart. So if stress starts a cycle.. here it comes. Any advice? Thanks and I love you all. |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by alchemy on Dec 14th, 2006, 8:04am Hang in there we're al here for you. Just concentrate on you and your daughters. Oh and feel free to do massive bodily harm to your punk ex. |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by Wendy1 on Dec 14th, 2006, 8:07am Thank you so much.. I tried hard not to express what I'm feeling for him right now, lol. This is all so awful. I'm trying hard to concentrate on being positive, but it's not easy. Got up and swallowed a couple Verapamil this a.m. Should prolly start on a maintenance dose before it's too late. I'm 2 yrs p/f in Jan., soo I'm due. They've been running 2 yrs. Thanks again. I know I can always come here for a shoulder... |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by Maffumatt on Dec 14th, 2006, 8:14am Lots of shoulders here. Be well and never give in and never give up. |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by alchemy on Dec 14th, 2006, 8:14am Start your maintenance and come here and vent anytime |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by BMoneeTheMoneeMan on Dec 14th, 2006, 9:20am Like the fellas said, you've got support right here. Our casa is your casa, feel free to vent away. ........Hey I just learned a new mexican word!!!...... ;;D |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by brewcrew on Dec 14th, 2006, 9:39am on 12/14/06 at 09:20:08, BMoneeTheMoneeMan wrote:
What? "Fellas?" That would be "muchachos." ;) |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by Cathi04 on Dec 14th, 2006, 9:58am Wendy, You are a CLUSTERHEAD, my dear! One of the stron.gest people I know! If I had a crystal ball, I'd gaze into it and see you rising waaay above all this, and doing far better than you ever imagined! That in itself will be a HUGE payback, n'est ce pas?? Meantime, the holidays are upon us and the chips are down. Tell the sassy girls this is the year they learn what Christmas is all about-and it sure isn't the gifts! As for YOU, yes, do the verap, get it loaded in your system, and maybe..... just maybe you will get thru this cycle! If not, be sure you have 02 or whatever else you need to wage war with the beast. There is a whole lot going on in your life right now. Please try just to focus on getting through it all.......and then, you know what they say....."living well is the best revenge!". Vent, rant or rail, anytime, your choice! Oh, and here's a hug- hope it helps a bit! [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif].ok, some extras when ya need em! Cathi |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by echo on Dec 14th, 2006, 10:05am Hang in there Wendy. Sorry to read that your life has taken a negative spin, but this too shall end. You'll rise above the issues at hand. |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by dave..... on Dec 14th, 2006, 10:18am if it would help i could ?? ................ beat your x husband to a pulp .......... i am good at that kind of thing 8) |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by Wendy1 on Dec 14th, 2006, 10:24am WOW Cathi.. what moving words!! I keep telling myself (& I would tell others too, 'cept they wouldn't understand), that I have Cluster Headaches, this divorce should be a breeze. I'm working soo soo hard; and it is a min by min struggle to stay happy, positive and not let this stuff get to me. But e/time I turn around the ex does something to hurt me again. I'm hoping the girls understand about the gifts, it's just I who feels bad. I think they blame me cause I filed, however they saw me live with the emotional, verbal, etc. abuse (he got 'physical' and left us). But it's still my fault, I'll take it for now. I'm just worried that a cycle will start. I think God knew that I couldn't have handled one thus far. Every time I think, there is NO POSSIBLE way I can make it thru another cycle... and that was bfore this separation. lol Cathi.. thanks again, and yes chips are def down for me :(. I love you all here. |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by Ghost on Dec 14th, 2006, 11:42am Hang tough. Read my post i made I hope it helps. I cant afform any thing more but Hope for a better tomorrow. Hugz for all and extra for the CHenz! Mike |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by Mattrf on Dec 14th, 2006, 3:40pm Wendy I am so sorry you are going through such a rough time right now. My hart goes out to you and your daughter and I truly hope everything works out for the best. Stay strong and keep coming here and venting all you want, we have big shoulders to cry on and sympathetic ears that are always ready to listen. Matt |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by Wendy1 on Dec 14th, 2006, 3:57pm Thx so much for the kind words. I am (as always) blown away by the kindness and caring here. You are all giving me strength, which right now I need all I can get. Matt your status, is 'Thank God for my wife and kids..etc.'. I am so happy that you have them too and made me think that my husband has been with me through every single cycle I've had for 23 yrs, he was one of only a couple ppl who truly understands the beast. & reality is now I won't have that. Maybe they will just go/stay away with him.. lol |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by Maffumatt on Dec 14th, 2006, 4:47pm Things will get better Wendy, some of the best things in my life have come from the worst, change happens for a reason sometimes, it just may take awhile for that reason to show itself. We are behind you. |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by Wendy1 on Dec 14th, 2006, 6:44pm Matt, you've been a lifesaver today! The one good thing is that I KNOW things will be better SOMEday [smiley=huh.gif]. It's the only thing that keeps me sane is knowing this all about getting a better life for myself. But some days....lol |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by Jonny on Dec 14th, 2006, 8:19pm The husband is paying child support, right? |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by Richr8 on Dec 14th, 2006, 9:03pm on 12/14/06 at 08:00:07, Wendy1 wrote:
This really pisses me off. My wife and I are divorced after many years and I would never let her or the kids hurt for anything. Go after this bum! BTW- In cycle as well and we will make it through! hang tough and come by when you need a lift. |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by Wendy1 on Dec 14th, 2006, 9:04pm Jonny, finally, slow but.. |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by Jonny on Dec 14th, 2006, 9:19pm on 12/14/06 at 21:04:18, Wendy1 wrote:
Excuse me? |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by Charlie on Dec 14th, 2006, 9:21pm We're with you Wendy and this is the place to be. http://www.netsync.net/users/charlies/gifs/hugger.gif You know....adding CH to the mix is over the top. What's wrong with one thing at a time? >:( Charlie |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by thebbz on Dec 14th, 2006, 9:26pm Hang in there Wendy. Dead beat Dads should pay or go to jail. What a turd. jb |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by Wendy1 on Dec 14th, 2006, 9:53pm Charlie.. I'm thinking the same thing. Things are soo bad for me right now, I've even been thinking things I shouldn't be. I cannot even imagine starting a cycle right now, it would absolutely do me in. It'd be the 'straw that broke me'. lol Though I have to admit I'm a lil surprised I haven't started a cycle by now. My last one was exactly 2 yrs in Jan. Still paying on the E.R. bill from that. If I thought it would do any good, I'd just cry 24/7. Good thing you guys care cause I have teenagers that can't see beyond their own life's drama of friends. My daughter told me, 'go in your room if your gonna cry'... now that's compassion right there, lol. Hugss |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by Wendy1 on Dec 15th, 2006, 7:34am No h/a this a.m. :) Keeping my fingers crossed that this really isn't a cycle starting. |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by Yorky on Dec 15th, 2006, 7:44am on 12/15/06 at 07:34:38, Wendy1 wrote:
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by Linda_Howell on Dec 15th, 2006, 11:45am The best revenge is to let him see you live well and be happy Wendy. Quote:
If my daughter said THIS to me.. she wouldn't be able to sit down for a week, no matter how old she was. >:( |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by Wendy1 on Dec 15th, 2006, 4:42pm Linda, I'm finding this out. Sadly his loss. Today was a good day, brought some cheer home today by caving to the free cat at the animal shelter...(what have I done).lol |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by Redd715 on Dec 15th, 2006, 4:46pm You've given a gift that keeps giving (unconditional love), you've saved a life from being extinguished threw chemical euthinasia. I think you've given yourself a gift too... that of hope... Don'tcha just love this season? ;;D |
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Title: Re: Just need support : ( Post by Wendy1 on Dec 15th, 2006, 5:34pm Aww Redd, thx for supporting me on the cat, lol. Yes, my girls would never have forgave me if I had let the cat go to sleep. 'Asia' is beautiful. Happy Holidays! |
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