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Title: First Date......the update... Post by Lizzie2 on Oct 30th, 2006, 12:41am Well - one date turned into 3 dates. We went out to dinner again last night. And I was pretty happy about everything.... He was supposedly going down to Wilmington to visit a college buddy of his last night and go out to the bars, but now I sort of don't even know if that was true. He didn't answer a quick text message last night - and didn't respond to any of my texts or phone messages today. At first, I sent him the usual messages as if nothing had changed. On the way home from work, I started to wonder if something had happened to him because it wasn't like him not to write me back or at least call me and leave a message right away. Then when I got home, he didn't answer any IM's. Now he's signed off AIM, but is registered as online on Match.com - where we met. Guess that's saying something... I sooooooooooo didn't need this right now. I had a horrible day at work today and even ended up in tears there over this incident that required me to have security escort 2 parents off our unit. And tomorrow I have 3 different doctor appts at 3 different hospitals...surprisingly none of them for neurology at all....for other things I've had going on. And now this. Just when I open up again and feel like starting to date again... Sometimes I wonder if I am just meant to be alone. Who'd want to be with somebody like me anyways? :( :'( Sorry - had to vent...heart broken again, I guess.... I know I had some big brothers and sisters around here somewhere... Hugz, Carrie |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by kissmyglass on Oct 30th, 2006, 12:50am shudda boinked em ;;D really, sorry Lizzie :( |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by cateyes on Oct 30th, 2006, 12:50am aww Lizzie...Then he was not worth it then..If he can`t even call you and say it isn`t working for him ..That just means someone better is out there for you and he wasn`t it.. And now...Give us his phone number and address and we`ll take care of the rest ;;D ;;D... How dare he hurt you this way...I`m sure the "boys" will be showing up soon asking for his information also..lol.. Took me over 2 yrs to find anyone I even wanted to waste time on...And the wait was worth it... Hang in there dear... ((((Love and Vibes))))) Cateyes |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by alienspacebabe on Oct 30th, 2006, 12:57am It's really easy to read too much into not getting responses, Carrie. Hard as it is to do, sit back and breathe. So often, we think too much about things: what did he really mean, stuff like that. We assume we did something to drive him away (and sometimes we did) - that's not a safe assumption. You have no idea why he didn't answer, so if you have to assume something, assume he's having a great time. Hope this helps. Lizzie |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by Turts on Oct 30th, 2006, 1:31am sorry to hear it lizzie, but as alienspacebabe said, try not to read too much into it. maybe hes playing the game, tryin not to respond to sound too eager, thats mans nautre, maybe unable to reply, flat battery etc. try not to ring too much. try not to read between the lines, sometimes there are no lines. i was single for 6 years nearly seven before i found my 1. they turn up when least expected and leastin tryin. (find out if any friends have hot , eligible cousins, like i did, ;) hope it all works out Turts |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by Lizzie2 on Oct 30th, 2006, 1:36am Oh yeah - I stopped calling the second I realized what was really going on. I don't like to pester people at all. I had only called initially to leave a message in the same way i did every day - and when I hadn't heard back, I left another message on the way home from work just calling to make sure he was okay since I knew he was driving an hour to go out with a friend last night. I know what you mean by not reading into it too much - but the writing on the wall seems pretty clear to me. He's been online, and I sent an IM there thinking maybe he didn't get my messages on his phone or was sleeping or something. He didn't answer the IM. It's just looking pretty obvious. And also, this isn't the first time this exact same thing has happened to me. I mean - I will see if I hear from him tomorrow at all, but right now, it's easier for me not to hold out hope. I don't need to go through the crash and burn like I already did tonight - yet one more time. Anyway... thanks for the messages. Gotta get some sleep. |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by LeLimey on Oct 30th, 2006, 4:54am My advice would be wait and see.. innocent until proven guilty!! |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by davyp on Oct 30th, 2006, 6:02am on 10/30/06 at 00:41:53, Lizzie2 wrote:
Oi woman if i was closer i would come over and give you a good spanking ;) I have only met you once Carrie and not for long enough IMOH but from that i know that you are a wonderful careing person who is not only beautiful on the inside but on the out side too. OMG sleep deprevation is making me go all mushy time to man up a bit, Go out to a bar get steaming drunk and see what happens ;;D ;;D Dape ;;D PS: I meant the mushy bit |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by BB on Oct 30th, 2006, 8:11am Hi Lizzie, How well do you know him Lizzie ? You said he works in the same hospital right ? What have you heard about him through the grapevines ? Anyhow, I agree with Helen, give him the benefit of the doubt, and quit putting yourself down. You went out for a good time and both of you enjoyed the dates and had fun, thats the most important part. If you judge each and every date only on whether or not its going to lead you to the altar, then your subconcious attitude will scare a lot of guys off. Relax, Lizzie and just enjoy peoples company and concentrate on having a great time going out. If its meant to happen it will happen, fretting about things like this wont help and will make you feel down. Have fun , enjoy life , get to know them as good friends first. Hugs Annette |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by alchemy on Oct 30th, 2006, 9:17am Just give me his address i'll get thr truth out of him ;;D |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by rickyshot on Oct 30th, 2006, 11:07am I am of the opinion that when things are right they fall into place and you don't have to chase down a man or pull teeth. Most men like the hunt and I agree if he is interested in more than being friends he will pursue. IMO it is not nice not to return messages. If not interested just call back and say I am just dating now or some such line as that. But return a call. But most men are cowards. Shows lack of character if you ask me and if he does call eventually I would not pursue a deeper relationship with this man. It is not you Carrie. Everyone is not for everyone. Just because someone is nice etc does not make them your mate. Perhaps he feels that way about you. I wasted 8 years with Mr. Wrong before and then went a year and half before finding Kev. Finding dates and sex is easy. Finding mates or relationships is hard for anyone even the rich and famous. So do not put yourself down. Take the advice above of the one who said don't look at every date as a potential mate. Dont' put that kind of pressure on yourself or put out that vibe to someone else. They will run like hell. It still sucks I know but that is part of life. |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by JeffB on Oct 30th, 2006, 11:45am Play it a little cooler. If I start getting a bunch of text messages, calls, emails then I start to worry! IMHO ;) |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by Peppermint on Oct 30th, 2006, 11:53am on 10/30/06 at 00:50:20, kissmyglass wrote:
LOL KMG..!... but I was thinking.. 3rd date... hmmmm...;) Lizzie, don't worry about it. It's ONE fish in the sea and you are young. There's a whole ocean out there. Also, what Jeff B said. Plus - it's not you, it's him. I love what Ricky said, she's right on the money with that. Don't let some fool like him get you down. :-* Pep |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by mcf69 on Oct 30th, 2006, 12:42pm Carrie, Don't stress right way, give it a couple days and see what happens, you never know, he might have a good excuse, or he might be playing hard to get to pique your interest. If he totally blows you off and breaks your heart, PM me his address and I'll go have a "talk" with him ;) Keep your chin up kiddo and hang in there :) Ben |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by Mr. Happy on Oct 30th, 2006, 5:57pm I'm with Kev on this one, Shortcake! Just yell if ya need a pity boink; you know where I live. It's teamwork like this......... Hap |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by Lizzie2 on Oct 30th, 2006, 5:58pm OK OK because I feel like I have to explain a couple of things and defend myself from a couple of assumptions made here..... I was NOT looking at him (or every date) as a potential husband. I was enjoying just getting to know him. I was so very happy that for once, a guy wasn't rushing things along by being either emotionally clingy or really rushing the physical before we got to know each other. But doesn't anybody think that even if you're just getting to know somebody that if you go on 3 dates with them and things seem like they're going well - that it would hurt when all the sudden that person just cuts off all communication and doesn't even offer any explanation as to why? I've seen this before - my last boyfriend of several months broke up with me by not returning my calls for 3 days and then sending me a breakup email. Why is that an acceptable way to terminate things in this day and age? And also - I wasn't sending him obsessive text messages or leaving messages. We texted back and forth about a dozen times every day...just to talk since we both had very busy schedules. So I'd sent him a text on Saturday night saying that I'd gotten home from King of Prussia and asking if he'd gotten to Wilmington, since I knew he was driving down there and it was late and the weather had been bad. No reply. I didn't think anything of it - figured he was out at the bar and didn't see the message. The next morning, I sent him a text with again the usual - just saying I had 3 babies in trans and asking how the night went. No answer. I left a phone message at lunch saying I was just calling to say hello, see how the night was, and tell him how my day had been going so far. Nothing - I still didn't put 2 and 2 together. I started to worry that maybe something had happened - some sort of accident or something as this wasn't like him. I texted one more time to ask where he was and left one more message saying I just wanted to make sure he was okay. Then when I got home, I saw he was on AIM, so I sent him just 2 IMs there to see what was up. No response. Since then, I haven't contacted him. So yeah, I sent him a couple of messages yesterday, but until the evening when I was trying to make sure something hadn't happened to him, I didn't send any messages that weren't the same as what we always did. They never scared him off - he had been the one who had started the IM/text messaging thing. I wasn't like calling him 15 times a day and askiing where he was, leaving all these messages, or anything like that... So I hope I cleared that up.... He doesn't work at my hospital. I had met him online and was really just starting to get to know him. We'd gone out to dinner twice and I went over there one evening to watch tv and hang out. He gave me a kiss every night before I left to go home. But it's pretty obvious by now that this is his way of cutting things off. I really appreciate the optimism of those of you who are telling me not to jump to conclusions and to just wait, but it's just not like that. I know he was at home last night, and he was always one to send me message after message on my phone and on IM, and all the sudden, he won't respond to any of mine and was already on the dating site where I met him again last night. So - I think the silence speaks louder than the words... Ricky's statement just rings so true that it's not nice not to return messages. Couldn't he at least had the deceny to tell me he wasn't interested or something else to that effect? It's pretty hurtful when somebody leads you on and then just ends it without even saying a word about it - he still gave me a kiss when I left on Saturday night - and then that was it. Would have been nice if I'd had some clue that he wasn't interested.....don't KISS me if you are planning on never talking to me again! Geez...... I know a lot of people just don't like confrontation, but I think he owed me at least a word or two.... So there ya go.... I appreciate the messages of support and the optimism to just wait and see. I have not tried to contact him at all since like 2 hours before I made the first post here last night. I'm not one to be obsessive like that... Just sad that when I finally open myself up, this kind of stuff always happens. I talked to one of my very good med student friends last night, and he said, "Maybe you should just find somebody who also has a lot of medical problems so that way you can understand each other..." I know he was trying to be nice, but talk about insensitive... Just made me cry that much harder!! And after the day I had yesterday at the hospital with some majorly crazy stuff, I just didn't need this to happen last night, too!! But oh well.....nothing to do but keep on keeping on... Thanks for letting me rant. Hugz, Carrie |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by Lizzie2 on Oct 30th, 2006, 6:03pm on 10/30/06 at 17:57:48, Mr. Happy wrote:
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by FramCire on Oct 30th, 2006, 6:17pm Carrie, I have learned that sometimes there are simple answers for things like this. I am not saying you shouldn't be upset but if he does contact you, just wait and see what the answer is before you lay into him. If he doesn't contact you, then his loss. I know it doesn't make you feel any better, but it is his loss. Any idiot who pulls the cone of silence as a way of breaking up is an ass (ask around, I don't cuss very much). You deserve better than this in my book. Even if he has a good excuse, you still deserve better. Eric |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by davyp on Oct 30th, 2006, 6:19pm on 10/30/06 at 18:03:58, Lizzie2 wrote:
I wont tell you that i was gona offer too but thought 22 months was a bit long for you to wait ;;D ;;D Dape ;;D |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by Richr8 on Oct 30th, 2006, 6:23pm on 10/30/06 at 11:07:57, rickyshot wrote:
Hmmm? :'( Actually, I agree with some others. Don't give up the ship just yet. |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by LeLimey on Oct 30th, 2006, 6:24pm on 10/30/06 at 17:58:48, Lizzie2 wrote:
Tell him from that that I said Well if like should only date like then maybe I should become a psychotic anal retentive scumbag and date you What a prime example of inbreeding actually, scratch that.. no breeding >:( |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by JeffB on Oct 30th, 2006, 6:39pm I know I will get slammed by this but you put it out there. Not to be mean or nasty, BUT, just from what I've read, I would set a NIKE world speed record if were dating you for just a few days. You say you're not obsessed, maybe not but pretty close in my eyes. Texting between someone a dozen times a day is a bit freakish, but thats me. I would probably change my number at this point. You've only known this person whom you met on the web less than a week or so, so why take these actions by him so hard. Men are dumb and stupid, make them chase you down, make them work at it. O.k., let me have it!! |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by Mr. Happy on Oct 30th, 2006, 7:27pm on 10/30/06 at 18:39:19, JeffB wrote:
You're old, man. Old, dumb and stupid. You're over 30. To the under 30 crowd, 20 minute waits are unforgivable. Immediate communication, immediate gratification. As a man, (a proudly aging one at that,) I suck at the communication part, but readily understand the immediate gratification missive. Life can be shorter than you think. Will fuck for beer. Hap |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by JeffB on Oct 30th, 2006, 7:37pm on 10/30/06 at 19:27:02, Mr. Happy wrote:
Life is what you make it. I should know, I'm old, dumb and stupid. ;;D Now lets have some beers and CHASE some college chicks. ;;D |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by Charlie on Oct 30th, 2006, 7:41pm Don't ask me. The last and only...for that matter....date I was on was 1969. My squeezes since have all been arranged things, mostly friends of friends and some weird ones from cousin at that. Egad, what I missed. Scary though. :o Charlie |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by kissmyglass on Oct 30th, 2006, 7:47pm on 10/30/06 at 19:41:07, Charlie wrote:
Charlie, is this some new way of saying Hookers? ;;D |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by Fredmyyster on Oct 30th, 2006, 7:49pm World Up !!! |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by Lizzie2 on Oct 30th, 2006, 7:56pm on 10/30/06 at 18:39:19, JeffB wrote:
Read what I wrote again. He is the one that started texting me all day long. He was texting me from work because he carries his cell phone on him all the time, and he would rather text than talk on the phone. Especially when at work since he obviously can't talk on the cell phone, but he can send off a quick text message. So the texts we had back and forth were often just from work (when I had a break, I'd respond to his texts) and then later on to see what each other was doing and when we were going to get together. I was not just sending him a dozen text messages a day out of the blue and bugging the hell out of him. It's like what us yung'uns (thanks Randy) do when we're away from our IM! I personally was never a big text message person - believe it or not, the first person to get me into text messaging was actually Big Dan when he'd start texting me while I was in classes...and the messages always made me laugh. Then several guys that I've dated have always been big into the text messaging to communicate - it surprises me, but it's kinda fun once you get into it. Maybe it's because guys don't like to spend a long time talking on the phone, so they figure they can just send a quick text. So...once again - I hope that clears that up. And we have known each other for closer to 2 or 3 weeks, but we had only met in person for the last week since I personally like to get a better idea of someone on IM or on the phone before meeting them in person. The whole point is that I don't think it's right for someone to treat somebody else like this - to just lead them on and then stop talking to them instead of at least giving some explanation, no matter how small. And haven't you watched the cell phone commercials that advertise to parents who are fed up with getting huge cell phone bills because of their kids text messaging? That happened in my family - my brother wracked up a single month's cell phone bill of close to $200 from text messaging and sending picture messages! I never got quite that bad as I'm not quite attached to my cell phone, but when somebody initiates the texts, I do get into it again. |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by Jonny on Oct 30th, 2006, 7:56pm How about we give the kid a fucking break, she dont need bull-shit right now.... >:( |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by Lizzie2 on Oct 30th, 2006, 8:09pm on 10/30/06 at 18:24:37, LeLimey wrote:
Haha...And would you believe that he's actually one of my best friends? My best friend Lindsay said tonight that it just goes to show that all guys are insensitive..and I said, "Yeah - even the ones that claim to be so sensitive - like my friend here!" I don't believe that all guys are insensitive truly but just that sometimes people don't think things through before they say them. When you're taling to your teary best friend who is upset about her dating life, is it a good idea to suggest something like this? When I had asked in exasperation if I'm just completely undatable, he said, "No I don't believe that anyone is undatable - judging by some of the mom's I've seen coming in with kids in some of these clinics..." I told him that didn't help me feel better at all. That was before the other statement about finding someone just like me... I also explained to him that, besides the obvious idiocy and hurtfulness of this comment, I don't need someone who has the same exact mess that I do. While I would never skip over someone just based on medical issues that they cannot control, I really don't seek out someone with a lot of medical issues just so that we can relate to each other! Why add that much more stress to my life? It's a struggle enough to completely get through all these things alone - but then to have someone that might be supportive who also is dealing with just as much? That's very difficult and makes for a very difficult time for all around. I don't look for someone just so they can be supportive of my medical issues, and honestly I try to keep that out of relationships as much as possible - especially in the beginning. The one sensible thing that my friend did say last night is that the person who truly cares about me will actually want to know about all aspects of my life - good and bad....and I won't have to hide medical issues or other things away from them for fear that they won't want to be with me. I'm not so much sad that it didn't work out - although of course that is a large part of it - but mainly more hurt by how things were handled. That's how I felt about my last boyfriend, who was a 4th year med student and now an intern in internal medicine. He and I were having some differences that made me know I didn't want to be with him long term, but before I ever had a chance to talk with him to end it - he'd stopped talking to me and broken up wtih me in an email after 5 months of being together. I wasn't sad that it was over, but I felt I deserved more than that type of ending. That's pretty hurtful... But anyways - the right person is out there somewhere. And I guess it's just one more "learning experience" right? Heh... :-/ |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by Lizzie2 on Oct 30th, 2006, 8:22pm on 10/30/06 at 19:56:49, Jonny wrote:
THANK you. I just found out today that I have to inject low dose chemo into my leg for autoimmune stuff (was already on this med but as pills and a lower dose) and had a scary experience at work yesterday in getting parents escorted out of the unit and then this happened too. The last thing I need is more trashing...... But I'm trying to be a good sport... I realize that nobody can know everything another person is going through. Spent $22.50 just on parking for 3 doc appts today and then $70 in copays for the 3 appts. Haven't paid the money for the 4 scripts I got yet. It's just a little stressful right now! And I'm not trying to whine. I seriously just wish that this guy had treated me with just a little bit more dignity... The one good thing I have going for me right now is that I suddenly became an overnight hero on our unit among the other nurses and staff for finally putting an end to a very bad situation. Nobody can ever say that I let people walk all over me - I watched these parents walk all over our entire staff, including physicians, for nearly a month now - and when I caught them stealing and breaking every rule on the unit, I spoke with the charge nurse and had them escorted off the unit. However, before getting escorted out, the mom starts yelling at me and accusing me of going through her bag and threatening to call the hospital to report me...and on and on. Even though I had not gone through her bag at all - she was upset because the guard made her empty the bag since she had stolen things and then I caught her with formula she'd stolen. And while it was a very stressful and incredibly tense situation, now everybody is thanking me and congratulating me for standing up for all of us. At least that turned a bad situation into good. It's just a little bit of the background as I was driving home from work last night and worrying about not having heard from the guy I had been dating - worried that maybe he'd been in an accident or something since I'd had absolutely no indication of anything going wrong in our last 3 dates and he'd always called me, sent text messages and IMs pretty frequently throughout the day. I remember thinking aloud that I hoped nothing was wrong - especially not after how my day had gone. And then to realize that this was his way of saying he didn't want to be with me.... It was a lot to take in one day. Maybe I was wrong for just hoping for a little bit of empathy (not sympathy) after all that. Dating is never easy - at any age. And it's not easy to be alone... |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by JeffB on Oct 30th, 2006, 8:27pm Well good luck with that! ;) Hope you find what you're looking for! |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by Bethany1 on Oct 30th, 2006, 9:02pm Carrie, Sorry to hear about the guy situation... guess its better to have found out now and not down the road when you really get attached. It does suck... and I totally remember when guys would do that to me... ya think everything is fine and then whamo... nothin, no call, no show, no email... just nothing.... and your left there wondering wtf did I do? And I can tell ya from experience, NOTHING. Some guys just can't communicate, and the best thing to do is just give it some time. It will get better. I know your not wallowing.... your just questioning... don't question. Your a smart, beautiful girl with so much to offer the right person..... and that "right person" was not him. hugs- Beth |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by Chillrmn1 on Oct 30th, 2006, 9:12pm on 10/30/06 at 20:22:19, Lizzie2 wrote:
IF that was his way of saying he didn't want to be with you then please realize it's very telling of his lack of character, backbone, and integrity to not be able to talk to you face to face and tell you how he felt. There's a better man out there for you. ;) |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by rickyshot on Oct 30th, 2006, 11:15pm Sorry Richard but I hold to my comments. Most men are cowards or just plain bad at communication, confrontation. Maybe it is a generational thing but I think he showed bad character. He shows interest kisses her each time and then boom nothing. At least call back and make a lame excuse. She would get the message. I can bet all the women here have had a similar experience because a lot not all men are like this. But Carrie I digress. Better to find out early he is not for you or you are not for him then going down a long road , getting attached and then getting the kick to the curb. Look you are personalizing this. You are going the who wants a broken headed ya ya dee ya da girl like you. LOT"s of folk out there who would. Look for Mr. right not Mr perfect . And I promise you when he comes along it will be worth the wait. I went for a year and half since my last relationship to Kev and I am glad for the wait. He is worth it and you will find someone who is worth it, trust me. |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by Lizzie2 on Oct 31st, 2006, 12:13am Thanks for the messages... He did just send an email. He said he got to thinking about things and feels that we aren't too compatible. He said that he just felt like something was missing when we were together. Ah well... At least he did email me. Don't think I'm gonna write back. |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by Kevin_M on Oct 31st, 2006, 12:21am on 10/31/06 at 00:13:38, Lizzie2 wrote:
You mean threesome? Don't sound like your type Carrie, the two guys might make you feel left out at times. Carrie on :-* |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by Sean_C on Oct 31st, 2006, 12:22am on 10/30/06 at 19:27:02, Mr. Happy wrote:
I say get the last word in, a nice two worded text is in order.........................FUCK YOU ;) Keep the faith Carrie Sean.................................. ;;D |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by maffumatt on Oct 31st, 2006, 9:01am Some guys are just jerks Carrie. At least you got to see it early with this one. Take care of yourself. Matt |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by FramCire on Oct 31st, 2006, 9:42am on 10/31/06 at 00:13:38, Lizzie2 wrote:
OK, the guy is officially a piece of crap. I was hoping for a family crisis that made him withdraw or something of that ilk but his explaination is pure crap. I'm glad for you in the long run that this idiot is out of your life. He was bound to hurt you because he is an idiot. Any man who waits this long to break up with a girl via email needs to grow a pair. Sorry you had to meet him. You WILL do much better (not that it says much). PS What stinks is how many people can hide their true colors on dates and make you think they are decent until they show their true colors. |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by alchemy on Oct 31st, 2006, 10:37am Sorry about the guy being a jerk added on top of all you're going through. i agree the guy should have sprouted a pair and let you know. i hope things get better for you and don't feel the need to defend yourself you did nothing wrong. |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by E-Double on Oct 31st, 2006, 10:39am Guys suck plain and simple. Especially if named Don!!! You have to take care of yourself. Get those joints and bones feeling better then ya can worry about some dumb schmuck to fall for or just play with. In the meantime, the rabbit is known to help with everything in life when things have gone a bit sour or if in need of a pick up ;) http://www.usinternetshopping.com/products/Rabbit%20Vibrator.jpg Wuv Ya |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by Jimi on Oct 31st, 2006, 11:37am Eric, Eric, Eric, you silly wabbit. ::) |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by vietvet2tours on Oct 31st, 2006, 12:13pm on 10/31/06 at 10:39:41, E-Double wrote:
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by Lizzie2 on Oct 31st, 2006, 1:35pm Of course I had to check back to this thread while sitting in the university library! Had to scroll away rather quickly there! Thanks a lot, E dub! haha Did make me laugh, however... You know, it's only a 10 block walk or so to South Street and the infamous condom nation... LMAO Fram - even though we've never spoken in person, I can "hear" your anger and frustration in that post you wrote me. That's sweet. I know you aren't one to use swear words (as you reminded me with your first reply), and the wording of this second post does sound like something a protective big brother would say! Thanks for all the supportive messages. They've really helped to make me feel better and just get past this. What strikes me as somewhat comical is that one night we were talking about something, and the way my exboyfriend had broken up with me came up. As I said earlier, he had been a 4th year med student and he had simply stopped taking my calls for 3 days and then broke up with me in an email...with the final line saying, "Good luck in your search." I'm not in the habit of discussing exboyfriends or breakup stories with new dates because I generally find that a bit pathetic, but the story had come up somehow. And the guy I was just dating had been absolutely horrified by it....saying what a loser thing that is to do. So......did he forget or did he take the idea and run with it? It's almost comical, as I sit here thinking how ironic that is! Oh well - win some and lose some. I'm in a much better frame of mind today. I went to physical therapy, lunch (by myself but it was fun!), and am in the university library and about to go to one of the nearby ice rinks to skate the afternoon away. Some good ole ME time. :) Hugz and thanks again! Carrie :) |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by Tata on Oct 31st, 2006, 2:03pm [quote author=Lizzie2 link=board=general;num=1162183314;start=25#35 date=10/31/06 at 00:13:38] He said that he just felt like something was missing when we were together. quote] Lol--like what, his cojones? What a dork---you're lucky to have weeded him out early. Looking for Mr. Right is OK, but it's a lot more fun looking for Mr. Right Now. ;) [smiley=laugh.gif] Take care. |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by echo on Oct 31st, 2006, 2:21pm Sorry to read of what you've been going through. Even more sorry that another male of the species acted like a bafoon, makes the good ones look bad. Your sole mate is out there, you will find him where you least expect to. I met mine in a meeting. She first impressed me with her knowledge and the way she deported herself. By the end of the meeting I was in love. One year later we were married. |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by Mattrf on Oct 31st, 2006, 2:44pm Lizzie that does suck and the guy should not have let you hang like that, very un-cool. I had a similar experience on Match about dang must be seven years ago now, I really liked the woman and I thought she liked me and after about probably seven dates she just stopped talking to me, not return of my calls or emails. You know no one deserves to be treated like that, a couple weeks later she did return an email and told me she did not think we where compatible or something like that and I just said that was fine but I liked her and would like to remain friends if that was possible, and I meant it I did like hanging out with her, she said that would be fine but we never did, she came back on Match and I sent her a text just asking her how she was doing and she blocked me, very cold, I sent her an email saying that I did not deserve such an insult and all she had to do was tell me not to contact her and I would not I mean dang she treated me like a stocker or something and I am not that king of guy. Guess my point is there are a lot of strange people out there that do things for unknown reasons and it hurts others but on the bright side I did find a fantastic woman and we will be celebrating out 4th anniversary in January and have been together for over six years now so hang in there you will find the right person that will treat you like a lady and how you deserve to be treated. I was very picky and it took me 38 years to find my miss right and it was worth every bit of the wait. Hang tough Mr. Right is out there and you will find him and he will be a lucky man. Matt |
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Title: Re: First Date......the update... Post by sandie99 on Oct 31st, 2006, 3:17pm Carrie, I'm so sorry that things turned out this way. I know that this is not what you needed on top of everything else. [smiley=hug.gif][smiley=hug.gif][smiley=hug.gif] I do hope that will not let this man have too much impact on how you will react to men in future. I've had plenty of experience with men, who are keen first and suddenly don't email... that happends. It's terrible, but that's what some of them do for some reason. Because they can, I suppose. I didn't take it personally, though, as they didn't get to know me that well. I moved on and I found my best supporter - a man, who will send me a text when he's 5 minutes late. ;) Carrie, don't let this get to you. You WILL find the one you're meant to be with when the time is right and not a second later. Consider that these dates taught you more about you and made you a step closer of becoming the one you're supposed to become. I believe that everything happends for a reason. I'm also sure that good, wonderful things are coming your way. You just need to believe in that yourself. And enjoy life to the fullest in the meantime! :) I'm always here when you need me. Hugs, Sanna |
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