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Title: I'm fuming..... Post by Redd715 on Oct 26th, 2006, 8:56pm I've put up with the ex hubbies shit for years. I've let him get away with alot of BS that had I'd have taken to court had I the funds. But tonight takes the cake! I've never in my life heard of a parent, after 12 years of divorce, threatening to punish their children for...get this...trick or treating. I just talke to him on the phone, and he claims he "doesn't remember" ever threatening this. His statement was..."..once it was determined they would be with you the issue was dropped." Well maybe for him, but he failed to inform the Kids. I reitterated that though we are divorced for 12 years now, that he has no authority over what I decide the kids will and won't do while they spend time with me. I'd much rather they are out trick or treating with their friends, than out vandalizing property or getting into other various trouble. After this phone conversation I talked to the kids once again. I asked if they truely believed Dad would withhold a months allowance if he found out they went trick or treating? Megan said difinatively that he said that word for word. To threaten to punish them for something they do while with me, is unlawful, and the true sign of a control freak. I'm so glad I'm out of that. Too bad these great kids are still exposed to him. Arrrrrggggghhhh |
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Title: Re: I'm fuming..... Post by kimmiedawn81 on Oct 26th, 2006, 9:00pm That's ridiculous! What's his deal with trick or treating? |
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Title: Re: I'm fuming..... Post by Redd715 on Oct 26th, 2006, 9:09pm He says they are "too old". 16 and 14..... They are "older" I'll agree to that. But there is nothing going on in our area for kids this age to do. I'd rather they are with me, and going door to door, than sneeking out and toilet papering houses while I'm off with my adult friends getting plastered at some mascarade party. I work with his girlfriends Aunt. I have a bit of inside info. It's rediculous. |
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Title: Re: I'm fuming..... Post by Charlie on Oct 26th, 2006, 9:11pm Kids that age come here too. It's good that there are some older kids out there as well. Charlie |
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Title: Re: I'm fuming..... Post by TxBasslady on Oct 26th, 2006, 9:16pm Aw Pegg... You handled it wrong, hon. Be it they are "older", the story shoulda been they were gonna help supervise the other "younger" tots....to help out the other parents in the neighborhood. Practice makes perfect....LOL ;;D Jean |
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Title: Re: I'm fuming..... Post by kimmiedawn81 on Oct 26th, 2006, 9:20pm Hell, I'm 25 and if I had a costume I'd go trick or treating! |
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Title: Re: I'm fuming..... Post by maffumatt on Oct 26th, 2006, 9:20pm Thats a night for Kids, 14 and 16 are still Kids. What a prick. Matt |
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Title: Re: I'm fuming..... Post by Jonny on Oct 26th, 2006, 9:23pm Major prick!!!! |
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Title: Re: I'm fuming..... Post by Redd715 on Oct 26th, 2006, 9:26pm Jean, You have a very valid point. However, he'd never have believed that even if it were true. Hell, we got a letter from the White House this week about Meg being considered for the National Honor Roll Society, and he's calling it a scam. She's runing a 3.87 GPA for goodness sake. As a freshman. She's been in student counsel for 4 years. This year she is treasurer. She also writes a news column for the monthly publication of a teen newspaper that my company publishes. He's a paranoid control freak. His girlfriend has filled Megan's mind with ideas that she is fat and unattactive. They have steadily instilled an eating disorder in Dylan where he wakes and raids the pantry in the wee hours of the night. (called night eating syndrom) they "ration" food over there. Almost to a military standard. Its sick. |
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Title: Re: I'm fuming..... Post by chewy on Oct 26th, 2006, 9:27pm I'm squatting down and going as Batman this year. I love Snickers Bars. |
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Title: Re: I'm fuming..... Post by BB on Oct 26th, 2006, 9:35pm Usually ex hubbies do this sorts of things to get to the ex wives !! So best you dont show him its upsetting you , just go out with the kids and enjoy Halloween. I wish we have Halloween here in Australia, it would be the perfect excuse for me to ditch my serious work outfits to get into something more comfortable like a pumpkin patch and walk the neighbourhood with my boys. The children are with you, enjoy them and ignore him. He maybe punishing them for doing what kids do best : have fun! So you will just reward them double : let them have ALL the fun they can handle :) Dont get mad, get even ! Annette |
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Title: Re: I'm fuming..... Post by thebbz on Oct 26th, 2006, 9:42pm Pluckin plick! some peoples kids Need to TP his house. all the best jb |
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Title: Re: I'm fuming..... Post by Fredmyyster on Oct 26th, 2006, 10:03pm Later on that dude, cant you see whats happening here ? Gotta feel sorry for the guy as he is obviously trying to make up for a physical shortcoming. BOO !!! :o |
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Title: Re: I'm fuming..... Post by Redd715 on Oct 26th, 2006, 10:59pm You know you guys are the greatest.... I love you all..... I'm taking them both out tomorrow and getting costumes or face paints or whatever, and we will assist other parents. If Meg and Dyl get bags full of candy in the process, let the fucker complain, |
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Title: Re: I'm fuming..... Post by Carl_D on Oct 26th, 2006, 11:02pm on 10/26/06 at 21:42:12, thebbz wrote:
Agreed, though they should also set a bag full of shit on fire and ring his doorbell or knock. He'll come out and stomp it and... ;;D Sorry you have to deal with such an a$$h013 Pegg. Hugs, Carl |
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Title: Re: I'm fuming..... Post by cynjeep89 on Oct 26th, 2006, 11:06pm My dogs have some "presents" to put in the bag if ya need it...it's right out in my backyard... [smiley=laugh.gif] Hang in there, Lady!! We're here if ya need us!! |
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Title: Re: I'm fuming..... Post by andrewjb on Oct 26th, 2006, 11:20pm :). take little or no B/S ! your kids will see him for what he is in time. andrew. |
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Title: Re: I'm fuming..... Post by sandie99 on Oct 27th, 2006, 2:47am Pegg, I don't know if staying calm helps out with the ex-hubby, but it should help you when you deal with him. (I use that tactics with my family this very moment.) I'd say that if 14 and 16 are too old, your kids would know that themselves! i've heard parents tell their kids that they will not get their allowance, but never over something that ridiculous. I hope that everything works out fine in the end. best wishes, Sanna |
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Title: Re: I'm fuming..... Post by LeLimey on Oct 27th, 2006, 4:54am Well it doesn't really matter what we all think of him (and personally I think "prick is much too high a life form) what MATTERS is how he is making his kids look at him. The impression he is giving kids of how husbands and fathers behave. The feelings of worthlessness and rage that he is inspiring. What a truly considered approach from a caring human being - not. Pegg, the important thing here isn't trick or treating, or allowances or any of that stuff.. it is making sure your kids see all male role models aren't utter fucking scumbags like their dad. (And I won't apologise to anyone for swearing because my feelings here warrant it!) There are far more good men out there than bad ones, make sure they both know that! Helen |
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Title: Re: I'm fuming..... Post by rickyshot on Oct 27th, 2006, 11:04am AWWWW Carl stole my idea. |
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Title: Re: I'm fuming..... Post by JeffB on Oct 27th, 2006, 12:05pm What a butt munch! After 12 years the guy needs to get a life and work with you not against you! |
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