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(Message started by: big guy on Sep 21st, 2006, 6:49am)
Title: Bad time for my family
Post by big guy on Sep 21st, 2006, 6:49am
Please send some good vibes my way.
My ch cycle is being controlled pretty well but the side effects from the meds are making me a physical and mental wreck.(but that's another story)
Wednesday my wife was let go from her job. She is a graphic designer and has been at the same co. 11 years. The owner admited that she is the only reason the company stayed in business for several of those years, but now he can get someone for less money, but the real reason has to do with the other owner only wants people from his church to work there. I work at the same place so this is going to be very difficult. I may be next to go.
Luckily our insurance is in my name so we are not losing that yet, but only if I can keep from beating the shit out of these ass holes.
two thirds of our family income gone and I am not in the mental condition to deal with this in a rational way, although I do know many here are in much worse situations than I am.

Thanks for listening

Big Guy
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by brewcrew on Sep 21st, 2006, 7:09am
Wow, Big Guy. If that doesn't just suck the chrome off a trailer hitch. Sounds like this other owner is a regular practice what you preach type. Take refuge in the fact that the one thing he CAN'T do is change who you and your wife are. Make it your mission to prove this butthole wrong.

I don't know that there's much I can do for your situation except tell you that you and your family are family here. Whenever you need to rant, come here and do it. If you need advice, we're pretty good at that. If you just need a place to vent, we've got good ears, too. Hang in there, and keep us posted. After all, we're family.

Bill
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by alchemy on Sep 21st, 2006, 7:46am
sending vibes your way hope things get better
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by Mrs Deej on Sep 21st, 2006, 7:53am
[smiley=hug.gif]...hope he gets a flat tire going to work today!  :o  (Did I just say that?!)

Hang in there...everything in life happens for a reason and someone who will appreciate you and your wife's talents may be willing to give y'all a better opportunity!

Don't sell yourself short...they are the ones missin out!

:-*
Steph
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by Jonny on Sep 21st, 2006, 1:35pm
Hang in there, Big Guy......those pukes aint worth doing time for!

Vibes speeding your way!!!!
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by Paul98 on Sep 21st, 2006, 2:44pm
Hang in there BG.  The co-owner is a class A-shit!  Try to look at it as a new opportunity.  Sending vibes.

-P.
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by Charlotte on Sep 21st, 2006, 3:55pm
I'm sorry, big guy.  What kind of church is it?  If it isn't a cult, maybe you could join? 9Just kidding-sort of)

Hang in there.  I am sorry that they threw away a valuable person like your wife.  I know they will regret it.  Hopefully, she can get a job where people appreciate her.  

I'm sorry about the crap.  Tell her we love her.

Charlotte
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by Batch on Sep 21st, 2006, 4:50pm
Look at it as an opportunity.  Have your wife update her resume and paper the Job Wanted bbs with it.  A day shouldn't go by without calling for or about a position.  You can feel sorry and folks can (and will) send good vibes, but that will not bring in the bread.  Like CH, shit happens.  I've been there so know what its' like.  It's not easy but try like heck to make the most of it. The alternative is not acceptable.  I'm pulling for you and yours.  Max PF time to you.
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by Jonny on Sep 21st, 2006, 4:59pm

on 09/21/06 at 16:50:52, Batch wrote:
 You can feel sorry and folks can (and will) send good vibes, but that will not bring in the bread.


No, it wont bring the bread in, but it makes folks feel good that someone is thinking of them in thier time of need.  ::)
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by zwibbs/Scott on Sep 21st, 2006, 5:08pm

on 09/21/06 at 16:59:54, Jonny wrote:
No, it wont bring the bread in, but it makes folks feel good that someone is thinking of them in thier time of need.  ::)

                                                                                                                                                                                    I don't think that is what Batch meant---If you read the rest of Batch's post you would have seen that Batch was pulling for him.....It's not fair for you to to that to someone who has been there and done that .
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by Jonny on Sep 21st, 2006, 5:12pm

on 09/21/06 at 17:08:15, zwibbs/Scott wrote:
                                                                                                                                                                                    I don't think that is what Batch meant---If you read the rest of Batch's post you would have seen that Batch was pulling for him.....It's not fair for you to to that to someone who has been there and done that .


Oh sorry, Scott.....Ive never been there or done that  ::)

And I did read the huge post...all of it, I swear  ::) ::)
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by zwibbs/Scott on Sep 21st, 2006, 5:17pm
You're right Jonny----You've been there ( along with Chewy) --It  is sad that alot of people have stopped posting---I wonder why ?
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by Jonny on Sep 21st, 2006, 5:21pm

on 09/21/06 at 17:17:19, zwibbs/Scott wrote:
You're right Jonny----You've been there ( along with Chewy) --It  is sad that alot of people have stopped posting---I wonder why ?


Are you saying the people stop posting because of me and Chewy?

Are you?
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by JeffB on Sep 21st, 2006, 5:26pm
Hang tough buddy, things WILL get better. Good thoughts and a whole lotta vibes your way big guy.
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by deltadarlin on Sep 21st, 2006, 5:42pm
To your corners boys and stay there until you  can come out and apologize to big guy  for taking his thread and making it about *you* instead of him.

That being said....


on 09/21/06 at 06:49:42, big guy wrote:
The owner admited that she is the only reason the company stayed in business for several of those years, but now he can get someone for less money,


Okay, does your wife have any kind of contract with this company that would prevent her from contacting any of the businesses that use her *previous* employer for their grphic needs?  If she doesn't, she could always contact some of the customers that she has a good relationship with and try and freelance some work out.  She could freelance until something permanent came along.  

It's scary right now, been where you are.  Beat this before it even gets a chance to get you down.  Don't know if any of this will help, but it damned sure can't hurt.

http://www.indeed.com/q-Graphic-Designer-l-Tennessee-jobs.html

http://jobs.nytimes.com/js.php?pp=25&pbt=nytcategoryarts&cbt=Graphic%20Design;view=2;qlookidu=national (page 2)

Monster.com and numerous sites are available.  Good luck.

'darlin
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by chewy on Sep 21st, 2006, 6:21pm

Quote:
You're right Jonny----You've been there ( along with Chewy)


Hey Dick Weed

You want to get personal then take it to PM if ya got the sack.

(sorry about this Big Guy)
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by Charlie on Sep 21st, 2006, 8:20pm
Rats.

Sounds beyond shitty.

Maybe you can go after them where it hurts and can find some others will appreciate your take on this thing and steal some business.

Charlie
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by cootie on Sep 21st, 2006, 10:17pm
So sorry things are goin bad for ya's...........seems alot of people live on the edge anymore worryin about there jobs.....what ever happen'd to job security Pam

I hope things turn around for ya's !!!!!!

edit: cuz I spelled 'job' wrong......I need a vacation.........
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by Charlotte on Sep 21st, 2006, 11:26pm
Big guy, I'm gld to see so many people participating.  You know what we all mean, don't ya.  We love yo & your wife.  Things are crappy.  We don't want you to lose what you need, & we want this opportunity to work out for the very best, and we want your wife to know we are behind you.

No, that won't pay your insurance or put the food on the table, but it is a different kind of food offered, and we need all kinds.

How is your wife doing?

Charlotte
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by nani on Sep 22nd, 2006, 12:08am
Sometimes the worst things happen, only to have the best things happen afterward. It will work out. Sending "dream job" vibes and prayers, nani
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by georgej on Sep 22nd, 2006, 2:46am
Hang tough, big guy.  Hope things work out for the best for you both.  Sending good vibes to you from Idaho.

Here's hoping the rectors (not exactly the word, but close) at your place of employment discover just how asinine they've been.  May they develop persistent toenail fungus.  Divine retribution.  

Best wishes,

George  
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by big guy on Sep 22nd, 2006, 6:11am
WOW, Thanks  so much for all the good wishes. I know things will work out for the best, especially with all the encouragement from our family here. We stayed up late talking last night so I got hit with a kip 5 at 2am this morning but hey, the insurance is paying for the imitrex so the CH was "shot" away quickly.
As an update one of the companys largest customers allready sent our boss a "are you out of your mind" email and is threatening to pull all of their business. They and several other customers have contacted my wife to say we want to keep our business with you, not your former company. This may turn out to be the business opportunity we have dreamed of for a long time

Thanks again for all the encouragment, I can't express what it means to us.

Big guy
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by Melissa on Sep 22nd, 2006, 8:39am

on 09/22/06 at 06:11:15, big guy wrote:
This may turn out to be the business opportunity we have dreamed of for a long time

This is what I like to hear! ;;D

;)mel
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by georgej on Sep 22nd, 2006, 9:43am

on 09/22/06 at 06:11:15, big guy wrote:
They and several other customers have contacted my wife to say we want to keep our business with you, not your former company. This may turn out to be the business opportunity we have dreamed of for a long time


That's excellent news.  Glad to hear it.  Sounds like it could work out for the best after all.  

Best,

George
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by kcopelin on Sep 22nd, 2006, 11:42am
Excellent news.  Effective people are not problem-minded: they are opportunity-minded.  They feed opportunities and starve problems-looks like y'all got a chance to do just that in a big way.
Praying for PFDAN for you and a mega-business for your wife!
kathy
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by Carl_D on Sep 22nd, 2006, 6:10pm
Excellent news Big Guy...

Will still be sending out Big Vibes that everything pans out, and the beast leaves you alone like... NOW!

SHAZAM!!! Make it so!

Peace,
Carl D
Title: Re: Bad time for my family
Post by LeLimey on Sep 22nd, 2006, 6:45pm
I'm sorry to be late to this thread, I haven't been around much this week but good luk from me too Big Guy, I'm so pleased for you about your update and I too hope this is the start of a very bright future!
Helen


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