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(Message started by: Peppermint on Sep 5^th, 2006, 10:48am)

Title: Things Fall Apart
Post by Peppermint on Sep 5^th, 2006, 10:48am

This is the title of a book I read by Chinua Achebe in college, but the title is ringing in my head.

The recent passings and losses I have been reading about on this board, and in my life so recently have been resonating deeply.

I have been surrounded by loss; first my uncle/godfather/representative of the family, passes away. When I returned to work, my co-worker's father passed away. Then my supervisor's brother in law. Then the head of the division's father. Then last week my other co-worker's husband. It matters because I spend most of my waking hours at work. I practically live here. And I feel like the angel of death is touching everywhere I turn. My daughter is starting to be afraid that something will happen to me or my mom.

Then I read here about the recent losses, redd's family, then Svenn's, and now Ken, and again, I am so sorry for what you're going through.

The one thing I can think of, and is of little consolation, but serves a purpose, is that we can't take anything for granted. The loss of one person has an immeasurable effect. These recent events have made me realize that my family is one, first and foremost in my life (and not work) and my friends are precious to me. I haven't thought that way in a long time. until now when these losses have come so close.

I'd like to take a moment to appreciate all those who mean something to me here, those whom I appreciate in the smallest, or most distant way, and those whom I care about deeply. Thank you for the emails, the cards, the notes, the calls to check on me, to say hi or just because. I know I haven't done it enough recently, but I want to let you know that I think of you often, and that you are important.

You all are always in my prayers, prayers for your pain to stop, prayers for your family to be well, that you find a job, that you recover quickly if you're ill, that your newborn is doing well and gaining weight, that you find support where you wish it most, that you have removed yourself from a bad situation, that you're happy in your new marriage, that your children are healthy and happy, and that there's always someone to talk to when it really matters, so that things don't fall apart.

I don't post often, and it doesn't mean I don't care, I just don't want to take up space when there are other important things to talk about.

This is important to me, and I just wanted you to know.

Love,
Pep

Title: Re: Things Fall Apart
Post by zwibbs/Scott on Sep 5^th, 2006, 10:51am

Pep---You're right, family is where it's at. And you said it beautifully

Title: Re: Things Fall Apart
Post by Donna_D. on Sep 5^th, 2006, 11:03am

Sis,

I hope you know that you, too, are loved and appreciated for all that you do. That post is sooooo right on the money and I can tell it truly comes from your heart.

Give that little munchkin of yours a great big hug, get her off to school and try to hang in there.

You have always been my biggest supporter and if there is ever anything I can do to help you...you just say the word.

I love you.

DD

Title: Re: Things Fall Apart
Post by alchemy on Sep 5^th, 2006, 11:13am

Pep, what a nice post. I'm sitting here choked up from your ability to write whats in your heart. I'm sorry your heart has been breaking and I wish I could take it all away. Just know that you are never alone.
jim

Title: Re: Things Fall Apart
Post by seasonalboomer on Sep 5^th, 2006, 11:15am

Pep,

Thanks for the post. Thoughts of how important each moment is have been a big part of my days recently. And I've become more focused on how I approach each interaction I have with others. From family to coworkers, to acquiantances and friends. I've tried to be more "present" in everything I do and it's amazing what a difference it has had on my outlook.

I've got, what is likely to be, a tough year ahead of me with some family things going on. And you're right. Appreciating them now is important. Appreciating all those who have made an impact on your life is important.

And, it's all in the cycle that we're all part of I guess. It's all supposed to happen.

Scott

Title: Re: Things Fall Apart
Post by georgej on Sep 5^th, 2006, 11:22am

W.B. Yeats.

Things fall apart; the center cannot hold;
Mere anarchy is loosed upon the world,
The blood dimm'd tide is loosed, and everywhere
The ceremony of innocence is drowned;
The best lack all conviction, while the worst
Are full of passionate intensity.

I think we've always felt this way. It's in the nature of being human. Those of us who reach "a certain age" see the things and people we love crumble into dust while something new, unfamiliar and vaguely threatening takes its place. In time, those who remember us are gone, and all that remains is a photograph and a name, and eventually nothing at all. Like all of you, I've had my losses as well--my father's death two years ago still triggers remembrance, affection and regret--every day.

Family and friends are what matter to us while we're here. We have to treasure them, I believe, and keep them close as long as we can.

I'd like to join Pep in remembering some of those we've loved, or known, or know of who have gone. Just a moment of silence and respect.

Well said, Pep.

In memorium.

Best always,

George

Title: Re: Things Fall Apart
Post by The mad viking on Sep 5^th, 2006, 11:28am

Thanks Pep

This is so well written,sure makes you think of the value of life

No wonder we do LOVE you a LOT Pep

Svenn & Bente

Title: Re: Things Fall Apart
Post by JenniferD on Sep 5^th, 2006, 11:58am

That was beautiful.

Know that you are loved as well.

Hugs,
Jen

Title: Re: Things Fall Apart
Post by Bethany1 on Sep 5^th, 2006, 2:37pm

Pep, that was a great post. I miss ya tons and cant wait to see you again. We don't even live that far apart. We will have to do a girls weekend in New York City. :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-*

Title: Re: Things Fall Apart
Post by nani on Sep 5^th, 2006, 3:22pm

Te amo, hermana. {you know it took me hours to write that, right? ;) }
Your touching expression of love has brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for reminding us of the important things. And, thank you for being in my life.
I love you. BIG hugs, nani :-*

Title: Re: Things Fall Apart
Post by Langa on Sep 5^th, 2006, 3:54pm

Great Post Sis...I Love you and Miss you...

I think Beth has a good idea about that Ladies weekend in NYC... :-*

Langa

Title: Re: Things Fall Apart
Post by Ree on Sep 6^th, 2006, 12:05am

that was beautiful pep... life is weird now... it seems as if all the good people are leaving our grasp... but I'd like to think they are getting "New Life" ready for us all... Life is too big of a miracle for it to end when it ends.
It is so important to validate everyone in your life. I agree.... better days ahead.... might have to wait for Heaven to get them though.....love ree

ps I appreciate you.

Title: Re: Things Fall Apart
Post by Peppermint on Sep 6^th, 2006, 7:56am

You guys..
[smiley=hug.gif]

Title: Re: Things Fall Apart
Post by Jimi on Sep 6^th, 2006, 1:27pm

awwwwwwwwww....quit it.

Title: Re: Things Fall Apart
Post by cootie on Sep 6^th, 2006, 2:02pm

What's with all the tragidy stuff........cuz it is goin on all around us too here and really has me FREAKED OUT......I'm about ready to grab my cats and a couple of dogs and favorite jeans to find me a nice quiet deserted Island. I need a bad news break Pam

Title: Re: Things Fall Apart
Post by Charlie on Sep 6^th, 2006, 4:45pm

Zounds, Pep.

Not sure what that qualifies as but I liked it.

Stuff does seem to sneak up on us all at once sometimes.

Charlie