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Title: Inevitably some Nightmares come true (updated ) Post by Donna_D. on Aug 10th, 2006, 12:45pm I am a wreck. I just got off the phone with my ex mother in law who informed me her son--my psychotic ex and the kids dad, showed up at her house after being gone for over 2 years. The restraining order I had placed against him expired last month....I knew this was inevitable that he would surface again. He was outside the gate (being kept at bay by two large dogs) where the kids were outside playing. He hollered "Hi Kids, Daddy's back!" My ex mother in law looked up, saw it was him and immediately rushed the kids into the house and locked the door. My ex father in law went outside with the shotgun and held him there while mom in law called the police. He is in jail for the moment. The fact that he is back anywhere near me or my children scares the everlovingshit out of me. My mom is on her way to pick me up to go get the kids. I am too much of an emotional wreck to even think about driving. All I want to do is get to my kids and hold them. I feel so helpless. DD |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by nani on Aug 10th, 2006, 12:50pm Get a new restraining order, while he's in jail. If he wants to see the kids, let him get a lawyer and start proceedings... they never do. I'm pretty sure you don't have to let him near them otherwise. Be strong, DD... the CH superhero gang is ready to assemble at your call. hugs and love, nani |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by Racer1_NC on Aug 10th, 2006, 12:50pm Damn....... Time to go back to court for another order. Do what you have to do. Here if you need me.... Bill |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by georgej on Aug 10th, 2006, 12:54pm Sorry to hear about this, Donna. To begin with, try to get another restraining order in place. Shouldn't be difficult to do, since there's history here, and he's shown up again, and was jailed. A restraining order is certainly not a cure-all, but it seems to have helped for the past two years, according to what I'm hearing from you. Next step is to get an attorney and explore your options. If your kids' safety and your safety is at issue, you should have several. Good luck, and my sympathies are with you. No one should have to live in fear. Best wishes, George |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by kcopelin on Aug 10th, 2006, 1:02pm Donna, that sucks-yes you should get a new restraining order, listen I've been where you are-keep yourself and your kids safe okay. Do what you have to do. Will be praying for ya (yep I believe it helps sometimes) kathy |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by sandie99 on Aug 10th, 2006, 1:08pm Donna, Lots of vibes are on their way! I'm so sorry that bad news arrived on your doorstep. [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif] I pray that things will work out for the best for you and your children. Best wishes, Sanna |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by JeffB on Aug 10th, 2006, 1:14pm Sounds like this guy has issues (head problems). Be careful with this guy! |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by nani on Aug 10th, 2006, 1:30pm on 08/10/06 at 12:50:05, nani wrote:
Well, shit...I just tried on my uniform and it's a little, um, snug. http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v203/nani36/WonderWoman.jpg Is it OK if I come in my street clothes? ;) Just trying to get you to smile for a sec. :-* |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by LadyElaine1 on Aug 10th, 2006, 1:34pm Get the order Today! |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by Linda_Howell on Aug 10th, 2006, 1:47pm What everyone else said. and Donna? BREATHE. Take something to relax yourself so you can handle this. I can feel your fear, worry and stress all the way over here. huge hugs :-* |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by Ree on Aug 10th, 2006, 1:51pm the fact that his own mom doesnt want him around scares the shit out of me Donna.... prayin for you darlin..... love ree (who has been through this kinda stuff too) |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by Melissa on Aug 10th, 2006, 1:53pm I'm here for you Donna should ever you need anything. Remember, you have a worldwide network of badass clusterheads who can make life a living hell for anyone. ;) Stay strong sweets and you have my #. love, :)melly |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by zwibbs/Scott on Aug 10th, 2006, 1:56pm Being that the old " Order of Protection" just expired---coupled with the fact that he has reappeared--means that you will have NO PROBLEM getting a new one. And if he comes back yet again---he'll be in prison extremely fast...Do it right now !!! |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by alchemy on Aug 10th, 2006, 2:26pm Sorry about the bad news. Dallas isn't that far away, if need be call I can travel and I don't play well with others. |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by LeLimey on Aug 10th, 2006, 2:37pm Donna we're with you 100%.. get him sorted asap. Bastard. He no more wants to see the kids than my ex does (first one), this is mind games with you, simple. What a piece of dirt he is >:( |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by LadyLuv on Aug 10th, 2006, 3:47pm Donna Sweetie... As soon as you pick up your children, have your mother to take you directly to the Court House or where ever you need to go and get the Order of Protection reinstated immediately.. If his own mother called the police on him and his father holds him at bay with a shotgun, I diffently don't want him near you or your children. I'm Praying for you Sweetie... Peace & Blessings Lady Luv [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif] |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by Jasmyn on Aug 10th, 2006, 4:34pm Annie, I mean... Donna get your gun! Hang in there Girl.http://www.suite101.com/media/themes/animated/tbear.gif |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by thebbz on Aug 10th, 2006, 4:43pm :-/ Geez Donna your in Texas..take him out hunting and shoot him in the face.. [smiley=laugh.gif] [smiley=laugh.gif] [smiley=laugh.gif] [smiley=laugh.gif] Really, mean people suck and to have mental issues on top of it,better keep your powder dry. all the best jb |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by medic1852 on Aug 10th, 2006, 5:23pm Donna you know how to get a hold of me if you need to talk...I dont know what to say but am a great listener. Rodger ps check your pm's |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by BarbaraD on Aug 10th, 2006, 5:31pm DD Get a gun and keep it loaded. If he comes near you SHOOT him in self defense. I've seen what he can do to you and the kids.... does he know where you live this time? Maybe they'll keep him in jail for a while. He's NUTZ! Hugs BD |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by cootie on Aug 10th, 2006, 6:16pm Um...I don't know all the details about this guy but I take it he is BAAAAAAD NEEEEEEWS ??? Do the kids know to keep away from him.......would imagine so......yeah I'd go with a restraining order that says he has to live in Sibera Pam |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by TxBasslady on Aug 10th, 2006, 7:29pm Bless your heart :-* You've come a long way since gettin' rid of his a$$. Be kewl....and remember to breathe! At least you know where he is (for now), go ahead and get him on the child support too. Maybe his incarceration will be extended. Once a turd....always a turd! Much love to you....call me if you need too (at the lake). Jean |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by lionsound on Aug 10th, 2006, 7:44pm He's no match for you, Donna! You are so much stronger than him! Only cowards behave like he does. |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by broomhilda on Aug 10th, 2006, 9:07pm Bastard >:( Like everyone said, get that restraining order back in place and go hug those beautiful angels you have... We are all here for you, whatever you need... Big hugs from Canada |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by Jimi on Aug 10th, 2006, 9:11pm You have received good advice from all. The restraining order expires, he shows up. Shows that he still hasn't gotten the message. Keep us posted Donna and be careful. |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by Charlie on Aug 10th, 2006, 9:30pm You ain't the helpless type DD. I can't add much to the info posted here. Damned good advice. http://www.netsync.net/users/charlies/gifs/slap.gif More dogs can't hurt. http://www.netsync.net/users/charlies/gifs/dog chase.gif Charlie |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by Woobie on Aug 11th, 2006, 9:12am [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif] I'm sorry DD!! Keep your chin up & do what comes next....... |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by kimmiedawn81 on Aug 11th, 2006, 9:43am Please keep us posted.....we're worried. And we're here for you! |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by ShadowLord on Aug 11th, 2006, 9:50am DD... I'm on my way with the razor wire ya wanted... Now I don't think I heard ya quite right... Did ya say ya wanted him hog tied, or wanted his balls tied, with it? PFDAN...................................................... ShadowLrd |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by deltadarlin on Aug 11th, 2006, 5:13pm Donna, You have Jimbo's cell phone number, call him if need be. I'll pm you with mine. I know you're terrified of him, but, you can't let that stop you from doing what you need to do and that is take care of your kids and yourself. He knows that you're terrified of him and he is he will use this to his advantage. I know that you don't want a gun in the house and I'll probably agree with you here. If you've never used one and with two young kids in the house, now is not the time to get one. That being said, I don't have any young kids and between me and Jimbo, we have a nice little cache of weapons and ammo. Please, let either one of us know if there is ANYTHING we can do. Carolyn~aka~darlin |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by kevinpix on Aug 11th, 2006, 5:57pm Get your gun, get "legal", and shoot him where the sun don't shine! |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by Jonny on Aug 11th, 2006, 11:20pm Come on DD, lets have a fucking update!!!! |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true Post by Donna_D. on Aug 11th, 2006, 11:58pm on 08/11/06 at 23:20:45, Jonny wrote:
The kids and I are safe and with family. Don't want to advertise where...just in case. The ex is in jail at the moment and I have contacted the Denton County Sheriffs Department to let him know that he is in custody(he has warrants in Denton County)...I can only hope that they will extradite him and make him serve out that time as well. As soon as the initial protective order ran out I contacted the District Attorneys office to find out if I could get an extension. At that time they said "No". I placed a call to them today and am waiting on a callback from the attorney who initally handled my case. She knows what a bastard he really is and has his case file to prove it. I am on top of it...trust me. When I posted yesterday I was in a sheer panic...a lot of bad bad memories came flooding back. Fact is, despite it all and how far I have come, that asshat still evokes fear in me. Guess some things take longer to heal than others :-/ . I'm sorry I haven't posted before now. Life has been a whirlwind and honestly I have been trying to avoid a complete and total nervous breakdown. I was not prepared, or at least as prepared as I thought I was for my ex to show up in town. Coupled with quitting my job and worrying about paying my bills and supporting my kids and buying school clothes and so on and so on and so on...CALGON TAKE ME AWAY!! The good news is that I went on the second job interview today. It looks promising. 6k a year more than what I was making and full benefits if I get offered the job. I interviewed with two different people for a total of two hours and they have asked me to send samples of my business writing to them...I take this as a good sign. There is more than one position open and I feel certain that I will be offered a job. Pray for me...I need it. The ex boss finally paid me all the back pay she owes me...I think fear of retribution did the trick ;) So I got the rent paid and made my car payment and have a little left over until the unemployment kicks in to gear. I think I am going to be ok. For anyone who tried to call me on my cell phone you might have figured out that it is not working. That is because it was property of the old company. She had it shut off before I ever even got home after quitting. I am working on getting a new cell number and will know something in a couple of days. For anyone who doesn't have my home number and you need to get in touch with me...email is the best bet right now. I am checking it multiple times daily dd.ouch@gmail.com Thank you all for your unending support and genuine care and concern. I love you all!! I will be checking in as often as possible. DD |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true (updated Post by E-Double on Aug 12th, 2006, 12:07am :-* |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true (updated Post by Jimi on Aug 12th, 2006, 12:51am :-* :-* |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true (updated Post by Tom K on Aug 12th, 2006, 1:12am Rock on DD. If you need anything, you know how to get in touch with me. :-* |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true (updated Post by maffumatt on Aug 12th, 2006, 1:37am From me and mine to you and yours, be safe, be well, and know you have lots and lots of friends. Matt |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true (updated Post by georgej on Aug 12th, 2006, 1:46am All the right moves, Donna. :) Best, George |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true (updated Post by LeLimey on Aug 12th, 2006, 7:48am DD I know just how you feel, my biggest fear is having my first ex come back. I saw someone who was the spitting image of him not so long ago and I got so scared I ended up being sick. You think you move on, I HAVE moved on - but that fear comes right along with us. The only consolation I have is I know if (When) he did/does turn up he won't know I'm scared because I can be so gobby! We're with you always, you know where we all are. Just keep us updated as you can. lots and lots of love Helen |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true (updated Post by unsolved1 on Aug 12th, 2006, 2:59pm That sucks ! Time for a new restraining order DD. Get it soon plz !! I won't let my kids mom around him either unless I'm standing right there. It's alot different in my case though. I don't need a restraining oder. The X already knows I'll headbutt her and anyone with her if she were ever to start any stuff !! All of her husbands and boyfriends have been scared of me [smiley=laugh.gif] They all know better than to skrew with us !! Goodluck DD UNsolved |
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Title: Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true (updated Post by Linda_Howell on Aug 12th, 2006, 5:01pm Quote:
If you need letters of reccomendation I know several hundred people who will be glad to oblige. ;) |
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