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(Message started by: cootie on Jul 26^th, 2006, 10:03pm)

Title: senseless stupid vent
Post by cootie on Jul 26^th, 2006, 10:03pm

Friend of mine about lost his leg in an accident a year ago and got his leg broke and big chunk of bone tore out they ended up getting back in place and went thru SEVERAL surgeries and had the halo on his leg for months !!!! He's a real big guy mid 50's and not very active and WAS a heavy smoker. Anyhow.....it's been almost a year now exactly and he has a regular cast on and back to work just doin desk work fineally !!! He doesn't get around very well tho and so winded if he tries to walk 10 foot is it scarey. He quit smokeing of course. All in all his leg is supposidly healing up.....he's had ALOT of pain tho the past month. And he can't get back into see his doc till the next apt which was over a month away......so he waited and kept tryin to walk sum. So he goes to his apt yesturday to find out his leg is rebroken......if they'd of takein him in sumhow a month ago they'd of maybe caught it earlier but they said the docs office is STRICT about apt dates. That is such BULLSHIT !!! So now the guy is on bed rest and can't go to work and needs taken care of hand and foot until they schedule new surgery to put in plates and bolts and screws I think they should of done in the first place. Obvious the guy is big.....and out of shape and not tip top health wise for it to heal STRONG as needed with a break that bad. If the plates and all don't work and more infections set in like what he dealt with before they will take the foot fromt he ankle down !! I think alot of things were handled wrong here.....senseless long time pain and agony and then they find out it isn't strong enuff to hold. Sheesh.....thanks for listening. Non healing Pam

We were with the friend when he got into the accident and been watching him go thru all the fazes to get better and now this.............. :'(

Title: Re: senseless stupid vent
Post by Jonny on Jul 26^th, 2006, 10:16pm

Sucks to be you, and I mean that!

When some elses problems become mine I walk away fast, but thats just me.

No one can help everybody.

Title: Re: senseless stupid vent
Post by TxBasslady on Jul 26^th, 2006, 10:33pm

Don't listen to Jonny... ::)

He has been known to take on other's problems before...and he knows it...LOL ::)

Sorry bout your friend, Pam...looks like maybe the doc screwed up....I mean if he had surgery and all, evidently the surgery didn't work.

I'll always listen to 'ya....lots of vibes to your friend.

Love ya,

Jean

Title: Re: senseless stupid vent
Post by cootie on Jul 26^th, 2006, 11:08pm

My friends problems AREN'T mine......but this is sumthin that happen'd to sumeone close and we've been there thru alot of it with him......were a tight group I guess but we've had BBQ's at there house to show our support and hang out and yuck it up since he can't get out much yet and Brad and friends even built his wheelchair ramp and revamped his bathroom shower so he could use it with his handicap. We all put on a benifiet for them and even helped mow and go fix things when needed. It's not a problem for me what he is going thru......it's witnessing sumthing that could happen to any of us that scares me Pam

Ps: Um.....why does it suck to be me ? I didn't get that part.........oh well........whatever........

Title: Re: senseless stupid vent
Post by Jonny on Jul 26^th, 2006, 11:14pm

Sorry Pam, I must have misunderstood.

Title: Re: senseless stupid vent
Post by cootie on Jul 26^th, 2006, 11:28pm

That's cool dear.....wonder'd why ya said that.......I was jus pondering on how bad shit has fazes and when the fazes are fineally about over and yer crawln outa that hole it can all go back to the tragic start in a flash. I think plates and pins and bolts would of been a better FIRST choice. Was jus makein an observation......sorry for my ramblings Pam

Love ya !!!!

Title: Re: senseless stupid vent
Post by TxBasslady on Jul 26^th, 2006, 11:31pm

on 07/26/06 at 23:14:53, Jonny wrote:

Sorry Pam, I must have misunderstood.

That's an understatement....Jonny :-*

Now don't be hurtin' Pam's feelin's...ya hear :-*

J

Title: Re: senseless stupid vent
Post by Sean_C on Jul 26^th, 2006, 11:34pm

He's in a kinda shitty spot pam, not much you can do other than support him, which it obviously sounds like your doing :)

Keep us posted, hopefully all will work out for the best.

Sean.................................. :)

Title: Re: senseless stupid vent
Post by Ree on Jul 27^th, 2006, 1:12am

I will say a prayer for your buddy and send you lots of lovin vibes and thoughts too... you are a sweetie. This is not a senseless stupid vent... its a much deserved vent for someone wondering why do bad things happen to good people..... tell him keep up the good work with the non smokin thing..... love ree

Title: Re: senseless stupid vent
Post by Carl_D on Jul 27^th, 2006, 3:16am

It seems like some doctors are only to happy to put a band aid on a gunshot wound, and then people needlessly suffer. Sorry to hear your friend is going through this. Ditto what Ree said; he's in my prayers.

Peace,
Carl D

Title: Re: senseless stupid vent
Post by Kirk on Jul 27^th, 2006, 4:24am

Poor sucker is in my prayers overhere. Really kewl that yer all there fer him.
Please be well [smiley=smokin.gif]

Title: Re: senseless stupid vent
Post by BarbaraD on Jul 27^th, 2006, 5:53am

Sorry Pam. What kind of doc doesn't follow up? And I agree that having to wait to see him was BS!

Hope he does ok. Just try to keep his spirits up and don't let him go into a depression -- that's not good for anyone.

A friend of mine had a brain tumor and had chemo. She lost all her hair. Everyone was sympathizing with her and really getting her depressed. I found her some really gawdy earings and a crystal ball and told her she could start a new profession - a fortune teller. Needless to say, she got a laugh out of it, but she cheered up.

Hope he does ok and is back DOING the BBQ soon. Ya'll hang in there and keep helping him. That's what friends are for.

Hugs BD

Title: Re: senseless stupid vent
Post by Summerbabe on Jul 27^th, 2006, 9:05am

;)Coots, aww honey that blows!!! sorry for your friend and his doc sounds like an idiot. I think part of the problem of your friend healing is the docs fault. Your friend does need to shed the weight in order to heal correctly and god bless him for trying and quitting the butts. You sound like a gem of a friend my sweet. Brad too. Another doctor, orthopedic specialist should be in your friends corner . Especially with the possibility of amputation. :(. Good lord he is in my prayers...You are a true friend..god bless you..All my best , Summer 8)

Title: Re: senseless stupid vent
Post by Dragnlance on Jul 27^th, 2006, 9:12am

It is always so frustrating when your friends get hurt, don't get the best quality help, and there is nothing you can do.
sending prayers and vibes to your friend to get better.

Dragn

Title: Re: senseless stupid vent
Post by cootie on Jul 27^th, 2006, 11:34am

Thank you guys.......the SUPPORT felt goooooood ! Ya know....I'm just questioning a specialist special ways and how we are led in a docs direction of healing and routine when maybe other avenues should of been consider'd or ADDED !? This doc that saved his leg invented the halo device for legs and limbs to save them. But I question'd the strength of the healing from the start considerin the guys health and weight and size. And I also question wether the family was aggressive enuff when this pain started back up to GET HIM IN EARLY verses sit back and submit to the doctors office rules of WAIT till it's your turn. Would think if they KNEW it was rebroke they'd of taken him in early ? Brad told the wife a few times to GET HIM IN EARLY but she said oh no......the office has strict rules on that !!!! I dunno......I brought this up to question docs techniques and a patients aggressiveness to also do the same and to push for an early visit if sumthin seems wrong even if ya piss em off. Who's rite who's wrong YOU LOOSE Pam

Yeah we been takein care of the guy when we can doin stuff as a group and fixin stuff when we can......nuther friend got hurt and the guys went over and cleaned up storm damage for him cuz he can't do it and had a mess. Gets to be a pain sumtimes when ya got yer own stuff to tend to but what goes around comes around also.....and a friend in need is a friend in deed.

Sorry if this s comein across as a whine.......we need more education in our own care options sumtimes I guess.

Title: Re: senseless stupid vent
Post by alchemy on Jul 27^th, 2006, 11:47am

Pam, you're not whining just pissed. I'm trying to understand why the family just said oh we can wait because of the doc offices rules. to me that's crazy. with the damage he had done and pain was developing later on it's an issue to be addressed immediately. The offices may have rules but they can be broken, if not there's the ER where it could have been addressed then. Better than amputation. just my 2cents. sorry about your friend.
jim

Title: Re: senseless stupid vent
Post by LadyLuv on Jul 27^th, 2006, 5:10pm

Cootie.. sorry to hear about your FRIEND..

It sounds like he's having it pretty rough,,

I will be Praying not only for your friend, but also for you.

I don't know your friend, but I know that you hate to see him hurting (metally & physically), just as we hate to see you hurting.. I'm here for you Sweetie...

Let us know how he's doing

Peace & Blessings
Lady Luv