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Title: It has to be done... Post by Donna_D. on Jul 24th, 2006, 9:16pm I made a HUGE decision in my life today. As of Friday, I am quitting my job...and no, I don't have another lined up...YET. Many of you who have known me over the last three years know how my boss has a habit of not paying me on time. I have had a belly full for quite awhile now, but needed to get through convention to insure I had the time off to attend. Since I have been back from convention, things have gotten worse..much worse. Today was the final insult. I went into her office to discuss getting paid. My "boss" then proceeded to ATTEMPT to belittle me into what I can only call "submission". She had the NERVE to tell me that if it weren't for her I would not have made it through the last two years and that SHE was the only reason I was making it today. THEN...this is the kicker... she told me that she felt I had not changed one bit since I left my ex and that I was still basically a doormat for people to walk upon!! It was in that moment of clarity that I realized...the ONLY person walking on me in my life now....IS HER!!!!!!!!!! SO, short story long...I am doing something I have never done before. I am quitting one job without first having another lined up. I do have a good lead on a temp service where I can get work as early as next week and that should tide me over until I can get the job I WANT instead of just ANY job. I returned from convention, envigorated and empowered and feeling pretty damn good about life and I will be DAMNED if she is going to try to rob me of that by making me feel inferior. Those of you who REALLY know me, know why I am posting this...No looking back now. Thanks for the ear and send some "find a good job quick" vibes my direction. (I have already applied for a few that I would love to have, I am just waiting on some callbacks...so I have faith in me and my skill set that it won't be long before I post about my new position and how happy I finally am) DD |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by Grandma_Sweet_Boy on Jul 24th, 2006, 9:20pm Sometimes we just have to do what we have to do and damn the consequences. I'm sure you didn't just snap your fingers and make this decision. It sounds like you've been giving it some thought for quite a while. Where I'm from - what happened to you would be considered constructive dismissal and you'd have a good case for the Courts! Good luck in finding what you're looking for. You have a lot to offer a prospective employer and I'll bet you will have a new job before you know it. Please keep us posted. Carol |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by Linda_Howell on Jul 24th, 2006, 9:20pm Good decision Donna. You will be happier and "they" will have lost a great asset. I want to be 1st. in the cheering section. I just need to find my pom poms..I think Mast stole them. Linda |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by Melissa on Jul 24th, 2006, 9:22pm GOOD FOR YOU DONNA!!!! No more taking CRAP from that bitch!!! I am behind you 110% in whatever you decide you want to do! I love you and you are worth SO much better hon!!! Good on ya for taking your life back!! ;;D :Dmelly |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by Woobie on Jul 24th, 2006, 9:23pm You will be better off Donna............ You will find something better... HIGH FIVE to YOU! LMAO woobs :-* |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by Not4Hire on Jul 24th, 2006, 9:25pm call me dubble D....... |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by Woobie on Jul 24th, 2006, 9:27pm HI NOT4!~~~!!!! ;;D |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by john_d on Jul 24th, 2006, 9:28pm I will tell you, you did a great job as president of OUCH. Since you took that job, I have seen a significant improvement in participation, the web site, the newsletter and now what looks like a great convention. It's the result of a good team but it takes a good leader to facilitate and allow it to happen. I hope you find a great job that allows you to fulfill your obvious potential and rewards you for it. Please go into the interviews with the confidence that they would be lucky to have you. I mean this sincerely. Good luck. |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by brewcrew on Jul 24th, 2006, 9:29pm You go, girl! I did this once. Quit a job as director of copyrights at a music publisher because the president was asking me to ignore certain details of writers' and arrangers' contracts in order to save the company money. I quit on the spot without anything else lined up. Here's the encouraging part: I was working full-time in a completely different field within 2 weeks. You can do that to, Donna. Talented people like you don't stay dormant very long. Pat and I will be having good thoughts for you. Knock 'em dead, Bill |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by alchemy on Jul 24th, 2006, 9:35pm Good for you! better things are coming your way |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by Ree on Jul 24th, 2006, 9:35pm Me too Donna and if you think of a cool on line business Im workin for you...... I'm not gettin naked though..... ok As of Sept 1......IMMMMMMMMMM UNEMPLOYED...... and broke.....LOLOLOL...... Good luck Donna...... YOU will be great..... ree |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by stevegeebe on Jul 24th, 2006, 9:38pm "Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced" - James Baldwin Steve G |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by TxBasslady on Jul 24th, 2006, 10:24pm YEEHAW !!! ;;D You go girl!!! :-* Really glad to hear you took the big step. She seemed to have a real problem paying her employees. With your talent, you'll get another real quick. I love ya, Jean |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by broomhilda on Jul 24th, 2006, 10:26pm Your courage and bravery never ceases to amaze me, you go and we are right behind and beside you rooting for you! I am proud of you! As Woobie said HI FIVE!!! |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by Jimi on Jul 24th, 2006, 11:17pm Quote:
And I do too. Does she not know that she had the President of OUCH working for her? You are an amazing woman Donna and I am glad you walked out on her. I will be anxious to hear about your new job and how happy you are with it. Jimi |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by Edna on Jul 24th, 2006, 11:58pm Donna, I think what you did was indeed admirable. My sister just did the same thing a few months ago after working a job for over 30 years. Her health was more important than putting up with all the BS they dished out there. Stress was getting to her and we were hating who she had become. So, I think you've made a wise choice and applaud your courage. Keep us posted and know we're behind you. hugs, EDNA |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by Donna_D. on Jul 25th, 2006, 1:57am For anyone else who is curious, it was about a year ago that I temporarily had a "new boss"...I started working for a DME company called Atlas Providers that officed with my "old" boss to save money and I was actually getting paid on a regular basis for a while. Then my old boss basically railroaded the "new" boss out of there and the guy I was working for literally walked away from the business and signed over all interests to my "old" boss who then once again became my "new" boss. Atlas Providers officially closed it's doors on 01/01/2006 and that is when the paychecks started bouncing again. Lots of people who have kept up with me through PM's and phone calls will tell you the same. Hope that explains it all.... And to the person who PM'd me regarding this...hope that satisfies your curiosity. Thank you all for your kind words of support. I just completed my resumee and plan to hit the phones tomorrow and start networking for a new position. DD |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by Woobie on Jul 25th, 2006, 2:05am on 07/24/06 at 21:28:21, john_d wrote:
I agree............... you dont need the stress she puts on you... you can get a better job where you're appreciated. Good luck Donna... ^5 woobs |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by Mastifflvr28 on Jul 25th, 2006, 2:27am Good Job Donna, Good luck vibes going up to you! Take care, Mast |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by BlueMeanie on Jul 25th, 2006, 2:34am Donna, hope you find a job very quickly. Knowing your skills, I don't think it should be much of a problem. Good luck job hunting vibes heading your way. |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by sandie99 on Jul 25th, 2006, 2:43am Donna, that desicion took guts. I'm proud of you! :) Now, here's some (((((vibes))))) coming your way. I agree: a better job is waiting for you and I hope that it finds you real soon. Best wishes, Sanna |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by LeLimey on Jul 25th, 2006, 3:45am Good luck Donna, any employer will be lucky to have you and that low down bottom feeder will be hard pushed to replace you too which is even sweeter! One thing I would urge you to do is see if you have any legal recourse as it sounds awfully like constructive dismissal to me as well as to Carole [smiley=hug.gif] Love you lots hon Helen xxx |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by purpleydog on Jul 25th, 2006, 5:01am Congratulations DD, for taking this step. I'm not sure what the unemployment laws are like in Texas, but it seems to me you may have some recourse to collect it while looking for a new job. I'm sure they would be very interested in hearing about you not getting paid. So would the local labor board. You are very talented, and I'm sure you will have no problems finding another position in no time. I'm sure you will have plenty of offers, so you can pick the best one for you. Good luck! |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by Dixiedelight on Jul 25th, 2006, 10:46am When one door closes another one opens, it will all work out and working where your not happy is not good. You did what was best ! |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by nani on Jul 25th, 2006, 11:00am Way to go, girl! You surely don't need that stress. Sometimes, things work out exactly the way they're supposed to. I'm positive that there is a better job out there...just waiting for you to find it. I'll send prayers that you find it quick. love ya, nani |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by Mattrf on Jul 25th, 2006, 11:23am Donna way to go standing up for yourself, I think that most of us have had a boss we hated and that treated us poorly and made going to work a real challenge. My last job while I had a good boss really sucked and I hated going to work. I sat back one day and looked at all my past jobs and zeroed in on the ones that I truly was happy at and realized that the jobs I liked the best was when I was helping people, I am a computer guy and have had jobs working for hospitals and those I found where the most rewarding since I was keeping the systems the doctors use to help people up and running. Now I am working for a medical research center at Stanford University and loving the fact that I am helping people that are trying to help people on a global scale. So my advice to you is search your past and decide on what jobs made you feel the most fulfilled and zero in on that job market, you work so many hours in your life and doing it in an unfulfilling job is not the way to go. My wife is in a job she hates but wont leave until the kids are out of school since her benefits are really good but I hate to see her so unhappy with her job, so my wish to you is that you find a job in the field you want and that it be a fulfilling job that truly makes you happy. Best wishes and good job hunting vibes coming your way. Matt |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by Charlie on Jul 25th, 2006, 9:16pm Nice going Donna. http://www.kolobok.wrg.ru/smiles/he_and_she/hysteric.gif?SSImageQuality=Full One thing I do know is that you're gonna do just fine. Charlie |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by maffumatt on Jul 25th, 2006, 9:41pm new beginnings have a way of turning out to be just right thing at the right time. Good luck and congrats............ Matt |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by Tim_w on Jul 25th, 2006, 9:54pm Donna It took me 30 years to get tired of being shit on :-/ But look at me now, Iam happier then I have ever been ;;D If I can turn my life around so can you! I'll be PRAYING for you Remember you can do anything you are a clusterhead!!!! Love ya TimW Happy Pappy |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by Tom K on Jul 25th, 2006, 10:26pm ABFT! You don't know how many times I wanted to drive down there and kick the crap out of that woman! Good for you and I know that things will work out. Let her scramble to find someone who will deal with her crap. |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by Peppermint on Jul 25th, 2006, 10:55pm on 07/25/06 at 22:26:32, Tom K wrote:
Tom, don't get me started. This woman (not you DD), has got cojones the size of my head. THe NERVE. DD, you have a lot of talent, and think on you're feet, even when you're sitting. ;;D I'm glad you are motivated to get the hell out of there, people like that leech onto someone like you and sooner or later suck the life outta them. You really should take her ass to the cleaners, after all the crap she's managed to squeeze by you. Good move D. Just do your best, there'll be no stopping you. Rock on woman [smiley=headbanger.gif] Pep |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by E-Double on Jul 25th, 2006, 11:19pm Good luck Bubble head chickie, The greatest things that I have accomplished in life have come about by jumping in head first and without looking back. Sometimes ya just have to jump! In the long run it will make for a better life for you and your family. Hugs to a lady with mad flavah ;) ;;D |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by Mrs Deej on Jul 25th, 2006, 11:29pm YOU GO GIRL!!!! You deserve better...they'll kick themselves for letting it come to this! Good luck in making your dreams come true!! You are in charge of your destiny...get-r-done sister! Lucky vibes your way sweetheart! |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by Jackie on Jul 26th, 2006, 4:49pm Hell....I don't worry about you (much... ;)) You've been down rougher roads and managed just fine.....give 'em hell, kiddo... Love ya, Jackie |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by Sandy_C on Jul 26th, 2006, 5:22pm Donna, from what I saw at Milcon, and the person I met there, you are a "doer",. You see what needs to be done, and you make it happen. You'll land on your feet, and will triumph! You go girl! I'm with you all the way. Sandy |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by Bethany1 on Jul 26th, 2006, 7:16pm Wow DD, what a biotch. Good for you, take a stand! Life is just to damn short. Good luck girlie! |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by Yorky on Jul 26th, 2006, 7:29pm good on you,girl we are all equals.........but i wish you had slapped the jumped up bitch |
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Title: Re: It has to be done... Post by Jasmyn on Jul 26th, 2006, 7:40pm DD, you don't even have to worry! You have what it takes. Great stuff, chin up and weapons ready, you GO Girl! [smiley=headbanger.gif] [smiley=bigguns.gif] |
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